Jun 30 2011

Booty Shaping Workout

Hi BodyRockers,

Freddy here… I wanted to talk today about kids, and ask you guys to share your thoughts and opinions about something that a close friend of ours told us. This person has been friends with Zuzana and I for years and she is a woman in her early 40′s with 2 boys in their teens. You guys will need some background info here – this woman, let’s call her Madge, is one of the nicest people you could ever meet. She is extreamly well educated, professionally successful, warm and funny. In short she is the type of person you would welcome to have in your life as a friend. She has 2 wonderful children who are both bright and well manered. Madge is also married to a great guy who is a wonderful father. Now here comes the curve ball… she told us not to waste the better part of our youth on having children. She explained that she loved her children deeply and cherrished them, but if she had to make the choice again, she would likely choose not to be a parent. She also said that she would deny having said this to the day she died, but then gave us permission to share this story as long as we didn’t use her real name. Madge told us that having kids changes your life so completely that you can’t even begin to grasp the full extent of the commitment required. Her advice – enjoy our lives and our freedom – forget about having kids.

Just to clarify – Zuzana and I were not planning on starting a family anytime soon, but we always like to hear from friends and family who have kids or who are planning on starting a family. For some reason this conversation really rocked us hard. We have kept coming back to it and finally we just decided to share it with you guys. For us having kids was always something that we had planned on – but to hear someone argue against it – someone who already has a wonderful family – I guess it was just something that we never expected to hear. I realize that there are a lot of issues on the table here, and maybe it had such an impact because we really didn’t expect this kind of advice from this person, but I wanted to open it up to you guys for your opinion.

Maybe you guys can think about this and share your thoughts in the comments – but only after you do your workout! :)

Enjoy your training!

Freddy

Workout Breakdown

Time: 12min.Workout Type: Interval Circuit TrainingExercises: 3
  • Commando Push Upmax. reps
  • Sandbag Squat & Push Kickmax. reps
  • Single Knee Tuckmax. reps

Get your gear for this workout here:

Instructions:

This workout is exactly 12 minutes l0ng interval circuit training. Set your Interval Timer for 18 rounds of two intervals. The first interval is 10 seconds (rest interval) and the second interval is 30 seconds long (max. effort interval). There are 6 rounds of 3 exercises that you will be doing in a circuit and your goal is to complete as many reps for each exercise as possible. The workout flow will look like this:

10 seconds rest

1. Commando Push Ups (my reps – 14, 14, 12, 11, 10, 9)

10 seconds rest

2. Sandbag Squat and Push Kick (my reps – 15, 13, 12, 13, 13,13)

10 seconds rest

3. Single Knee Tuck (17, 15, 15, 14, 15, 14)

Watch the video above till the end to see the explanation of each exercise and eaisier variations for beginners. Enjoy your workout and try to beat my reps! :)

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  • Miss Rebecca

    Just un-liked this page because the video has been removed, and there are not even pictures and descriptions to remind me what the exercises look like.  I would have shared the page on my facebook profile as well; I share a link for my workout every day, which introduces new people to brtv every single day.  But there really is no reason to share this page with any of my facebook friends when there is no workout here for them to see.  I appreciate all of the hard work you continue to do, but for those of us that regularly go back to the older workouts, this site gets worse and worse every single time one of these older videos is removed.  I am a very loyal person, but after three years of bodyrocking with you guys, I feel like I might be ready to bail..  :-(

  • farlos

    Just finished this one.

    Scores:

    1)  12, 11, 9, 12, 8, 11
    2)  11, 11, 12, 12, 11, 12
    3)  13, 12, 11, 12, 12, 15

    Finished with 1000 skips in 10 mins.

  • http://www.makavelina.cz Nina_CZ

    Revisited this workout today! Just randomly chose it :) Great one!!!
    Did 500x Jumprope HIghknees before it again, this time in 3:25 :) and my score for the workout is:
    1) Commando PU: 13-8-8-9-8-8
    2) Squat + Kick: 15-15-13-13-14-14
    3) Single Knee Tuck: 12-11-11-11-10-10 :) )) Sweating like crazy!

  • http://www.facebook.com/kendra.oberhauser Kendra Lee Oberhauser

    Did this yesterday!  My boyfriend is BR’ing with me now.  Yesterday we barely had time to workout, and he wanted to not work out, but I was a BodyRocker, and was like, Come ON!  We can do 12 minutes!  So we did this one because it’s simple.

    sb squat and push kick: 17-16-16-15-16-15
    one knee tuck: 19-17-16-17-16-13
    commando push up: 16-15-14-12-11-11

  • http://exercisefoodpoo.wordpress.com Luke Says No

    My Score:
    15 X 10/30 – 10 mins
    COMMANDO PUSH UP: 16, 13, 11, 11, 13
    SANDBAG SQUAT & PUSH KICK: 16, 16, 15, 15, 17
    SINGLE KNEE TUCK: 44, 38,41, 42, 47

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Alana-Stacy/698175600 Alana Stacy

    Starting a new, awkward late night shift at work for the next 16 days.. So I’m doing a late workout! This one! I’ll do the new one tomorrow! :D

    Commando pushups: 12, 9, 10, 10, 10, 10
    Sandbag squat and push kit: 11, 13, 13, 12, 12, 13
    Single knee tuck: 13, 13, 12, 11, 13, 13

    Not bad for just getting into the routine of things again! did an extra burpee for Erin, too! How is she, by the way! I hope she’s doing well!

    Shoulder is a little sore… gotta take it easy!

  • http://exercisefoodpoo.wordpress.com Luke Says No

    My Score:
    18 x 10/30 = 12 minutes
    COMMANDO PUSH UP: 12, 9, 11, 10, 10, 10
    SANDBAG SQUAT & PUSH KICK: 13, 13, 14, 14, 14, 14
    SINGLE KNEE TUCK: 15, 22, 22, 23, 24, 27

  • Jenn

    I did this today because it has no jumping and my annoying leg injury is not done healing yet.  Here are my scores:

    Commando Push Ups: 13, 10, 12, 11, 10, 10
    Sandbag Squat & Kick: 9, 8, 9, 8, 8, 9
    Knee Tucks:  20, 16, 14, 15, 15, 15

    I did this before breakfast, and I could feel my energy was lower than normal (I usually workout after breakfast or in the evening after dinner).

  • http://www.facebook.com/kendra.oberhauser Kendra Lee Oberhauser

    I did this after the Give Me a Reason, just now, and wow…after the 2nd round I couldn’t BELIEVE how much more there was to do!  But I persevered.  I didn’t really top my last score, but I think at least part of that is due to the fact that I was already spent.

    commando push ups: 14-14-12-12-12-12
    sb squat and push kick: 15-13-11-13-13-13
    single knee tuck: 17-14-15-15-14-14

    Happy Friday!

  • Vivi

    I try to beat my old score but impossible ! My body is too in pain, too much aches on legs & arms :(
    But i didn’t give up I did at all.
    1/ 19.15.15.15.14.17
    2/ 14.15.15.14.13.16
    3/ 25.24.24.26.27.28

    I will redo it with a body in better shape !!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Rosalie-Salemink/618241291 Rosalie Salemink

    I love this workout, just did it for today’s! Especially commando pushps are cool, much harder than regular ones!
    My scores:
    Commando pushup 13 13 13 13 13 13
    SB squat kick combo 12 13 12 13 13 13
    Single knee tuck crunch 22 22 24 24 23 21

  • Anonymous

    commando push up: 10 10 10 9 8 8
    squat & push kick: 14 14 15 14 13 11 (i will add up some more weight for the squats)
    single knee tuck: 10 10 9 8 8 8+ 5 mins high knees

    whats more to come today:
    commando at work – 9 hours
    squat & push to study - until midnight
    single sleep at night - at least 6 hours

  • tee

    just did this one today, missed it when it was posted!
    no weight on squats and kept one foot down during single knee tuck.
    commando pushup – 11, 9, 8, 8, 8, 8
    sandbag squat & push kick – 10, 11, 10, 10, 10, 10
    single knee tuck – 17, 19, 18, 17, 19, 18

    followed this with workout from back in 2009 15 min challenge, then ab-tastic exercise challenge

  • Monstrosity5

    Did 30 rounds (20 mins) 10 rounds – :30/:10 w/25# SB
    Commando Push up (18 goal) – 18-17-16-16-16-16-16-16-16-16
    SB Squat+Push Kick (20 goal) – 18-18-18-18-18-18-18-18-18-18
    Single Knee Tuck (22 goal) – 22-22-22-22-22-22-22-22-22-22

  • Anonymous

    i just finished1,60×2,60×3,60x…………………….cau petra

  • Anonymous

    i just finished1,60×2,60×3,60x…………………….cau petra

  • http://exercisefoodpoo.wordpress.com Luke Says No

    My Score:
    18 x 10/30
    - COMMANDO PUSH UP: 14, 13, 13, 14, 11, 12
    - SANDBAG SQUAT & PUSH KICK: 11, 10, 11, 12, 15, 14
    - SINGLE KNEE TUCK: 17, 19, 23, 24, 21, 23

  • Carmen

    Hi everyone……Today I gave it a chance to this workout and made a lot of improvement since last time
                                   old score                             new score
    Command p/u: 13/10/8/10/10/8                      12/12/10/10/11
    Sandbag squat push: 10/11/10/10/10/11        12/13/12/13/11/12
    Single knee tuck: 18/16/15/16/14/12               16/17/14/16/15

  • Armriley

    I am so shocked I don’t even know what to think. I can’t imagine anyone saying that, in essence, they love and cherish their family but would rather not have them. 
     When I got pregnant the first time, I was in a horrible relationship, the man(boy/tool/jerk) I was with threatened to punch me in the stomach to miscarriage if I didn’t get an abortion, and his whole family told me I was a disgrace to them because “I” had gotten pregnant. My mother gave me her full support, my dad asked me to adopt the baby out, and the only person that said anything encouraging without adding how disappointed they were was my ex-boyfriend (to clarify – NOT the babydaddy) to whom I am now married. He is the only Daddy Mercedes has ever known, and we have another little girl who was also not planned who was born a year and a half after Mercedes. She is now two, and Mercedes is four. We’ve been married for a little over four years, and have always struggled financially because we decided that being together as a family was more important than listening to all of the pressure from family and friends to ditch each other. Possibly the ONE THING I would NOT change in all of that is my decision to have children. I don’t regret the man I married, but I definitely would have waited to marry him. My children are the light of my life, a blessing from God in spite of all the wrong decisions I’ve made. Being a parent is one of the hardest things in the world – you may feel like you never truly succeed but you also never truly fail as long as you have loved them and tried your hardest. It is the most rewarding thing I have ever done in my life, and I know the hardest years are yet to come, and maybe that is why your friend feels the way she does. Maybe that’s the difference between having toddlers and teenagers. :)   Freddy, if you and Zuz plan on having a family some day, my best piece of advice is to IGNORE all advice given to you by well-meaning people. Do what you know is right for your family and follow your heart. I’ve made many decisions for my family that are not very popular with people around me, but I know it is right for us and I will never apologize for that. I understand why this discussion with “Madge” rocked your world, but I promise that is not the way all parents feel. Even when things are tough with my kids, I will always look at them as my best gift from heaven. . . .even if they can be little devils. hahaha

  • ingrid haustein

    monday ohh yesss i do this for today

    my score
    1. Commando Push Ups -13-12-11-10-10-9

    2. Sandbag Squat and Push Kick -14-13-13-13-13-14

    3. Single Knee Tuck -12-13-13-12-11-13

    good monday everybody

  • AmyfromtheVille

    I never wanted kids.  After being with my husband for 16 years we decided it was now or never because we were not getting any older.  Our son is almost 4 now and I thank God everyday for him.  Sure, there are days when I get completely frustrated with him but when he wraps his little arm around my neck at night and says, “I love you Momma” it is ALL WORTH IT!!!!

  • Dorie

    Under the most ideal conditions (financial security, loving marriage, great health, etc.) parenting is a challenging endeavor. I, unfortunately, didn’t have the ideal conditions, and have endured a great deal of stress trying to parent well and work full time, while also trying to create some semblance of balance in my daily life (exercise, solitude, or a little social time with friends). It has been a juggling act that I have not loved. Just being really honest. I am also a teacher, and I have seen children from the same family with radically different temperaments/behaviors/manners. I think people can be the best parents they can be and still have children who may not act with the respect they were given. There are many factors that contribute to their evolving selves that are not strictly limited to the parenting the received. Of course parenting is significant, but it isn’t the sole determiner of who children become. I am, indeed, grateful for the experience of motherhood, but it is not for the faint of heart. I have never felt such worry or stress in my life, for example, as when my 16 year old daughter went in for a bone graft on her ankle 2 weeks ago and then had to be rushed to the ER a few days later due to an allergic reaction to medication. I thought she was dying (she’s ok now, thank goodness). You just have to know what you are getting into when you decide to have children. Some people don’t think past the cute baby stage to what the whole shebang entails, and the toll it can take on a relationship if the parents aren’t mindful of carving out time for each other amidst all the hectic business and stress of parenting and work. I know very few marriages that have survived, and the ones that have aren’t really thriving. That fact has been pretty depressing. So if you are going to become parents, just go into it knowing that it is going to be a journey of blood, sweat and tears, sleepless nights, lots of birthday parties, giggles, relentless laundry loads, trips to the doctors, braces, homework, play dates, scraped knees, barbie dolls, body piercing, possibly birth control pills at age 14,  and tough decisions that you will have to make at the expense of you child liking you- always hoping that someday they will understand. (I would do it all again : ) )

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Alana-Stacy/698175600 Alana Stacy

    Hooowhee! Just mowed the lawn and then busted this one out afterwards.. now its cool down and shower time, then I’m making burgers from scratch! Mmmmm, and man do I love my kitchenaid! :)
    Scores!
    Commando pushups: 13, 8, 10, 11, 11, 12
    Sandbag squat and push kick: 13, 13, 12, 13, 12, 13
    Single knee tucks (alternating leg on floor still…) 13, 13, 13, 13, 13, 13
    Not bad.. but i’m still sweating like a pig! :)

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  • Stac

    Growing up I didn’t want any kids either, I babysat all through high school to make money, they were fun but a lot of hard work.
    When I got married @ 22 I had changed my mind & wanted kids with the Love of my life : ) We have 4, 3 boys 22, 19, 16 & a HUGE surprise 4 yr old gorgeous baby girl. We were done having kids or so we thought. Started having kids when I was 25 & the last was a Shocker/rock my world @ 43.  You see our oldest was graduating high school when we were having this precious little girl. Love each & every one of them so completely & individually, I wouldn’t change a thing. LOL. She has motivated me to stay young, which is how I found ya’ll to begin with. Our boys now say they don’t want any kids : D Hahahaha watching this little bundle of energy, I tell them they were all the same the big difference is I was a lot younger when I chased my boys around. Hahahaha.
    You make adjustment when you get married, when you get a pet & when you have kids. If you want any of these 3 there are always adjustments & things work out for the benefit of all. I wouldn’t change a single thing, it all works out the way God has it planned : )
    I agree you would make Awesome parents & cute little mini me’s : ) I think if you went back & asked your friends hubby the same questions he would answer completely different. : )

  • Ellen

    Push ups: 10, 8, 8, 9, 6, 7
    Squats: 13, 12, 12, 13, 11, 10
    Knee tuck: 10, 11, 11, 10, 11, 10

    I did the proper form for each, but think I was using the wrong muscles for the knee tucks (using more of my back and legs rather than stomach). Might practice that a bit before doing a full round again another day. Now time for some skipping!

