I was out with some friends last week and the conversation turned to why I was drinking a perrier and lime and not a Guinness. I explained that I was working towards some fitness goals for the summer and that part of that meant being more vigilant about my diet. My friend said something that echoed comments that have been posted under my videos – he said “why does it matter to you – you are already married.” I was so surprised by this that the only think I could offer back was “believe me it matters”.
But why does it matter? I told Zuzana about this conversation later and she told me that she knows a lot of married women who have said similar things – things along the lines of – “I don’t have to workout – thats not why my husband is with me.” Another couple we know were so jealous that they basically agreed that neither one of them would workout for fear that in doing so they would become more attractive and loose each other.
The idea that it doesn’t matter anymore because you are married, or past a certain age or because your a mother or a father – no matter what the excuse – it’s really just about giving up on life. I think we all have the responsibility to be the best version of ourselves that we can – no matter what. This is especially true if your in a relationship, because staying attractive for your partner is a vital part of your responsibility in making sure the relationship works over the long haul.
People seem to use any number of life’s rights of passage as an excuse to stop living to their full potential. When I turned 30 people started telling me that 30 was when guys start to get fat – like it was an automatic reaction I would have no control over. It’s like this belief that you can’t possibly be in shape if your a mom – or that somehow being married means you should just give up and let go of your fitness and appearance. Yes marriage is suppose to be forever – but wouldn’t you rather spend the rest of your life having sex with someone you are actually attracted to and vice versa?
I’ve been floating this theory around lately that everything is just about energy. Everything is a reflection of how much you are putting into life. The state of your body is perhaps one of the most accurate measurements of this energy – so no matter where you are in life’s journey  – a mom or dad, married or single – 30 or 13 the quality of your life should always matter and reflect the best version of you possible. That’s why I ordered the perrier.

Best,
Frederick