  • Indianrivertkd

    I think that the trials of being a parent of teenagers takes it’s toll even if the children are wonderful.  I am in my mid-40′s with a 20 year old university student son and a senior high school daughter…I would have so much more money and freedom without them but I also would not have the hope of warmth and unconditional love for my future.  My children still call me to tell me they love me, they still tell me about their dreams and goals, they still kiss me when they leave or go to sleep.  I sing that song You Are My Sunshine and they tell me that me and their mom will never be alone.  oooooooooooh but right now?  I want to go kataking but my son just asked for $100 because he doesn’t want to spend his money that he is saving for the year of college that he won’t be working.  HAHA….meh, he’s a great kid so I don’t go kayaking. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Rosalie-Salemink/618241291 Rosalie Salemink

    Just did this one to get back on schedule, I don’t wanna miss them just because I went on a small holiday :)
    My scores: commando pushup: 13 13 12 12 13 13
    Sandbagsquats+ kick: 12 13 13 13 13 14
    Singlekneetuck: 15 16 15 15 15 15
    Pretty happy about it, my scores were pretty consistent! Does that mean I should push harder?
    About the kids dilemma: I’m only 19, so no need for kids or thinking about them anytime soon! Although, I’m actually the only one I know that isn’t sure even now, I might not want them.. I want to become a medical specialist, and I’m not sure if such a demanding career can be combined with motherhood. And I’m not sure I’d want to give career up for it either..

  • lUCy

    hi, my score was:
    -C. 10/8/9/9/9/9
    -S. 8/10/11/11/11/13
    -SK. 13/12/13/13/14/15 :D

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Samantha-Robinson/1573777458 Samantha Robinson

    Just finished this workout! I loved it!!!

    Commando Push Up – 8, 7, 6, 6, 6, 5
    Squat & Push Kick – 9, 10, 10, 9, 8, 8
    Single Knee Tuck – 10, 10, 10, 10, 10, 10

    I only have one sandbag and my BF was using it since we do the workouts together. I was really feeling it in my abs with the knee tucks and then the commandos! 

  • James Rai

    When you decide not to have kids, then you need to talk to your partner and fully agree and never mention it again.

    I’ve been there and decided with my partner, that our hapiness and love would not increase.  We are already soulmates and we will not let that slip away.

    My parents agree with Madge’.  They want Grankids but tell me to enjoy life as it shoots by.  “Kids are the best thing I have ever did” err you haven’t lived very much…

    My parents sacrificed and were loving etc but they would not do it again lol.  Children are wonderful and time consuming.  It is your choice.

    You can always adopt in future. To worry about your genes or family name is selfish.  To have kids as they are wonderful is a better choice to have kids.

    Nappies? no thanks, My career and my soulmate comes first.

  • http://www.carolynbellpilates.com Carolyn Pilates

    Children:
    The gifts of life we share as living beings are the ability to procreate and 5 senses. Additional gifts humanity is blessed with are consciousness and free will. Life is limitless in what it offers us to experience. A happy and fulfilled life is possible without having children, just as it’s possible for people to do without one of their senses. However, those who choose the gift of children choose to have life experiences that simply aren’t possible otherwise.

    Life also returns to us what we give out. I wonder if Madge will one day know the pain that her children regret she is their parent, as she regrets they are her children.

    Workout:
    I wanted to focus on strength today so I completed the w/o with
    Zuzanna’s reps vs as timed intervals. I had to do all but the first
    round of Commando push ups on my knees. What great shoulder girdle and core stability work!

  • http://thats-rad.tumblr.com/ Jenn Coppack

    Commando Push Up:  13-13-15-16-18-18 Sandbag Squat & Push Kick:  13-13-12-14-14-14Single Knee Tuck:  14-12-11-10-12-15
    Note:  I couldn’t do the push ups in proper form so I did the best I could with modified push ups.

  • http://twitter.com/Cyberdame Damaris

    Well i agree that kids could change your life dramatically for good and bad. If your not prepared or didn’t want children like i did it could be shocking and overwhelming. In my case I took care of my siblings and wanted to travel live a life and get a career and get away as far as possible from where I was. But i got married to someone who wanted children and I traded my dreams for his and I’m sorta happy. I love my children and I didn’t think i could do it but I roll with the punches. The funny thing is They could make you crazyyy as hell and then they just smile and everything is ok. My suggestion live life and do everything you want to do now. Then later when your older and a little more patience have children is worth the pain. The rewards are infinite. By the way I have 3 little minions. ^___^

  • guest

    I didn’t want children. I got pregnant at 23 and cried the whole pregnancy. I just didn’t want that responsibility. OMG. THE MOMENT I held my son for the first time, I KNEW that I would have missed out on so, so much. The love you have for your children is unlike any love ever before. You think you love your spouse…. nada compared to the love for a child. I’m not saying I don’t love my husband. I do, dearly. I am so, so lucky to have such a wonderful man… the love for a child is just so much deeper. You have actually created this person… and for some of us…. you created them with the most amazing person you know. I now have 3 children. It’s hard… it’s scary… but there is no doubt… it’s worth it. However I also think, not everyone is ment to be a parent. Also though…. Imagine the day when one of you passes… Imagine the other, without children to carry you on…KWIM? My son reminds me so much of my husband. His mannerisms. His laugh… I couldn’t imagine a world where my husband stopped… with my children here, he will live on in them.

  • Anonymous

    “I think people are misunderstanding this as Marge saying she regrets having children, but in reality, she regrets missing out on her youth.” 
    I agree.

  • Laurie Skora

    Wow! I just finished this one and I am beat! lol Time to go have a nice cold shower and then eat supper :) My scores were:
    Commando pushups: 12/10/11/10/10/10 (Started out strong doing regular but had to switch to knees during the second round.. I really need to work on my upper body strength so I will be coming back to this one soon)
    Sandbag squat & push kick (11lbs): 11/13/12/13/14/14
    Single knee tuck: 16/16/15/15/15/16 had to do beginner version for these but will totally feel it later! lol
    Thanks again for another amazing workout!! 

  • http://aphrodiitee.deviantart.com/ Isidora

    changed the intervals to 21 rounds 45/5 = 17:30 min and the second exercise i did it without sandbag :)  

    1. commando push ups: 17-16-14-14-13-13-13
    2. squat & push kick: 21-19-19-19-19-19-19
    3. single knee tuck: 18-18-18-18-18-18-18

    +200 jump rope moderate speed skips. :D  

  • https://www.facebook.com/#!/Splitapart69 Hollyjamie

    I have two Kids started in my 20′s and I would have to say Yes have at least One but wait – no hurry – wait till the LAST Second to do it, you are calm and smart when your older, and you would have had a chance to solidify your relationship with your spouse. Where people go wrong is to think that marriage is so you can start having Kids..Im only 34 and a widow but Im taking the next 10 years to myself and my kids, I hope to have another in my 40′s. That being said, there is nothing wrong with having no children also, you can get just as much enjoyment out of life, but we were designed to reproduce so why Not? and wouldnt you two make a divine little Child? best of Luch and Happiness!

  • Rockin’ SEAL

    I have a wonderful daughter, but I agree with your friend. 
    As you mentioned Freddy, there are a lot of issues here but the main issue is a personal decision to be made jointly, between you and your mate.  If you doubt something, then don’t do it.  If you value the type of lifestyle you now have and do not want anything to jeopardize that, then the decision is made.  If you want to have children, or even one child, dedication to changing your lifestyle is a must.  There can be no other way; but the decision to bring another into the world need not force you to completely alter your lifestyle but it does compel you to make decisions prioritizing b/c the new family member is more important.

  • Ashinkus

    Wow….I don’t even know where to begin…I am a parent and have one beautiful three year old daughter, she brings extra love and meaning into my life and I am thankful for it. I am not someone who needs to have a certain number of children I just take day by day and enjoy every precious moment with the one I have. Down the road if I am ready I may have one more. As for you Zuzana & Freddie you guys travel so often obviously the timing may not be now, but never let anyone influence you in your decisions because in the end you need to be happy & fulfilled so if it’s right you will know.  That’s how it happened for me! 

  • Charlie D.

    My reps are:

    Commando pushup: 14, 12, 13, 13, 12, 15
    Sandbag squat (30 pounds, but I put it in a backpack and had a lot more trouble than I anticipated swinging it on and off – I might go back to just dumbbells): 8, 7, 9, 8, 7, 9
    one-knee tucks (these are hard for me so I was really careful on my form): 12, 11, 11, 10, 10, 8

    All of your comments about kids are quite inspiring.  This is such a neat community.

  • Anonymous

    I finally did it and here are my scores:
    1. Commando push up – 14, 12, 12, 12, 12, 11
    2. Sandbag squat and push kick – 6, 7, 7, 7, 8
    3. Single knee tuck – 11, 11, 12, 13, 14, 14

    How did you guys do? =)

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Maria-Davleeva/100001702041662 Мария Давлеева

    Commando push ups – 12, 12, 13, 12, 13, 12.
    Squats – 10, 12, 13, 14, 13, 14 (10 kg). knee tucks – 17, 16, 16, 17,
    17, 17. plus 30 minutes of Khatkha yoga & 1 hour of Fit-bo.

  • Anonymous

    Everyone is different.  For some, motherhood/parenthood is the finish line.  They are content in the role of parent, and in building a home and family life.  For others, it feels like a prison sentence.  I grew up wanting desperately to have a family of my own, to correct the mistakes of my own childhood, and to create the wonderful family life that I never knew.  I rushed into motherhood, and suddenly found myself trapped at home, in my mid-20s, with a needy newborn.  A year and a half later, after facing the harsh reality that I do not fit the cookie cutter that I created for myself, I have learned that this child is my greatest blessing and teacher.  Early on, I mourned the elasticity of my belly skin, my young married life and my freedom to run off on a whim.  But here’s the thing: we are here to teach and learn.  And I have found that when I feel pain, I am better off to sit with it, not run away.  Study the pain. Read the discomfort. Shine light on the challenge. Listen. Learn from it.  Soon, my inability to run off taught me to grow roots and to have more patience than I thought I was capable of.  My marriage became priority for me not because it was fun and easy, but because I believe in us and the life we are building, slowly, steadily.  And skin bounces back. :)  In conclusion, even if you do end up a parent who struggles with this heavy role, life does not stop there.  Like any other challenge you face in your lifetime(s), it is how you grow and learn from the struggle that will shape you, your wellness and happiness.  I am not the stay at home mom I always imagined I would be, but I am a loving, steadfast and dedicated mama.  I can write my own story, take time for myself, study, dance, write, paint, train for the Olympics, start a charity.  I set my own limits.  And if you are blessed with a precious little teacher, Freddy and Zuzana, you will write your own story as well.  You will find your balance.

  • http://www.meganhcarver.com Megan H. Carver

    Woo!  Great work out today :)  Thanks guys!
    12, 11, 12, 10, 11, 10
    15, 19, 17, 18, 16, 17
    12, 14, 13, 10, 12, 12

  • Busy Mummy Marcia

    have kids is wonderfull!! look my baby !! i´m so happy no matter the circunstances!!!!

  • momof3

    Kids absolutely change your world. My husband and I constantly ask each other, “what did we do with all our spare time before kids??”.But I think they change you for the better, we havr rapidly become a society who seeks instant gratification, and is always in need of more “stuff”, kids change your priorities, you truly learn to put someone else first. They reward you with love, loyalty, and laughter-there is nothing quite like the first belly laugh of an infant.”Making the decision to have a child is momentous.  It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ” ~Elizabeth Stone
    Cheers,
    mom of three-ages 10,8,6

  • mirah

    My results:

    1. Commando Push Ups: 12, 10, 10, 9, 9, 10
    2. (Dumbbell 15kg) Squat & Push Kick 7, 7, 6, 7, 6, 6
    3. Single Knee Tucks 13, 11, 11, 10, 11, 11

    I had too much weight with the squats, but thats fine because my muscles had to work hard. However my form with kicks werent so nice because of the weight.

    Thanks again Z&F!

  • MariaBjørgJepsen

    Hej Yousra :) Hvor i Danmark er du fra? Det er endnu ikke lykkedes mig, at få respons fra nogen af de få danskere, som jeg har opdaget herinde!
    Hilsen Maria

  • ZoeRocker

    This was harder than I imagined…. as always!

    1. 16,12,10,10,9,9
    2.13,13,12,12,12,12
    3.16,16,14,14,13,14

    Good morning bodyrockers!!

  • Vala

    Did this today, but with some added challenge :)
    I did 16 minutes instead of 12 and added Reverse Push Ups in each round.

    Commando Push Ups – 14 – 13 – 13 – 12 – 12 – 12
    Sandbag Squat and Kick – 10 – 9 -10 -12 -12 -12 (I struggled to put the weight the right way on my back in the first rounds)
    Reverse Push Ups – 28 – 28 – 24 – 24 – 26 – 27
    Single Knee Tuck – 14 – 13 – 14 – 13 – 14 – 14

  • ingrid haustein

    hello good morning guys i finished this work yeahhhhhh

    1-11-11-11-10-9-11-
    2-10-13-12-12-13-12-
    3-13-13-13-12-13-14

    thankss

  • Epsharon

    Hey Zuzana and Freddy, I’m 21, I have a 2yr old daughter, I am currently pregnant with my second child, and I just finished getting me BA. I think any one who has children will tell you they’re amazing. The truth is having a child is only something you guys can decide. When anyone is thinking about having a child, I think the most important thing to ask yourself is “Are you both willing to become self less and are you willing to become responsible for a human life?” If there’s a will, there’s a way. You both speak of perseverance in life and reaching ones goals. In my opinion a child only reveals the beauty in life and inspires one to succeed. My heart melts every time my daughter yells “mommy” and the best thing about being pregnant is feeling your child moving inside the belly and experiencing an irreplaceable connection. Adoption is a great thing as well; there are many children in need of a family and love. Good luck J

  • V.I.G.

    Commando Push Up was harder than I thought:)

    My Score:
    Commando Push Up 10,11,10,11,11,11
    Sandbag Squat & Push Kick 12,12,13,11,12,13
    Single Knee Tuck 14,14,14,14,13,14

  • SukiMay

    Love it.  Thank you.

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  • monika

    Hey guys…Monika here..there are many people today who decide not to have any kids or have them really late in life.I think that’s fine.Some have them early on,and then by the time they get to 40′s the kids are on their own,there are those who live it up and start having them at 40.Me and my hubby waited 5 yrs before we had our first and then another 5 before the 2nd.Having children don’t have to change anything but they put a different spin on things.We still keep active,take them on hikes and travel with them.At the odd time we leave them behind but I can tell you that even when we are alone,after a few hrs we miss them and want them to come with us and experience life together.So,sometimes it takes some figuring out but you don’t have to change your life.Whether your a couch potato or very active,kids will adapt to you.Enjoy your life now,you will know when you’re ready…or if you’re ready.It is easy without them but life is not about easy….cheers from Vancouver!

  • Sheldond

    My reps
    Commando push ups 20 13 13 10 10 10
    Sandbag squats – 15 14 12 10 10 10
    Single knee tuck 15 13 13 12 10 9

  • Mike

    tough workout and I didn’t use a sandbag cuz I do not own one.
    Push Ups
    10, 8, 8, 8, 8, 7

    Squats
    8, 7, 8, 7, 7, 7

    Knee Tucks
    12, 8, 8, 9, 7, 8

  • ~Haley

    I wonder why Madge feels that way.  What is she disappointed about? Hmmm?  I appreciate her honesty and respect her feelings, but I think she’s an exception.  Kids take work and self sacrifice. . . . things you two are quite accustomed to.  And the idea that children stifle your joy and freedom is foreign to me~they blow the door off happiness!!!!  I’m 28, my husband is 33 and we’ve been married for 7 years.  We waited 5 years to have our first baby.  When we think back on those 5 years, it seems like years wasted on ourselves just working and hanging out with friends.  Pouring your time and life into your babies is so rewarding and worth every sacrifice.  Children are life changing. .. . in an amazingly GOOD way.  You guys will be great parents.  You’ll do it YOUR way and it’ll be the experience you want it to be.  And don’t worry about your body, Zuz.  You’ll get it back!  And you’ll be an even GREATER inspiration to women.

  • Darren

    I have to say that,…having children with my wife (we have a 4 year old daughter and a 2 year old son) and getting married, are the three best things to ever happen to me.  Sure it’s challenging and dam frustrating at times,…but I would NEVER change a thing, EVER!  The memories that you create with your family are priceless, and watching your children learn and grow, is fascinating and humbling.  My kids stir up many emotions in the day to day routine (yes,…sometimes I get upset with them, LOL!), but the fact that they make me smile and laugh a lot is something I look forward to everyday!  Anyway Zuzana and Freddy,…all the best in whatever you choose with regards to children.  Adoption is definitely a great option, there’s so many children who deserve a better life.  I’ve sponsored children through World Vision Canada for the past 13 years and it’s another great way to help give kids a chance for a better life.  Anyway, God Bless!   

  • Darren

    I have to say that,…having children with my wife (we have a 4 year old daughter and a 2 year old son) and getting married, are the three best things to ever happen to me.  Sure it’s challenging and dam frustrating at times,…but I would NEVER change a thing, EVER!  The memories that you create with your family are priceless, and watching your children learn and grow, is fascinating and humbling.  My kids stir up many emotions in the day to day routine (yes,…sometimes I get upset with them, LOL!), but the fact that they make me smile and laugh a lot is something I look forward to everyday!  Anyway Zuzana and Freddy,…all the best in whatever you choose with regards to children.  Adoption is definitely a great option, there’s so many children who deserve a better life.  I’ve sponsored children through World Vision Canada for the past 13 years and it’s another great way to help give kids a chance for a better life.  Anyway, God Bless!   

  • http://twitter.com/IronFistGirl Tara Fox

    My scores
    commando pushup – 13,12,13,11,11,9
    sandbag squat kick- 13,14,15,14,14,13
    single knee tuck- 13,14,13,13,13,12

    worked up a good sweat again …………….puffed out now :) thx

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=582186872 Kelsey Nuila Gray

    Good point, I am still for team family whatever that maybe:) 
    I had seen that Freddie and Zuzana used the term “starting a family” and went off of that. 

  • Susan Murphy48

    I am a single mother of a beautiful teenage daughter that we adopted from Romania when she was 18 months old. Adoption is an option for couples who are not able to conceive children. As Zuzana said in her video, there are so many children in this “world” who have been abandoned and need a home. Before considering adoption, I would advise you to do some research on the cost, options of countries to adopt from, and the long term emotional consequences that these children suffer. You have to be prepared to deal with those issues as parents.

  • Marta

    Olá, Vera!!!
    Cool, a new bodyrocker from Portugal!! I so happy :D
    I started bodyrocking since 23 of March and I’m really diferent! Lost 9 kg!
    Your scores are great ofr a beginner! Keep the good work :)
    Beijooosss
    P.S. que sorte que tens, o teu namorado fazer contigo, o meu não quer saber xD

  • Mia

    Hello everyone,

    here are my scores for this wkout:
    commando p.ups: 8.8.7.7.7.7  wow, so hard to keep proper form. Kudos to everyone who can do properly more than 10 of these in 30sec, ;)

    sandbag squat and p.kick: 8.10.9.11.10.10 (8.5Kg)

    Knee tucks: 9.11.11.12.12.12 (it was hard to keep my back pressed against the floor while keeping the legs low)

    was a good sweat :)

    Take care,
    Mia

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=651056637 Tarra RB

    Its definitely a personal call….my mum said the same thing about having kids, your friend Madge is in the same generation as her.  Think it was very expected for them.  We have more choice now, hopefully less pressure to do it for the wrong reasons (ie provide grandchildren, fix a broken relationship, etc). I don’t want any of my own…love my lifestyle too much and know that I would feel resentful about giving it and the time with my partner up. I love my nieces and nephews, but I know I couldn’t be the best mum I would want to be.
    So long as the couple/person in question is willing to make the sacrifice that it takes to be a real parent (ie Angelafl below – go girl u sound like an AWESOME mum even tho the road has been hard! and Tiffany – 8 kids!! Now that’s a love of being a mum!) I say go for it….but if you cant make the commitment of time, self and money 110%, don’t bring innocent kids into a maybe. :)

  • ktmatv

    Oh.My.God. It did not look/sound too bad, but six rounds…whew! Loved it…my arms are actually burning as I am typing this!

    My scores:
    Commando Push Ups (14-12-12-11-10-12)
    Sandbag Squat and Push Kick (Done with two 8 pound dumbbells) (14-16-16-17-17-17)
    Single Knee Tuck (23-23-24-23-24-23)

    Great Workout!

  • Anonymous

    Freddy and Zuzana, I appreciate the great workout, as always. My scores:

    Commandos: 17,15,13,13,10,11
    Squat & push kick (50lbs): 12,12,11,10,10,10
    Single knee: 17,15,12,14,15,14

    20 minute jog since I pulled my hamstring jumping rope.

    We have a handsome 17 y/o boy and a triple threat (smart, nice, beautiful) 13 y/o girl (see attached pic). Our lives are full because of them. We started late (had our son at 35) after having our share of fun without the kids for many years prior. We can definitively feel the stage of independence and realize that we will be having fun by ourselves all over again before too long. Hopefully the cycle will repeat itself with our kids. For now I enjoy having the kids occasionally join me for BodyRocker workouts. Children are not the right choice for everybody but they are definitively the right choice for us.

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  • JJ

    Just completed this one….all I can say is holy Abs!!  Thanks guys for the awesome workouts and motivation!!  Here’s how I did… 
    Ex#1: 13/11/11/10/10/11
    Ex#2: 11/11/12/11/12/12
    Ex#3: 11/11/10/11/10/10 

    • JJ

      I also wanted to mentioned that I’m a proud parent of 2 children and 3 step children between the ages of 5-19. I would also like to adopt in the near future to complete my family!!  I totally agree with Angela’s comment below, with it comes many challenges but the rewards far exceed those challenges. I also believe if you dont’ want children you shouldn’t feel pressured to have any, it’s not for all!! Having children is a personal choice and it’s important to be true to yourself when making that choice. A meaningfull life comes in many ways, with or without children.  I’m hapyy to say mine include my beautiful, talented children :)

  • Anonymous

    that is a totally stunning sepia pic of you, Zuzana =] !! sweet work, Freddy =] !!

    1) commando push ups –> 16, 15, 14, 13, 12, 12
    2) sandbag squat & push kick –> 13, 13, 13, 11, 11, 11
    3) single knee tuck –> 15, 17, 17, 13, 15, 16

    i made my sandbag a little heavier today (still don’t know how much it weighs). this was fun! love feeling my temperature rising like a fever. also did 20min interval skipping afterwards. it is a super hot and humid day here. i took a shower and started sweating all over again after only 5min of being out of it. thanks you two =] !! Bodyrocking is bliss <3 xo

  • MariaBjørgJepsen

    Thanks, Mark :) I did push a lot, like I always do, though!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Helena-Novotna/1377432554 Helena Novotná

    There’s no other feeling like the one when they put the just born baby on your chest, when the baby makes its first step, when 3-year-old has his first performance in his life called Ladybugs. There’s no stronger fear than when your baby is in hospital and you’re waiting for the doctor to hear what’s wrong. When you decide not to have kids, you may try all sports and everything that you just think about, you may enjoy YOUR OWN life, but you will never ever feel the real happiness, you will never know what is it like when 2-years-old  comes by himself and says Mommy, I love you!
    If you decide not to have kids you will miss something undecribeable in your life.
    There are days when you’re tired, when you don’t know what to do, how to make them behave the way you like them to, when you need to be alone, there are days when you need to do something only for yourself. But I personaly would never ever change the fact that I have my two sons, they fill me with happiness they make my life reasonable.

  • Kishalacska

     Wonderfully said. :)

  • Kishalacska

     I really hope you will not regret it when you are 50. I think you will. :(

  • http://delightfultastebuds.com Jos

    Phew I’ll be super busy today so this workout just perfect!
    Commando Push Ups 16-11-10-10-9-10
    Sandbag Squat & Push Kick (15lbs backpack) 13-14-14-15-13-14
    Single Knee Tuck 16-16-11-13-13-12

    As for kids stuff, my hubby and I are on the same page that we prefer to be childless by choice. Raising a kid is not for everyone and we both know we’re not those type. :) But whatever choices you guys make, I’m sure it’s something that you both agree on and will have no regrets. Cheers!

  • Henry

    I have a 19 month old son. His name is Jayden. My wife is 42 and I am 43. I always wanted kids, my wife was on the fence. Our pregnancy was not planned and our son was born about a year and half after my wife and I first met. As my wife puts it we really didn’t have much of an opportunity to get to know one another. I for one would not change what I have for the world. Being a dad is pretty much the greatest thing. At times I suspect my wife feels the opposite, but I wouldn’t a single other person to my our sons mom. It does change everything, but in a good way as I see it. By the sounds of it, if and when you and Freddy decide to have kids your will have already accomplished so much as couple and in your life, that having kids will just add another wonderful dimension. Don’t get me wrong it is as the cliche goes the toughest job you will ever have, but it is also the most rewarding.

    I feel for your friend. But all the advice you receive has little to do with your choice. It is the two of you together who will be taking that journey. In the end, it doesn’t matter what the rest of us think. I haven’t read the posts but I suspect there are plenty of people on both sides of the fence. The key thing is that whatever choice you make it should support who you are and what you believe in. Too many people make the choice to have kids or not based on reasons that have nothing to do with having kids.

    From your posts and openness to share your lives as you do, my gut feeling is that you and Freddy will make remarkable parents a raise amazing children. That’s a gift that I would for one think would diminish the world. Not to put any pressure.

    Anyhow. My truth is not yours and your friends truth is not yours. In the end, it is your personal you must answer too and honor. 

    Best of luck,

    Henry

  • Cindy

    First, I did the Wow Booty workout (2nd part=7 minutes) followed by the Booty Shaping Workout.
    1 14-14-13-13-11-11
    2  17-16-15-14-15-14
    3 17-17-16-15-14-14
    I finished iwth 15 minutes Skipping. These two Workout left me gasping for air and wet all my body. Thanks!

  • http://www.facebook.com/andsch Andreas Schüttler

    My scores:

    commando push ups: 9 / 9 / 8 / 8 / 7 / 6  (somehow I am used to do more push ups in that time – I should do them more often…)

    sandbag squat and push kick: 6 / 6.5 / 8 / 7.5 / 7.5 / 9  (not very satisfied with them because I didn´t do the push kicks properly (they lacked the “push” of the kick))

    single knee tuck: 9 / 8 / 8 / 8 / 8 / 7

  • http://twitter.com/misathemeb m

    commando push up: 11, 11, 9, 9, 10, 10

    sandbag squat and push kick (really focused on engaging core here): 8, 9, 9, 9, 8.5, 9

    single knee tuck: 13, 12, 11, 11, 10, 12

  • Anonymous

    my scores:
    1) 10-10-9-10-8-11
    2)13-13-14-15-15-15
    3)21-24-20-22-23-21

  • Anonymous

    the same here what you wrote about children and parenthood!! My mother really would have grand children, maybe it´s the best gift, that she would get!!! But at the moment I don´t want to have children. I wanna live my life, be free and enjoy all the things and the independence. But on the other hand – it must be a great experience to see the children grow.

    btw – amazing scores :)

    Nice weekend!

  • Anonymous

    the same here what you wrote about children and parenthood!! My mother really would have grand children, maybe it´s the best gift, that she would get!!! But at the moment I don´t want to have children. I wanna live my life, be free and enjoy all the things and the independence. But on the other hand – it must be a great experience to see the children grow.

    btw – amazing scores :)

    Nice weekend!

  • Anonymous

    Awesome workout, short, but intense :)

    My scores:
    Commando Push ups: 14 12 11 12 9 12
    SB Squat with push kick (9kg): 12 12 13 12 12 12
    Single Knee Tuck: 13 13 12 12 12 12
    :)

  • Peta

    so l got around to doing this workout today.l’m not quite up to the average, but l have been to the gym this morn.  The only prob is my 4yr old conned me into baking cupcakes today, and l’ve been pickng at them…so scores for workout 2:
    Push-up:12, 11, 12, 12, 10, 9
    Squat (13kg): 10, 10, 10.5, 11, 10, 10
    knee tuck: 9, 12, 13, 13, 13, 11

  • MariaBjørgJepsen

    HAPPY 4TH ANNIVERSARY, dear Zuzie & Freddy! I am curious: how long time did you know eachother before you got married? No matter what you chose, you both have personalities that will make you the most amazing and loving parents ever, I believe. I am to turn 25 and my surroundings are already talking about when I will have children. The truth is: the thought of having any does NOT make me happy, at all. Rather depressed. I think I am just not ready mentally. But when will one ever be? 

    My beautiful, strong mother is seriously the coolest and most admirable woman on earth. She had 4 children and has been married to my father for 25 years now. She has NEVER talked about parenthood as something negative and limiting. She has always said: “Having children does not make your life more limited and poor, it depends on the way you perceive life and the way you chose to live it”. I will never forget that, since the thought of getting 4 CHILDREN seems crazy and surreal to me. My mother really hopes I will give her grand children some day. Right now, I am almost convinced that I will never want to have children. But then again, when I watch my amazing mother and love everything about being with her, I think: If I will never have children, I won’t be able to do the same things with them as my mother does with me, when I grow older. Scarying :(

    My scores:
    1/ Commando push up: 20-19-17-17-16-15 (the last 2 rounds were BRUTAL!)2/ Sandbag squat & Push kick, 15 kilo sandbag: 18-18-19-18-18-183/ Single knee tuck: 28-28-28-28-28-27

    Have a great weekend, dear friends :)
    Love, Maria

  • Mo

    The single knee tuck was very hard for me (the hardest part was with my left leg)!commando push-up: 9-10-11-10-10-10sandbag squat and push kick: 10-10-10-10-11-10single knee tucks: 8-9-7-7-9–9 

  • http://www.facebook.com/felinemenina Anna Carolina F

    My score of yesterday:

    1) Commando Push up: 16-15-12-12-12-13
    2) SandbagSquat+ PushKick: 13-14-16-14,5-13-15
    3) Single Knee Tuck: 15-13-12-13-12-13

    + 1,5 h Capoeria + 5sets of deadlift, kettlebellswing and some core excercises

    According to this I had more hunger throughout the day ..weekends tend to move to sloppiness :/

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  • http://www.twitter.com/zsukam zsukam

    Hi Guys!

    I’ve done this workout yesterday, That was really great, I felt my core absolutely, I pushed hard :)
    ComPU: 13,12,10,11,10,11
    SBS&PK: 12,14,12,12,14,12
    SingKnTu: 17,17,17,18,18,20

    So many respect to this woman who have two children, and she brings them up. I think we always feel what we need, but sometimes we are not listen to hear them. We can think, can think what will be doing. And when the things are coming, we need to accept and grateful. But we always have choises!
    To theme, Having babies or not, and who need baby or not. My boyfriend is 34, I’m 29. I have so many people around me and ask me when will we have baby. Yes, this is natural. But at the beginning I was so angry, because these people know that we want to do another things before we have baby, and they were not so empathic. We want baby but not yet. There are so many people in the world worry and fear what will be in the future. And I realized, I feel so good in my own now, and that’s important. This is my life and nobody wants to say me what will be good for me. So when I got the question I always say, hm within a 5 or 10 years (and laugh), and then I see the reaction, and I have a choise to whom listen to the advice, or talk about our intimate things. The Now and what I feel inside this is the important.
    Thanks for the great workout! I check your new workout, and do :) Love you all xoxo

  • Bohdanam

    17 16 16 15 15 16
    12 14 14 14 14 13
    22 21 22 22 22 23
    thanks
    happy 4th anniversary 

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Natalia-Trofimova/704588888 Natalia Trofimova

    i’ve done this one today in the morning after a 30 min jogging session and was dripping sweat all over after i finished, lol one more great workout!

    my score:

    1. 14,12,12,10,10,11
    2. 11,11,12,12,12,13 (8,5 kg “sandbag”)
    3. 19,17,16,16,17,17

    As for your ideas about having kids or not, it’s totally up to you to decide. if neither Freddy nor Zuzana want children at the moment, it might mean that the time hasn’t come yet. just enjoy your life as it is, and when the right moment comes, you will post pics of small Freddy or Zuzi here ;) otherwise, if you will never feel like having kids at all, that will be fine as well because it is not a must to have children. all in all, i believe it’s better not to have children at all rather than force yourself to have them because “everybody” is supposed to do so. IMHO :)

    Have a great day!

    Kisses, Natalia

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1746562272 Cynthia Hannah

    hi y’all , my scores for this workout-COMMANDO PUSH UP-17,16,16,16,15,15SANDBAG SQUAT & PUSH KICK- 16,16,16,16,16,16SINGLE KNEE TUCK- 16,17,17,17,17,18

  • Donna

    I personally always wanted lots of kids from an early age:) I met my husband when I was 21, engaged + married at 22, pregnant at 23, first child at 24, 2nd at 26. Both my kids were planned:) I feel blessed because I met my life partner early and had my kids young:) I wanted 5 to be honest but mum talked me out of it because she had four children and felt that I was lucky to have one of each sex. My mum was present for both the births of my children as we are extremely close. My mother couldn’t give birth naturally and still has massive scars from having us. 38 years ago it wasn’t a little straight, fine cut above your bikini line it was a massive opening starting from your upper stomach all the way to your lower stomach:) They didn’t stitch in a straight line then either:) My mum’s stomach looks like one big Plait because she was opened in the same place 4 times. I was the first child and the doctor didn’t know that my mother couldn’t give birth naturally. My mum went into labour and she was left in severe pain for three days until the doctor told my dad to pick his wife or the child as he didn’t know what was wrong. My dad wanted both so dumped that doctor and got himself one that could give him what he wanted. If I was a boy I would of been dead. I was removed from my mother’s womb black and blue and was put into a humidity crib for over a month. When my mother first told me this story and showed my her scar it made my cry as I am doing now. She has told me she regrets having four children not because of the pain and suffering but she did it to please my father because he wanted a son and she loved her husband so much. Her parents were living in another country so she came home with a baby and no idea what to do. She use to change my nappy crying because she was in so much physical pain. I didn’t judge my mother or your friend Madge..PLEASE DON’T JUDGE PEOPLE AS THERE ARE ALWAYS HIDDEN TRUTHS IN THEIR LIFE….

  • Heather

    I have one child and she was born in my mid 30s. She’s going to be four in October. The one thing she did for this scattered Pisces is to FOCUS me. I now know what I should have been doing with my life – devoting it to my love of horses. Some days it is so hard I almost regret having her, but that is when I am feeling unsupported and alone. I am married but we moved 8 hours drive away from our families – so the option of dropping the granddaughter off for a visit to get a break does not exist. Consider that before you have kids!

    I would say that she has caused me to grow in ways I could not otherwise have grown. To become a better person in learning patience, to live in the moment and how to guide and redirect someone to try to teach right from wrong and  to get along in this world, so that she has some chance of success in life.

    She astounds me and delights me, frustrates me more than anything on the planet and gives the best hugs, sings the best songs… it’s a roller coaster ride. I also do home daycare for three other children. THAT has been good birth control as they are all 3 or younger. Still, it is getting easier for the time being and I can almost, ALMOST see having another one to watch grow. I think I would decide instead to foster a child in need, because there are many kids who are older and have not got a stable, loving family to guide them and support them.

    Some days I can see why people have multiple wives – to care for the other wives!!! LOL

    Best wishes on your life journey – and know that you are the only ones who can judge for yourselves what is right for you – in anything in life – and even then you may doubt your choice at some point in the future! You can change how you deal with that. Decide to commit to whatever choice you made and it can be just that much easier.

  • Kendra

    I might comment later about the kids, but I will say that I don’t have any of my own (yet?), but I live with my boyfriend of 6 years and his 2 kids and I love it.  It’s hard, and I have it easy because I’m not the one ultimately responsible for them, but I would never give it up, and my boyfriend wouldn’t either.  

    Scores!:
    commando push-up: 12-13-11-9-8-8
    sandbag squat and push kick: 13-11-12-11-11-11
    single knee tucks (last 2 rounds I did the beginner mod): 15-14-12-12-13-13

  • Albina

    I agree with your friend about your life changing after kids, but it worth it . I am 23 and married to a wonderful man with 2 children from previous marriage. We have been together for over 4 years and have been raising the boys since they were 18 months old an 9 weeks old. I have never regretted a day I decided to stay with him and raise the boys. Your life changes, this is true, you may not go out to eat as often as you used to, or can’t sleep in, you can’t do things what you used to before the kids, but it doesn’t last long. When you have children life is not about you anymore. I think it disciplines you, helps you not be selfish, makes more responsible. It can be hard first few years, sleepless nights, worrying about your baby when they have a fever, or bruise their knees and etc., but these are most precious years and they don’t last long. Seeing your baby growing and developing every day, discovering new thing is the most amazing thing. But the most precious thing is when your child runs up to you, puts his arms around your neck, gives you a big hug and says “I LOVE YOU MOMMY/ DADDY”. Yes you can spend you life building a career but you won’t buy this moment for any money. If you invest in your children, teach them moral values and respect, it all will pay off later. You have to work with children, you have to correct them with love. For our family the best way to teach our kids is through Bible. At this young age they know 10 commandments, and they know what’s right and what’s wrong. They know if they disobey their parents there will be consiquesnces. I could give many examples, but the point is that children learn from parents and they look up to them. You can’t expect your child to have good manners when you act like a jerk. Children are like a play dough, you can shape up a kind, loving, wonderful person or a monster. It’s all up to parents. 

  • julies76

    I have kids, 2 beautiful girls.  I love them and I would not change a thing about my life.  But that does not mean having children is for everyone.  Hearing your friend say that she regrets it must have been very shocking.  But I am proud of your friend for a few things.  She has the courage to admit that, in hind sight, she would have made different decisions.  There is nothing wrong with that and MANY people would have denied or hidden that thought and just dealt with the emotional impact.  That takes a toll on a person’s mental well being.  (It also is a testament to the type of friends you two are, Freddie and Zuzana, that she could trust you with such info and know you would not judge her.)  But the biggest thing I am proud of your friend for, she realized this and still raised beautiful and well adjusted kids.  She did not leave them to be raised by someone else while she enjoyed her youth.  She did not blame them for her troubles or for stealing her life from her.  She did not just be miserable and make everyone else be miserable with her.  She took what she had and made a beautiful life.  She deserves alot of credit for this.  I hope she has continued happiness.

  • Charyd76

    WOW. I’m sorry your friend feels this way.  Have you ever heard the saying “youth is wasted on the young”.  Sometimes I feel that way and the older I get the happier I am that I have our first child at 22.  I had my  second child at 28.  

    Children will make you the best person you could be at any age, only if you are willing to learn.  You may be the teacher but they will open up your mind to humanity, your person, and your mind.  When I turn 48 years young :) my daughters will be adults, and if my husband and I choose to “start living” then, we will, along with all the knowledge and wisdom we’ve gained.  I plan on being healthy and strong until I die, so no regrets for me…. moving forward.  

    Right now, in life’s highs and lows, when they leave the nest, until I take my last breath… I’ll declare life is good and I have no regrets!

  • Dunoonman

    I am 49 and never had children.  It is perhaps my greatest regret in life.  Money, fame, most pleasures are only temporary.  The love children give you will last, hopefully, your entire life.  If your family, father or mother, mean alot to you then you might enjoy having a larger family.

  • Lila Alejandra ♥

    Wow! So many great comments!

    I have mixed feelings about this whole issue. I have two kids 8 and 5 and I was so happy when I made the decision of having children, but boy, did I ever know it was going to be so hard at times I would have maybe tought about it twice. I agree with your friend Madge in many things, at times I choose I want my freedom, run away from such a HUGE responsabilty like this and at times I ask myself “do I regret it?” NO, I don’t. I love my girls so, so much and at times I feel very very guilty for also wanting sometimes for them to grow fast and leave the house. As one bodyrocker said “not everybody is cut out to be a parent” maybe that’s me, but that doesn’t mean I don’t love my kids it’s just that for me it has been very hard at times being a single mom and taking all the responsability of two lives, two little persons and making the best out of them. I also don’t regret it because I have had some of the most wonderfull moments, memories, laughs and satisftctions in my life with them and when they hug me so strongly and they say “I love you momy” and smile at me or when you see them laugh until they cry, that’s when I say I would do it all over again. I try every day to be a good mother, but I will be honest, some days can be very very challenging and tough, but I believe as time pases those days will be forgotten and you will only feel satisfaccion and pride for those little persons you raised, loved, taken care of, laughed with, had great adventures, enjoyed all the funny things they come up with, the lessons they leave you, etc. I don’t know, some days it can get so stressfull you just want to scream. I guess it has to do with how you can handle the challenge, responsability and the tough moments. You guys have to think about it really well because your lives will change DRAMATICALLY and you will be very limited at times, but you will also have GREAT satisfactions, laughs and joy. I hope this helped.  You will feel it, and will know in time what you really want and what ever it is, feel very good about it. But in my opinion, being a parent is really hard, for others it may be the easiest thing in the world, it all depends. Love you guys!!Take care.

    Team Mexico!!

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  • Anonymous

    I have been thinking about this all day.  You could give the same arguement about  marraige but you chose to spend your life experiences together.  I have 3 children and I can’t imagine spending life without them.  I feel the same about the man I love.  Listen to others opinions and consider them, but ultimately decide what works for the two of you.  You WILL mke the right decision for you.  Good luck!

  • Felisha

    Commando push ups: 15, 10, 11, 10, 10, 10
    Sandbag squat and kick: 8, 9, 10, 10, 9, 9
    Single knee tuck: 17, 16, 17, 18, 19, 18

    I did my 100 push ups training and 50 pull ups training before bodyrocking, so I’m pretty happy with my scores. After, I did 10 min of interval skipping. Thanks for another great workout!

    As for kids, I have two -one four-year-old and one 10-month-old. While they are a joy to have, I definitely would have prefered it to be just my husband and me. He is very happy with kids, and we have a great life together, but I never really thought about being a mom growing up. I realized what a big responsibility it was going to be, and I never really wanted it. I think it takes a certain type of person to enjoy being a parent. Someone with great patience, and endless selfless-ness can be incredibly happy with children. Independent people probably don’t find as much pleasure in it. And if you thought traveling with dogs is bad, try dragging along small children :) Ultimately, deciding to have kids is a VERY personal choice. Although I know we would all love to see your baby bodyrockers one day, should that be the path that’s right for the two of you :)  

  • Donna

    I liked this workout even tho I was so tired, so glad I done it;) Thanks so much guys!!!!!
    My scores;
    1.Commando push up 13,10,10,9,9,8
    2.Sandbag squat & push kick 15,15,14,15,14
    3.Single knee tuck 15,14.5,13,14,14,14

  • creedy2280

    having kids is a change in lifestyle and in thinking..it is hard..but if it wasn’t hard then the results wouldn’t be so great. I love dancing with my kids and running my fingers thru my daughter’s Shirley temple style curls.   They give me great joy and on some days yes they are my biggest struggle.

    as for your friend maybe there is something else going on there. Her saying she would take it all back may indicate that soemthing else is wrong or  may she is worried about soemthing or really stressed out.

  • Lisa

    Nice! If I do end up having kids, I’ll keep you in mind!

  • Anonymous

    Awesome workout! I really tried to beat Zuzana, I’ll get cha next time. (; Watch out!

    Commando push-ups =11, 12, 13, 12, 12, 14

    Sandbag squats and kicks = 7, 9, 10, 8, 9, 9

    Single Knee Tuck =17, 16, 14, 14, 15, 14

    OH! and I have both my side splits too! still working on thye middle.

  • http://www.facebook.com/yfreaky Yuli Slavina

    well, as selfish as it sounds (and it does) I can relate to that..

  • Cindy

    I will do this workout tomorrow. WoW, I love how you name your workouts. I have one son and he is the greatest blessing in my life. I thank God everyday for the privilege to be a mom.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Alana-Stacy/698175600 Alana Stacy

    Kids are definitely NOT my thing. I think having something growing inside of me is totally foreign, and no matter what everyone tells me, I just don’t think I could ever get over it. I love that a lot of people I know are having babies, I think it makes up for me choosing not to. But like it’s been said before, its your own choice! Do what you want, and if anyone ridicules you for it, sandbag push kick them in the mouth! bwahaha! …
    Anyways, my reps for this workout aren’t as great as I wish them to be… I missed a few days workout because I had a few days off that coincided with my boyfriend’s.
    Commando pushups: 12, 11, 11, 10, 10, 10
    Sandbag squat and push kick: 11, 12, 13, 13, 13, 13
    Single knee tuck: 10, 11, 12, 11, 12, 13

    So.. not bad, not horrible.. but I workout outside now that it’s warm enough so I’m COVERED in sweat! Plus those 12 mins of skipping and cool down! Whoo! I’m ready for whatever comes out tonight. :)

  • Leilany

    Let me start by reminding you both that at the end of the day, the choice is yours. And what you make of it is up to you, as well. I can’t speak for others when I say that I wouldn’t change my life with kids given the opportunity and now find that the joys in life are far more precious! I get that there are people who value their freedom of being responsible for only themselves because its easy. I just believe that being responsible for creating another little person is priceless! And its something that no one else can ever take credit for – besides our Father! With that said, let it be something you both pray over, or contemplate with YOUR OWN thoughts so that you feel good about the choice you make! And I don’t think anyone here, especially a “true bodyrocker” would feel any different about your decisions…may I just suggest that if there are to be any “baby bodyrockers” in the making, you allow us to share the blessings of watching them grow up in such a great community you’ve both set up for us all!! God bless you guys and may you find peace with all of this!!

  • Kishalacska

    Hi Zuzanna and Freddy!  I have three kids.  8 y o and  4 y o boys and a 5 months old girl who is disabled. I feel the happiest in my life. I am 35. Yes, it’s true that being a parent is challanging, I have enought problems with the boys already. Only have kids, if you have a partner who will support you in every possible way. (I have) I know that it always happens to others, but yes, you can have a disabled child too. Don’t give up yourself for the kids, live your dreams. But there is a responsibility for them. I didn’t drink anything (alcohol) when I finished the uni, because I was pregnant, I take them to school and pre-school every day and so  on …. But I never thought it’s a sacrify on my side. Don’t do anything for them which you feel you got to give up yourself. We can still go to museums, visit other cities, travel across Europe. They don’t change your life. You do. I want a forth child if it’s possible. But I agree with another writer that you got to be mature enough to have a child. Hope it helped. Wishing you the best, guys.

  • Anonymous

    I don’t have kids yet (I plan to), but I can tell you that was my mother’s dream her whole life. She ended up with two girls, (She lost the boy, to her regret) and we help run our family business that we created together. She doesn’t regret having children at all. And now since we’re moved out and taking over the business more and more, my parents are getting time to travel while they are still in their 40′s.

    Anyway, here are my very consistent scores. :)

    Commando Push Ups: 11 – 11 – 10 – 10 – 8 – 9 ( I was practically screaming on that last one, trying to beat my score from the last round.)

    Sandbag Squat: 8 – 8 – 7 – 8 – 8 – 7

    Single Knee Tuck (modified): 11 – 11 – 11 – 11 – 11 – 11

  • Anonymous

    1. 12 (full) rest knees to full: 10-10-11-10-10
    2. 16# dumbbells 15-15-13-14.5-14-11
    3. 14-15-13-21-12-21

  • http://www.themusicofyoga.com Laura

    I don’t know what I would do without you Zuzana and Freddie. As an almost 2 year-old bodyrocker, I STILL look to you everyday for inspiration and instruction. I have been with you through at least 4 or 5 of your houses. Please continue to do this for us until you are an old and wrinkly! :) Your karma will serve you and give back to you for all you.

    I am doing a photo shoot soon for my demo CD cover and will send you a pic, and hopefully a song. Thank you!

  • Lydia

    awesome!

  • ivy

    1. 13-9-7-7-8-8
    2. 9-10-10-10-10-10
    3. 12-12-11-10-11-11

  • Jill Hobbs

    Right on! I am a teacher and it’s easy for me to pick out students who have a difficult home life and whose parents are not there for them or teaching them the right things. I do feel like many in society expect the educational system to teach children things they should have learned at home. I am glad you are not one of those people!

  • Tamar

     hey zuzana
    i can also do a side split and want to improve my center one. can you share your stretching routine and show how you work on your center split?
    thanks!
    BTW great workout!

  • KIMBERLAKE93

    To Freddy, Tammy77 and all my fellow Canadian BodyRockers:  HAPPY CANADA DAY!!!!!  I’m SO proud to be living in this gorgeous Country!!!  :)
    I’m shocked at how much MORE difficult this workout is than it looks!!!  Luv your LuLuLemon pants Zuz!  I have the exact same ones and in honor of you today, I wore them for the workout LOL!  The SB squats were the easiest part for me and I struggled with the rest, my abs killed….booty not so much. 
    Commando Push Up:  11/11/9/8/8/8
    Sandbag Squat & Push Kick:  13/13/14/14/14/15
    Single Knee Tuck:  16/11/10/11/9/12

    I sooooo can’t wait to do this workout again and show some much needed improvements!!!  
    Thanks for a great workout Z &F!  Have a fab day BodyRockers!!
    CHEERS!  :)

    • KIMBERLAKE93

      PS….Where is this “coffee talk” located……..anyone, anyone??????  I don’t see it at all on the website?

      • AudraFit

        They posted one on their Youtube channel :)

    • KIMBERLAKE93

      PS….Where is this “coffee talk” located……..anyone, anyone??????  I don’t see it at all on the website?

    • tee

      Happy Canada day eh!

  • Guest

    To Freddy, Tammy77 and all my fellow Canadian BodyRockers:  HAPPY CANADA DAY!!!!!  I’m SO proud to be living in this gorgeous Country!!!  :)
    I’m shocked at how much MORE difficult this workout is than it looks!!!  Luv your LuLuLemon pants Zuz!  I have the exact same ones and in honor of you today, I wore them for the workout LOL!  The SB squats were the easiest part for me and I struggled with the rest, my abs killed….booty not so much.  Commando Push Up:  11/11/9/8/8/8Sandbag Squat & Push Kick:  13/13/14/14/14/15Single Knee Tuck:  16/11/10/11/9/12I sooooo can’t wait to do this workout again and show some much needed improvements!!!  Thanks for a great workout Z &F!  Have a fab day BodyRockers!!CHEERS!  :)

    • Janessa Reimer

      I haven’t met very many canadian bodyrockers on this site! Happy Canada Day!

    • Janessa Reimer

      I haven’t met very many canadian bodyrockers on this site! Happy Canada Day!

    • Anonymous

      Happy Canada Day!!!!

  • Lydia

    Hey Freddy,

    Sounds like your friend perhaps had her children early in life (since she is early 40′s & they are teenagers), and perhaps feels like she missed out on ‘herself’ and without knowing or having background other than she is a great person, it’s hard to know where such a comment came from, but it sounds as if perhaps she missed out on something or did it for the wrong reasons…having children has to be muttal- meaning both parents need to be involved in the decision and more importantly BOTH parents need to actively participate in the WHOLE process…it’s the hardest most thankless job in the world, and I totally respect Full time parent’s (mom or dad) and….

    LOTS AND LOTS OF RESPECT TO SINGLE PARENTS!

     too many people have children for the wrong reasons: maybe it will complete the relationship, maybe it will make them “happy, fullfilled, pressure from family, and so on…so it’s not a decision to be taken lightly(as so many people do), because the fact is that YES, it’s hard, challenging, and so many other things…but at the end of the day- I WOULD NEVER TAKE BACK HAVING THEM…my daughter has been the most amazing gift EVER, and until you walk in those shoes you will NEVER know…

    why your friend made the comment only she knows, but I will say that having them later in life- at least for myself (i had her at 36, I will be 40 soon) was a huge blessing. I don’t think I (note ME, does not apply to ALL) could of been the mom I am today at 20 or even 30, there is something that comes with age called MATURITY that plays a huge role in parenting…

  • Anonymous

    I loooooved that……my abs hurts…!!!!!!!!!!!!:D :D
    Commando push ups : 13, 13, 10, 8, 9, 9
    Sandbag Squat and push kick : 12, 10, 9, 9, 8, 9
    Single Knee tuck: 19, 15, 16, 16, 19, 19

    but the next time……..i’ll do it better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    About the coffee talk now…..firts of all…..
    WELCOME BACK COFFE TALKS!!!!!!!!!!!
    now….about kids….im in a relationship and we live together, wwe are not still married…..but for now..and for the next few years i cant imagine myshelf with a child…neither my boyfriend….I dont know if im positive or not to be parent….but i want to be foul of images and experiences before i m gonna get pregnant…its an enormous huge titan responsibility……..and of course its a bit scary this…..i suppose that i wanna want to be a mother…..thats the circle of the life…no?

  • Amandafit

    Great workout!!! My scores are below, still haven’t gotten my full strength back from surgery I guess, because I usually keep up pretty close with you Zuzana!!! Have a great weekend.

    Amanda

    Commando Push Up:        12,10,12,9,11,8
    Sandbag Squat & Kick:     11,11,10,10,9,11
    Single Knee Tuck:              13,12,14,16,12,13

  • Anonymous

    Does anyone know the film Idiocracy?
     At some point it’s about educated people not getting kids, because at first they study, then the woman want’s to work some time and not getting pregnant immediatly, then, they both work so hard and are so stressed that they don’t want so make kids..and in the end they are too old :( whereas stupid people always get lots of kids…

  • Anonymous

    Does anyone know the film Idiocracy?
     At some point it’s about educated people not getting kids, because at first they study, then the woman want’s to work some time and not getting pregnant immediatly, then, they both work so hard and are so stressed that they don’t want so make kids..and in the end they are too old :( whereas stupid people always get lots of kids…

  • Anonymous

    Does anyone know the film Idiocracy?
     At some point it’s about educated people not getting kids, because at first they study, then the woman want’s to work some time and not getting pregnant immediatly, then, they both work so hard and are so stressed that they don’t want so make kids..and in the end they are too old :( whereas stupid people always get lots of kids…

    • fairy

       I love that movie and at least in the “rich” countries its already starting… in the movie after, I think, 500 years the humans got so stupid that they almoust kill themselves, because they use soda to water the plants and wonder why nothing is growing…

  • pupster

    Most people who have kids have them unplanned.  They aren’t ready to take up the challenge. It throws them a curve ball on their life.  That is the reason for the many regrets. They have to make sacrifice for the children which they aren’t ready. hardships comes in many forms, not just having a baby.  It seems your friend is having regret if she is to say that dwelling on the past about what she gave up rather than what she gain.  My personal take is to be financially ready before having babies, the world is already over populated with parents causing suffering to the child due to lack of finance to take care of them.  why bring a baby into the world if the baby is to suffer from abandonment and not love because you aren’t responsible. There shouldn’t be a problem if you plan to have the baby because your willing to prepare yourself for whatever comes and ready to sacrifice for the baby. It’s not like late teen births and early 20s births that are unplanned that happen so often these days. If your ready go for it, but do it for yourself not because your parents wants a grandchild like many other people.

  • pupster

    Most people who have kids have them unplanned.  They aren’t ready to take up the challenge. It throws them a curve ball on their life.  That is the reason for the many regrets. They have to make sacrifice for the children which they aren’t ready. hardships comes in many forms, not just having a baby.  It seems your friend is having regret if she is to say that dwelling on the past about what she gave up rather than what she gain.  My personal take is to be financially ready before having babies, the world is already over populated with parents causing suffering to the child due to lack of finance to take care of them.  why bring a baby into the world if the baby is to suffer from abandonment and not love because you aren’t responsible. There shouldn’t be a problem if you plan to have the baby because your willing to prepare yourself for whatever comes and ready to sacrifice for the baby. It’s not like late teen births and early 20s births that are unplanned that happen so often these days. If your ready go for it, but do it for yourself not because your parents wants a grandchild like many other people.

  • pupster

    Most people who have kids have them unplanned.  They aren’t ready to take up the challenge. It throws them a curve ball on their life.  That is the reason for the many regrets. They have to make sacrifice for the children which they aren’t ready. hardships comes in many forms, not just having a baby.  It seems your friend is having regret if she is to say that dwelling on the past about what she gave up rather than what she gain.  My personal take is to be financially ready before having babies, the world is already over populated with parents causing suffering to the child due to lack of finance to take care of them.  why bring a baby into the world if the baby is to suffer from abandonment and not love because you aren’t responsible. There shouldn’t be a problem if you plan to have the baby because your willing to prepare yourself for whatever comes and ready to sacrifice for the baby. It’s not like late teen births and early 20s births that are unplanned that happen so often these days. If your ready go for it, but do it for yourself not because your parents wants a grandchild like many other people.

  • milkaSR

    I say enjoy your freedom until u can, children require lot of your attention and even doing something for yourself u must take from them and that makes u feel not good about the whole thing. I am mother of 2 boys.

  • milkaSR

    I say enjoy your freedom until u can, children require lot of your attention and even doing something for yourself u must take from them and that makes u feel not good about the whole thing. I am mother of 2 boys.

  • milkaSR

    I say enjoy your freedom until u can, children require lot of your attention and even doing something for yourself u must take from them and that makes u feel not good about the whole thing. I am mother of 2 boys.

  • Anonymous

    I hope I did this right. 1,2,3,1,2,3,1,2,3,etc.?
    anyways, killer workout again.  loved it.

    commando pushup 15-14-14-13-13-14
    sb squat & push kick 13-14-14-13-14-14
    single knee tuck 18-18-18-19-18-20

    as for kids, my wife and i have 2, a boy and a girl, ages 8 and 6.  i’m 43 and my wife is 40.  i wouldn’t trade them for anything.  sure, i sometimes wish i was 25 again, with 25 year old responsibilities (and knees), but having kids has been the greatest experience and greatest joy of my life.  we chose to have 2 and we chose (about) when to have them.  they are best friends with each other and i adore them completely.

    that being said, of course it will change your life.  how can it not?

    whatever or whenever you decide, choose wisely, and remember it’s your choice.  children can’t choose to be brought into this world, so if you decide to have kids, make them precious and cherish them every day.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=706388249 Tori Larson Bradford

     I finally got this finished after spending time hanging out with my kids this morning. Totally worth putting off the workout.  Here are my scores:  Commando Push Up:  8.5, 8, 7,7,6,7
    Sandbag Squat and Push Kick:  8.5, 7, 8, 9, 7,8
    Single Knee Tuck:  14, 13, 10, 12, 13, 11

    As for having kids, totally worth it.  I had my first at the age of 24 (still trying to loose the belly and extra fat from that one as well as the other two).  I have grown so much from my kids.  They have taught me so many things I don’t think I would have learned if I didn’t have kids.  I don’t feel like I gave up much when I had kids.  In fact I feel like I gained a ton.  My kids are some of my best friends.  We love spending time together, but the best times are when we cuddle up and read together.  Oh and shh don’t tell my kids but I secretly love when they fight over who gets to sit on my lap. 

    I had my kids in my 20s and I don’t regret it.  Now I will be a younger Grandma (hopefully not too young) and I will have the energy to spoil and play with the grand kids.  Not sure I could have handled the little sleep that you get with babies if I had waited until I was older to have kids.  

    There is just something so special about seeing your kids grow and learn, it’s amazing the things kids can do. 

    I’m definitely not saying that being a parent is easy.  It is the hardest thing I have ever done.  It is physically straining, mental straining, and emotionally straining.  But as we all know sometimes the hardest things bring the best results.  That’s so true with being a parent.  My kids have made me a better person and I learn something new everyday.  The happiness you can have from being unselfish and raising kids is incomparable with any other happiness you will ever know. 

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=706388249 Tori Larson Bradford

      Oh and I’m not sure why this is called the Booty Shaping workout.  My abs hurt like crazy the whole workout.  

      • KIMBERLAKE93

        Agreed!!!

  • Anonymous

    I could not stop focusing on your abs during your pre-workout talk – AMAZING!

  • Daphedan

    First, the workout:
    Commando push-up- 12/11/11/12/10/11
    squat and push-up (with 30# weight) -11/11/11/11/11/11
    single knee tuck- 10/10/10/11/10/9

    Second, let me comment on the kids issue.  I’m a stay at home mom with 2 kids, ages 9 and 6.  I love my kids and would not trade my life for any other life.  I grew up in a home with a father who repeatedly said in the presence of myself and my siblings that if he could redo his life he would stay single.  He hated the family life and all its responsibilities and now has nothing to do with any of his children. 

    That being said, you have to make a decision if having children is the right decision for you or not.  Coming from a Christian Bible-believing background, I believe that God sees children as a blessing from the Lord and designed us to procreate.  However, you must be prepared to accept the responsibilities that come along with that life.  If you can’t be a good parent, then don’t have them. 

    It’s not a decision that anyone can advise you how to make.  Your friend should not give you advice about what choice to make.  If you have a natural inclination to want a family, you probably have the natural inclination for accepting the job in it’s entirety.  No one who has ever been around a baby ever gets the idea that it’s all a fairy tale.  It does take work, but if you want kids in the future you probably have an idea about the work that it entails and are ready to take on that life. 

    Make your own decision about kids between the two of you and do what you feel comfortable with.  It’s your decision, your life, and your family.  It is work, but it’s worth all of it to those who choose to take it on.

  • Annebel Wind

    Hi everyone,

    My scores for today:

    commando push ups: 10, 10, 9, 9, 9, 8
    sandbag squad & push kick: 6, 6, 5, 6, 6  ( was hard to keep my balance, so :D )
    single knee tuck: 14, 15, 13, 14, 16, 15

    Thanx!

  • fairy

    Hey,

    my scores for this one:

    10- 9- 8- 7- 8- 7
    9- 8.5- 8- 8- 8- 8
    15- 15- 13- 12- 11- 12

    As for the having-kids-issue: I do want to have children one day (as soon as I found the father for them ;) ), but I really think everyone should decide that for themselfes. If you want or dont want children dont let your mind reason with your heart and get discouraged by other oppinions.
    Me personally I get easily confused by my mind and my heart fighting with each other . If I have trouble figuring out what it is I really want I flip a coin, because if I am happy with the decision it made for me, I know thats what I want… and if I wanna flip it again till it shows me its other side I know I already decided for that. When I know what it is I really want deep down in my heart, I try to follow it not thinking about any reasons against it and never looking back, so regret will never have a chance to sneak up on me. ;)

    so anyway I hope you’ll make the right decision for yourself and follow it happily.

    all the best

    fairy

  • Anonymous

    This will be my new favorite Workout! (:

  • Anonymous

    Man those push ups kicked my butt!! :D I struggled with the squats cos I was using my 14kg barbell and I really wanted to pay attention to my form hence the low reps. 

    1. Commando Push Ups 14, 15, 14, 13, 11, 12
    2. Squat & Push Kick 9, 7, 6, 7, 6, 7
    3. Single Knee Tuck 14, 15, 16, 13, 15, 17

    I enjoyed this one very much, thank you!

  • Anonymous

    Hi there – I really enjoyed this post! I especially liked the Freedom that lasts 5 minutes :) Thanks for posting.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Kirry-Kaatje/100002370762608 Kirry Kaatje

    Welcome Mariella. Don’t be shy and have fun Bodyrocking. :)

  • http://twitter.com/GoustiFruit GoustiFruit

    Oh I messed with this wo, I started doing 111111-222222-… but after 3 times “1″ I found it so hard that I thought I made a mistake so I finished the “1″ and then did 2-3-2-3-2-3… I now realize it really was 111…222…333 :-

    My scores anyway…
    1- 14 / 12 / 11 / 10 / 9 / 9
    2- 12 / 13 / 14 / 13 / 14 / 13
    3- 16 / 15 / 15 / 15 / 16 / 17

  • Lisa

    Good point, Sciannen. The love is so strong and the worry so strong that it must feel like a burden at times.

  • christina14

    Hi Zuzana and Freddy. I was looking at your anniversary indian dish recipe so i could make it and I looked at the date and it said June 30. I just wanted to say Happy Anniversary if thats your anniversary day!

    • Anonymous

      Thanks very much – our anni is July 29th but close enough :)

      • KIMBERLAKE93

        Awwwwww!  Yay!  I wrote it down, I won’t forget to wish you “HA” in 28 days.  How many years Freddy, if you don’t mind me asking….?  And your story about your friends having kids kinda rocked me too….. :/  But I luv luv luv the brutal honesty from your friend.  Thank her for us!  :)

      • KIMBERLAKE93

        Typo Freddy! June 29th, right?

  • thisdamngirl

    Dearest Zuzi and Freddy,
                                         Thank you SO MUCH for sharing your thoughts about your friend’s earnest opinion about family life.Here’s my 2 cents.I love children and everything they entail,but I would never,ever for the life of me,ever have children.Why?Simply because it would entail bringing somebody new into this world and literally being devoted to their needs,wants,desires 24/7 for the rest of my life and that is just not a compromise I’am willing to make.

    Yes,parenting is a job that is never done and life’s too damn short to spend on raising a child who might turn out to be a rotten despite your best efforts.So,what if the child turns out right,you say?Well,then you would have wasted at least 20 years of YOUR life doing things for someone else when you could have been doing so much more for yourself.

    The idea of children is only grand and so very appealing to most individuals,in my opinion,because everyone feels warm and fuzzy about the idea of being cared for in your golden years by someone of your own bloodline.Fair enough,though I still strongly disagree that is enough reason to give up your precious time to parent.We all live but once and time is running shorter every minute down the line!

    Me?I intend to take care of myself,live healthily,BodyRock and stay strong not just now in my 20′s but way into middle age and far beyond.I love children but I don’t need to have them for myself,many,many more people need to seriously think about the reasons behind why they want a family and I’ll guarantee you that many more would choose to be child-free because that’s the only way to truly experience life and all the beautiful things it has to offer.That’s the simplest way I have to express it:D.

    I truly commend your friend for having the courage to say what she said,despite being a mother to 2 kids who turned out well.She’s spot on and I sincerely hope you and Zuzi will think about what she’s said long and hard because she’s absolutely right.

  • Anonymous

    Happy birthday to you!!! ♥ :)  

  • Anonymous

    Very good Friday workout today.  Here are my scores:
    Commando Pushups: 10, 9, 9, 8, 8, 6

    Squats: 7, 9, 10, 9, 9, 8

    Single Knee Tuck: 15, 16, 12, 13, 13, 14
    i already posted my thoughts of the topic today…

  • Steffneed

    My husband and i have three boys 10, 9, and 5 and not one of them were planned. We are only 32 so we were young and not even married when our first son was born. Many times i have wondered what my life would be like without them but i always come back to the conclusion that they are the most wonderful and precious gift and have brought so much joy and enlightenment to our lives( even with all the fighting, crying, not listening…).  The boys are actually visiting with grandparents for three weeks right now and even though I really appreciate having the house to ourselves and the freedom to do what we want whenever, im excited for them to be home.  The love i have for them is infinite and indescribable.  There are many different views, opinions and feelings about children and all of them are valid. I feel that if you and your partner listen to your hearts and what YOU truly feel and let nature and the universe be the guide you’ll find your answer.  Life will always be what you make of it, it can be happy and fulfilling with or without children.  My children are wonderful, sweet, full of love (most of the time lol.) and they have taught me about myself and the kind of person i want to be. It is always challenging and that perpetual question ” am i being the best parent i can be” visits my thoughts often, however the bottom line is I love them so much and i wouldnt change it for anything.

  • Sydwye

    A couple years ago I was facing the biological clock and considering having children. I went to my friends asking about what it was like having children. Many of them told me how they loved their children. It’s fabulous having them, blah, blah. You’ve heard it I’m sure. So, I continued digging deeper and deeper. Several of them ended up in tears talking about their regrets and even talked about wishes that they didn’t have kids. But immediately after stating that they went back to the blah blah parenthood talk. It helped me realize I don’t want kids. I do feel some social guilt at times and wonder if I’ll regret it. I hope and create my belief that the only way I’ll regret it is if I don’t follow my dreams, paths and long term desires.

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  • http://www.makavelina.webnode.cz Nina_CZ

    I am not a parent and I don’t even plan to be. I don’t think that having children is a purpose of life (and I am sure all parents will disagree with me), I think it is just an option, just like everything else. Of course I can’t compare having a kid and having a dog, but this also is an option. I don’t think people necessarily need to be a relationship to live happy and quality life, the same with children. Of course your life will be richer in some aspects if you have them, but I don’t think the decision not to have them will make your life sad or missing something. I never wanted to be a mother and I don’t expect my opinion to change any day soon. But of course, never say never. My dad does not agree with this (well, there is nothing he can do about it), and some other members of my family dont like it, but my closest people do understand. I was talking about this with my grandma few days ago, and she told me exactly the same, she said that she LOVES her kids to death (my mom and my aunt), but if she could make that choice again, she would not have kids. My mother had me soon, she was 18 when I was born, and my grandma was 18 when my mother was born. I cant imagine that I could have 8year old by now, if I ever followed their footsteps! Me??? Still a child inside, and having a KID??? No, thank you! 
    Don’t get me wrong, I love children, I can play with them, I love babysitting and taking care of my friends kids, but I just don’t want to have my own. Not because I don’t wanna be pregnant, carry that huge belly on me :D just because I don’t feel like it. And I don’t wanna do something as serious as this just because people expect me to. If I change my mind in future, fine. But for now it is a NO for me. 
    (On a funny note, me, on my way to divorce, I don’t even have that option, hahaha)

  • AudraFit

    Commando Pushups: 18/14/13/13/12/12
    40LBBSquat/PushKick: 16/15/15/13/12/11
    Single Knee Tuck: 20/17/16/15/15/14

    Amazingly I feel energized after this workout so I’m gonna continue with my leg training today. BTW since I have been supplementing these workouts with my weight training I’m feeling a lot stronger and less zapped after these routines so don’t be afraid of weights ladies!

    As far as this interesting conversation on having children goes, to each his own! I had my first child @ 20 and my second @ 29 years of age. The first was not planned and my hubby and I had to mature really fast. We then married and decided too wait for the next. 9 years later we planned our second and so far we are happy with our two girls. We are both 32 years of age and now that we are done we can enjoy the rest life still has to offer us. I don’t think we would have married had I not gotten pregnant with our first child and I can’t imagine life without my hubby and two girls!

    • http://www.makavelina.webnode.cz Nina_CZ

      Oh Audra, let me act like I am 12yrs old girl and you being Hanna Montana:
      “One day I wanna be like you!” :D
      Great score girl!

      • AudraFit

        LOL your too cute ;) Thanks Nina!

  • Anonymous

    While I don’t fault anyone for procreating (its our design to procreate) my husband of 13 years and I have chosen to not have kids.  We have many good reasons for our choice.  Its not to make room for travel, for carreer or any of those other things mentioned.  We just have no desire for children based on many many reasons.  I love kids.  I’m not a hater of kids or parents.  Don’t get me wrong here!  In fact, our friends tell us all the time we’d make great parents.  But I think two intelligent people like Freddie and Zuzanna are wise to hear all sides of the issue before making this lifelong commiment.  I have 5 nephews who I have been like a mother to.  I have seen things happen in their life that break my heart.  Things they couldn’t controll, but things that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.  I can’t handle that kind of heart break.  I agree with the comments below about the impact parents have on their kids.  However, there are other factors that impact children.  …  Sorry to be the downer here…just being honest

  • http://profiles.google.com/patrice.read Patrice Read

    This is my perspective. Is being a parent easy? No. Will you be called upon to make sacrifices that you most likely wouldn’t have to face if you didn’t have kids? Yes. Do you really understand all of what you’re getting into when you start a family? To an extent, no. Is it worth it? Oh yeah. I just cuddled my 4 month old to sleep after doing today’s workout with my 4 yr old, so I’m biased right now for sure.

  • Zoe Quixote

    oh, i did the one with the santana-susana push-ups today. love those :)   this one must have loaded late?

    just my two cents…i don’t really understand about having children, maybe there’s something wrong with me.  :) but if you find yourself really desperate to have children later, and regret not having them, and you have the means… there are so many abused, hungry, neglected kids in this world. it might be even more to take some in?

  • http://kenjibankhead.posterous.com/ ashtromanius

    Wow. That story breaks my heart. If you were to ask questions further of “Madge” I think you’d find her true reason for saying what she said- maybe she gave up on a dream or something. I have 3 (and pregnant with my 4th) and I am no model mother, by any means, but I love my children. Some times I wish I could give them away because they drive me crazy, and then the other times I’m laughing, teaching, hugging, being kissed, holding a tiny hand, being proud, loving these little people. I don’t wish them away, I’ve done everything I’ve always wanted to and without neglecting my children. I think everyone should have a chance to be a parent- if and when they want to. No one should be forced, but I think it’s selfish to not have them because a person wants to have a career or travel or whatever. Children DO change your life, just like getting married changes your life. You give yourself to that person and you sacrifice, work hard, you teach and are taught. Having children does the same thing. When you experience joy with children it’s 100 times more than alone, and the same goes for experiencing sorrow. I wouldn’t change it for the world… nor all the money or traveling or fame or whatever. Plus, when I’m old… who will come visit me? Your circle of friends dwindles as you get older… who wants to die and have no one care?! ugh. that sounds awful. 

    I think you two would make wonderful and cute parents. I give having kids 5 Burpees out of 5! ;)

  • Anonymous

    As a parent of a 2 and 5 year old, I can honestly only say this.  Children take everything you have in life.  Time, money, energy, and sometimes hopes and dreams.  They take away your selfishness and cause you to focus on something other than yourself.  Losing your selfishness is a daily process that is hard at times.

    In return, children give unconditional love.  New hopes and dreams.  New motivations for things in life.  I began to focus on health and fitness so that I could be around to enjoy my children’s lives.  I have lost 40 pounds and feel great and can total wear out some kids.  I take my self time to body rock.

    BTW, as a high school teacher, I see it over and over again.  The apple does not fall far from the tree.  If the kid is an a-hole, he learned it from mom or dad-not a classmate or culture.  If the kid is a jewel-he learned it from mom or dad.  Some people can overcome poor upbringings, but it takes lots of support-just like creating physical change takes lots of support.  If you are struggling with issues (regardless of what it is) seek support, but ultimately the individual has to take responsibility.  Oh yeah, the individual also reaps the rewards.

    Just my take on it.

  • Anonymous

    Its Friday! and I am glad because I REALLY need the rest tomorrow!

    Comando Push Up 15,13,12,12,12,13
    SB Squat & Push Kick 10,11,12,12,12,11 (After the first one I realized I could not balance the push kick AND the sand bag at the same time, I chose to put the bag down and push through the kick,..awesome on the abs!)
    Single knee tuck 13,15,15,13,13,12

    After this I decided to look for a “bikini workout” because we finally have bikini weather here in Ohio!!
    I chose 1/19/2011 “Beach Workout” and LOVED it!!!
    Thanx Zuz and Freddy!!!!

    About the kids, what ever floats your boat, simple, but true. Are you happy where u are now? great! What do you see yourself doing in 5 yrs? Do children fit in there? in 10 yrs?….Hey its 2011, choosing to go childfree is no longer makes you that big of an outcast! hahahahaha!!!

    I had mine one and only at 19!!!! (single mom/no way Im doing it again/surgically making SURE it doesn’t)  When she is 18 and goes off to college I will only be 38!!!! and I will still be young when I get my life back!!!! Thats right, cause although I wouldn’t take it back (I was heading down a dangerous road B4 her, I could honestly say she saved me) my life has been hers. All of my choices depend on how they will effect her first, me second.
    Even working out, although they are for “me”. They are for her, so that she can have a healthy mom to rely on when she need me in the future!

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  • Janessa Reimer

    I just finished this work out, gosh my arms are soooo sore from yesterday, it was so hard to do the commando pushups.
    commando pushup: 13.12.12.11.10.10
    sandbag squat and push kick: 14.15.15.15.15.15
    single knee tuck: 13.16.16.16.14.16
    i pushed super hard, my arms are useless lol.

    About the kids thing, its totally up to you guys, it doesn’t matter what other people say you should do, if you want kids then go ahead and have them! My husband and i are quite young (22) so we don’t plan on having kids till we are closer till 30. Hes still in school and i am working.we’re just enjoying life right now. i don’t want kids at all right now, i know i am not ready….but one day i’ll be as ready as you ever can be. anyhoo, can’t wait for your next workout!

  • Anonymous

    I believe that everyone has their own dream of either becoming a parent one day or not. And I think that it is a decision that truly both of you have to decide without having any influence from other people, not even your closest friend. True that we always want to hear opinions (and actually also good) from other people who have or don’t have children, but at the end of the day it’s both of you who live your life and I hope for you two that you will make the best decision that’s best for you :) .

    So.. my scores:
    Comando push ups: 12 10 9 11 9 11
    Sandbag squat kick: 9.5 9.5 9 9.5 9 9
    Knee tuck : 12 15 12 12 11 10

  • Angel S.

    Thanks!  My mom and I have an amazing relationship and I wouldn’t have it any other way! :)

  • http://twitter.com/kmsdove Kathy Schneider

    Ok so I guess I’m going to be the black sheep of the group.  I’ve never been able to have children so the only perspective I can see it from is from my sister or brothers’ view.  From mine, I am happy for everyone that can have children, including my siblings, it’s been a great joy having a relationship with my nieces and nephews.  However, I can’t see living my life any other way without my own children.  I’ve been able to stay focused on things that make me happy and I love having the sole responsibility of just taking care of me.  I’ve been able to do lots of things that most people can only think about doing after their children grow up and are out of the house. If I could do it over, no I would not have children.  I don’t think I could put aside the things that I would want for myself. Call me selfish.  But I’ve never been able to have children so my perspective is very different.  I know what your thinking……No I don’t want to adopt one either.  I rarely have time to fit in my Zuzana workouts (but I wouldn’t miss it for the world). 

    • http://cindybeverly.wordpress.com/ Cindy Beverly

      You know what your not the black sheep.  What is wonderful is that this is your perspective and it can be neither right or wrong it just is, and when people realize this and stop judging others for living their life differently this world will be a lot better.  I don’t judge you I think that this world would be an amazing place if people realized that they didn’t want children before they bring them in this world.  You go girl!

  • Ellavemia

    100% agreed. It’s AWESOME not having kids! I always see people gushing about how amazing their kids are, but it’s truly great not having them as well! Our lives can be as boring or as hectic and chaotic as we want and our dreams and ideas can take us wherever we want to go and we don’t have to feel the guilt of not being able to provide everything for another person.

    I should mention that we are pretty poor and uncertain about a lot of things but we are happy with each other, and kids are not something we’ve ever been uncertain about. We have an opportunity to move to another country to make a better life or we may stay here and just work to make ends meet. Either way we have each other, we have ourselves, and nothing more is needed. Our successes and failures are our own.

    I have never felt selfish for choosing this life. I would feel selfish bringing another person whom I can’t responsibly raise on little money along for the ride. I love living my adventure with my best friend and husband and I wouldn’t change it for the world. I know we’ll get by and we’ll succeed one day at something we love. I will never feel like I missed out by not procreating, because I know that I lived life the way I wanted and that’s all it takes for true happiness.

  • Mary Lou

    This is a very personal, and touchy, subject. I know people on ALL sides of this fence. Couples who decided not to have children on their own, and those who accepted the fact because they couldn’t get pregnant. Those who have tried desperately to have children and needed medical assistance to do so, and those who are still trying and suffering heartbreak. Many have wonderful families that are still intact, and some that are not, because maybe they picked the wrong person to settle down with.

    I never thought one way or the other when I was younger, I figured how can anyone make that decision until you know who you’ll spend your life with? I met my husband when I was 25, was engaged at 26, married at 28 and we bought a house at 29. We traveled and had a good time when other couples already had kids. I wouldn’t have changed anything at the time, but you are allowed to change your mind, that’s what life is. At 32, I had my first, of 3 children, and I wouldn’t change that for the world! I can’t imagine life without them now. Sure there are times when you think “I would like to be able to do _________.” but can’t because you have children. If it’s really important to you, you will figure out a way to do _________, or it wasn’t that important in the grand scheme of things to begin with.

    Zuzana and Freddy, you guys seem solid to me and are doing the right thing, enjoying what life has to offer. Never say never, enjoy it, but don’t get sucked into the “LA lifestyle” or let it change who you are, and you will know when and if children are right for you.

    P.S. I’m doing this one tomorrow, I just did the Sexy Beast Workout.

  • Anna Krzy

    I can’t imagine having kids yet (23) nor do I know if I’ll have them later, but I did the workout! At this point, I’m busy with everything I do and am happy.

    1. 13 12 12 11 11 122. (no sandbag) 15 15 15 15 16 163. 15 15 14 12 14 14

  • Isabelle G.

    Hi!
    I think being a parent gives you the best and most profound possibility of learning and growing as a person… ; it’s the most joyous way to learn generosity!  It gives you the experience of selfless love, and the light and pure trust you see in a child’s eyes is one of the most touching thing in the world….
    I wouldn’t change a thing in my life, concerning my kids: I have two boys, 13 and 16, and they are, to my husband and I, the light and joy of our lives!!
    Having said this, I also think that you have to have a deep and profound desire to have children!  This feeling and knowing that it’s something you want…  This feeling of a big “yes” in your heart!!
    O.k., now, enough said…… I didn’t obey Freddy, and didn’t do my workout before.  So, bye for now, I’m gonna put my workout clothes on!!

  • ingrid haustein

    honestly I had my daughter at 24 years and really wanted a lot with my husband, it is true that everyone sees things his way, I advise you of things and enjoy life until you are sure to raise a family that is an enormous responsibility on one’s own life changes, are other needs, logic does not return to be like when you were childless, and there is the question one is willing to drop everything and start a family? I am a woman elected and good luck with my daughter and I love the feeling I had when I was pregnant and born was something nobody could give me in life and what really advise. a son gives things that nobody does, or at least in my case is so, beyond my husband’s logical.today I can say I love my family and if someone asks me to do would say, but all in good time …regards

  • Anonymous

    Having children is a big responsibility but in my opinion its also the greatest gift. I have three children ages 4, 8 and 11 and I wouldn’t change for the world. I will say to first experience life and fulfill some of those dreams you have then when you feel ready have some children. I can be having a not so good day and they will say or do something to put a big smile on my face and lift my spirits. I’m not saying its easy believe me when I say there are some tough and stressful times but the good definitely out weighs the bad. Oh and as a woman the joy and happiness you feel when you bring that precious bundle of joy into the world and finally get to hold is indescribable:)

  • Ellavemia

    Thanks for another great workout Freddy and Zuzana. It’s not uncommon these days to hear parents say what your friend said, and I think it’s brave to be so honest. It’s important for everyone to realize that having kids isn’t a requirement for happiness. Keep in mind that you and Zuzana would surely have beautiful, fun, well-mannered children, but if you have goals and dreams and are seeing them through without having a larger family (A family of two is still a family!) then do that and don’t regret anything.

    I can only speak from what I’ve seen and heard, as my husband and I are remaining childfree by choice, but kids are definitely not for everyone. Just thinking about it and weighing the options is a great step in my opinion. Far too many people have them first and then think about it. Either way I wish you both the best.

  • http://www.facebook.com/dana.vanbeneden Dana Grace Van Beneden

    I have to admit, this subject makes me very uncomfortable.  I have children but have found that there is a disconnect between families that believe strongly in having children and couples who don’t want children.  I have had friendships grow distant because of it.  Please don’t take this the wrong way but I felt very sad when I heard what “Madge” told you.  I’m not judging, that was very honest of her and I’m glad she was honest but, wow, does she really think she missed out on something by having her children?  That makes me so sad.  I have two girls and it’s not perfect over here all the time.  There is joy but also tears and a lot of days are hard. I happen to be a single mother, I’m poor, I have no family where I live, I live in a home owned by my church, my ex is an alcoholic who doesn’t pay child support, I work two jobs, I’m starting school in the fall. I mean, life’s tough!  It would probably be a hell of a lot easier for me right now if I didnt have kids.  I would never go back and change my decision to bring these wonderful girls into my life-ever!  Period. They are all I have and my love for them is enduring.  You can’t replicate the unconditional love a child offers with any single other experience in life. You also can’t replicate the particular love that forms when you have your own child. It’s just such a special relationship that I can not imagine if I had the choice to go back and change having kids that I would ever even give that a thought!!!  Love is the only thing that endures.  Everything else is, well, everything else.

  • Mary

    Hey Freddie and Zuzana,

    This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot. I just turned 23 and have a lot of family asking me when I’m going to have kids…but I’m not married, and I still feel like a kid myself! My parents were 35 when they had me and 39 when they had my sister, and we both turned out great, so I think as long as you take care of yourself and are healthy, and take great care of yourself during pregnancy, there’s no harm in waiting. My aunt had her first kid at 21 (but she was married at 18), and it’s allowed her to be able to have a relationship with her great-grandaughter! She’s very healthy and active and only in her 70s. So I can see advantages to having kids early and waiting.

    I personally am not sure I want kids. My other aunt has always said that her relationship with my sister and me were enough. My parents both work full-time so she was with us a lot as children, and I think of her as a second mom. Our relationship is unique, and it’s only been possible for her to give us this attention because she didn’t have kids! I also know a couple in their 50s or so who are both professors and are constantly traveling the world because they don’t have kids. They get to do and have gotten to do so, so many things that frankly aren’t possible if you have kids. I will agree that if you want to do things, do them now. I believe that having kids (for most people, that want them) is a transcendent experience…you’re MAKING a person!…and just as much a crazy adventure as anything you’d do without them. But at the end of the day, you do have them. I think having kids is like committing to give one person (or however many) the best life you can give them, and there’s nothing more special or honorable than that. 

    I don’t think it’s selfish to not want kids, though. If you don’t feel up to it you definitely shouldn’t, and if you want to do other things more than clearly you shouldn’t! If you found out you were pregnant today and thought only of the things you would be missing out on…you shouldn’t! But you seem like you would be great parents, so if it’s what you want you should do it. Even in confidence, no parent has ever told me they regretted having children. I’ve even asked some people, and they get horrified. Even when they calm down they still say they don’t regret it. I don’t think there’s a comparable life experience to it. But some people want it and some don’t.

    Anyway that’s all! I loved this workout, did it last night at 1am before bed (crazy!). I didn’t use a sandbag because my knees have been hurting, but I did each squat low to the ground and controlled the motion of each kick and it felt great. The muscles in my legs are so much more defined after less than three months of Bodyrocking! It felt a lot easier than the others this week…definitely something I think I could throw in on a Sunday or if (for some reason) I wanted to do two workouts, or a workout and a run, etc. Thanks!!!

  • Anonymous

    I love this comment!
    Being child free does not mean being self centered or selfish. It simply means you have thought seriously about what you want to do in your life and children simply dont fit in there.

    I know too many people who have children simply because society has instilled in them that they should.

  • michelle

    this topic could not have come at a better time. I was feeling so envious of the “no children” lifestyle.  I have a friend who decided with her husband to have no children,. Everyone is lIike WHAT no children what about when you are old and who will take care of you?  It is so assumedcouples should have children just how it should go.  But if you have a BEST freind you are married to and you enjoy all the same thingss and are on the same page about wihether to have children or not is should not matter.  It is such a BIG decision , it should not be based on wI dont want to be alone when i am older. It seems to me that you and Freddy have a wonderful fullfing relationship that works.  Whether you decide to have children or not.You don’;t have to be in your 20′s to have kids.    II am 47 had my first child at 26 best thing i ever did he is my light and joy after a 9 year marraige to a nut job i got divorced .  Remarried at 35 had two more kids beuatiful boys at 38 and 39.We just moved to a new town and am now at home with them ALL day they don’t like to go to go to the gym with me they  are sad and they argue more now yesterday I broke down started crying and thought what the HELL.Last night they had a freind sleep over at 1 am I had to go in there and sleep with them because they told scary stories and freaked themselves out I was screaming in my head and thinking HOW am i going to workout tomorow.( because if I don’t get your workout in I FREAK OUT!!! So as I am writing this I am laughing at how funny it really is that I had to sleep with these boys ages 7-9 .
     Here is what my friends did in deciding to have children they agreed that they would get married  after 5 years of doing whatever they wanted they would re evlauate their life and decide together whether or not have have children.  It has been 10 years now no children and they are goin to Hawaii next week :) happy and content that they made the best choice for them.
    ok I am done going to get my sand bag try to get this done before the nuts wake up and start witht he argueing.
    Love to you guys and thanks so much for sharing your lives and workouts with us.

  • Wlldolunch

    I had my 2 daughters way earlier than planned my husband and i were only married 1 year when i became pregnant with my first daughter so when she turned 2 we were pregnant again with our second daughter (I was 20 when we married) the best thing we ever did was have my daughters my husband  and i just celebrated our 24 th anniversary and have 2 wonderful daughters who are almost 22 and 19 and I would not change a thing ,yes we may have been low on the cash flow and scrimping and saving but my daughters have given us so much that we are so RICH for having had them  and I can’t even imagine my life without them.

  • Yajaira Christian

    Hi!!
    Here my score!

    Commando push up- 13,13,12,12,13,13

    Sandbag squat/ push kick- 14,14,13,14,14,13

    Single knee tuck- 14,14,13,15,15,14

    :0)

  • Rebecca Kettmann

    I disagree.  First off, having children shouldn’t be considered as wasting your life. YOuthful or not.  Although they bring much change, and are alot of work, they are a FULFILLMENT to your life.  They are a symbol of two peoples unity and love for one another….it apalls me that anyone would say otherwise,especially a person who has children.  Whether you have children or not is a matter of choice and opinion.  It is a personal choice between you and your husband and should not be influenced through another person’s choice or opinion.  There are women in this world,young and old, who would give anything to have children but cant. The ability that others have to do so is often not appreciated. I’m a mother who was told couldn’t have children.  What made me different from other women who couldn’t, is that i didn’t want children.  I had never experienced love or stability in my life, and certainly didn’t want a child to have to provide to.  Then I met my husband, who showed me love and stability. He wanted children and I wanted nothing more than to give to him a child.  God made it happen.  And now our lives are even more complete than what they were. Do I want more children?  yes if i win the lottery…lol.  I don’t think anyone should just pop them out to have them around.  You have to be able to take care of them and yourselves.  It’s longer about all you when you have children.  I disagree when people say, “you” no longer exist, because you have to take care of “you” to be a good wife and mother.  Priorities are just shifted around a bit, taking the emphasis off just “you”.  As a parent, you only add to the list of people to take care of.  ISn’t that the nature of a woman?  To care for and to nurture? I certainly think so.  You don’t know what you are capable until you try it.

    • Ellavemia

      You said it’s a person’s choice, then you go on to criticize women who don’t feel the desire to be a mother. This is very rude and judgmental even if you didn’t intend it to be that way. EVERYONE is different and has their own feelings and dreams and not a single one of is is wrong. Neither of us can see what’s on the other side of the fence since we don’t live there so please just let’s agree that our own lives are great and leave it at that?

  • Anonymous

    Hi Freddie and Zuzana, I think the question here is not so much whether people should have children or not but whether people should actually give others such strong advice over what to do with their lives. No matter how good a friend she is remember that her life is not your life and she is not you. You have your own paths to lead. I had my first child at 22 and my second child only 16 months later so their early years were very tough, I was exhausted and was close to a nervous breakdown at one point but it was worth it :)  I’ve been a single parent since they were 3 and 4 yrs old and its pretty full on even though I have amazing support from my family and the children’s father. However, I can hand on my heart tell you that to me they are worth every bit of effort. They are 10 and 8 now and have their own characters. Yes they can drive me crazy sometimes and make me wanna scream and I’m FAR from a perfect mum, I do get cross sometimes (quite often actually!) and handle things badly cos they press the wrong buttons. But those times can be completely outweighed by the smallest thing, something funny that they say, a smile, a little note they write, a hug, a look, a birthday card they’ve made, a picture they paint for me, countless things that make me realise how much better life is with them in it. I got out the shower the other day and my girl had written ”I love Mum” in the steam on the mirror :)  Today was sports day at school and times like that make you proud even when they come second to last cos you love them wherever they come! You get chance to go in the mum’s or dad’s race too which is more fun than anything!! (I came first by the way!) And I don’t think kids stop you living your life either, they make the simple things in life far sweeter, having tea together is nicer, going for picnics, watching disney movies at the cinema, playing tig on the street, its all more fun with kids. I have friends who come to see us just to do the fun stuff you do with kids, and we laugh so much!  And you can still do amazing things, we went to Lapland to see Santa and rode in a reindeer sleigh! Hearing my boy say “Mum I think I’m dreaming” will be a memory to treaure forever. My friend is going to visit Thailand with her kids too. And don’t forget how amazing christmas is when their little faces light up when santas been :) I think kids are worth the hardship and effort because the rewards are so much bigger. And no I’m not a stay at home mum who does nothing else, I’m a personal trainer, pilates instructor, gym instructor and I run my own early morning bootcamp. My kids get up at 5.30am 3 mornings a week to go to a friends house while I teach boot camp. They even make up their own boot camp routines bless them! I do all my work in between school runs and cub scout sessions and its fine, full on but fine. But thats just my life and your friends is just her life. Everyone will always tell you their experiences but they should never try to mold yours… your life is your own. You need to search your own hearts to know if you want to have children, you’ll easily find the answer. Imagine being an old person on your death bed and ask yourself if you would have liked to have lived with or without children. Imagine whos there to hold your hand. Just each other or other people too, children? grandchildren? Having children isn’t just about their childhood, as an adult I’m best friends with my mum and she adores her grand children. Well, sorry for waffling on! To be honest, if no body bothers reading my post it doesn’t matter cos I’ve enjoyed writing it and its made me realise not to take my children for granted and to treasure all the time i have with them, so thank you very much Freddie for asking the question and making me realise how lucky I am to have my kids. Its blooming hard work and I sometimes lose the plot with them but I wouldn’t be without them. I wish you all the best with your future whether its with or without kids…but I think you’ll both make fun awesome parents! You’ll be fit enough for playing footie ;) I’m now going to pick my two up from school and treat them to a milkshake :) Cheers Freddie and Zuzana xxx ps thanks for the workouts, I’m only just getting into them and I think they are great fun! xx 

  • Kat

    an excellent line from a movie………”having a baby is like getting a tatoo on your face, you need to be committed”

    • http://www.janetspreiter.com Janet

      curious connection…

  • k8*

    When I read what your good friend said to you it rocked me hard too. I am 28 and married and totally love my life the way it is but lately I’ve really been struggling really hard with this issue. Part of me feels like I should have kids because I love my family and the feeling I get being around them. I loved growing up and learning things from my family and having new experiences with them. To this day we remain close and I love visiting them and spending time with them. The other part feels like I shouldn’t have kids because as a creature of habit, change isn’t my best friend. I also feel that this planet is struggling to sustain all the people that are already on it and may not last in good health for too much longer. I have a hard time imaging what life will be like for my kids when things really start to go down hill, ecologically but at the same time I feel like I should have kids for the sole purpose of teaching them to better stewards of the world. But what if despite my teachings and example they turn out just as spoiled and rotten as most of the kids I see around town are? It is a hard decision because both of these feelings are totally equal so its not as if I am leaning one way or the next. Some days I feel a little bit more strongly about it than others but on the whole I am just in one big mess of I DON’T KNOW. There are so many factors to consider that it all feels too overwhelming to think about :(

  • Jen

    I had only been with my husband for a year and I had our first child. After that it was hard to find someome to keep the kids so we could go out. At this point…. eight years later I GAVE that ideal up. I wish I would have waited a little longer we never did anything together no camping, hikes, vacations NOTHING. I was 19 when I had my first child and now I am 28 and have four children. Do all things you wannah do NOW. People tell me it is better to have them when you are young so you can keep up with them you know I hold on to that. Childern have brought my hubsand and I closer together. I gave birth at home with all four my my children it was the most inpowering thing I had ever done. To feel a child inside you and to look up at into your hubands eyes while he feel the first kicks is amazing. To have that child place into your arms is the most amazing thing oh I love the smell of a fresh born child gah! Ok anyhow so thats my thoughts lol.

  • http://ladneslowa.wordpress.com/ Dorota T.

    One of the best 12-minutes workout on Your side for me. Perfect for ABS, really, I saw how much my abs was activating . :)  

    I also think that having a children change everything. I’m 20 and I know that IF I have a child, it will be after my 30-35 (but then probably I had been scared that my child would born sick. :( ) . I feel that if it is earlier it takes you a lot of young, your power and so many time of your freedom. 

  • mandy

    Lots of advice here….I got hooked on you guys during a midlife crisis…four kids all heading in and out of teen years, twenty year marriage and forty pounds overweight.  When I first started viewing your lifestyle videos and posts, I was jealous, nostalgic…I had been a traveler and me and my husband lived simple and adventureous lives…Yes, my life has changed! something was missing, but I took my unhappiness head on…first, my weight. YAY! I am a hot momma!  YAY! I can outhike anyone in the mountains again!  Yay! When I visit my son in the navy we have push up contests and do burpees on the beach! My perspective on my life changed…I bet something is going on deep down in Madge’s life and darn it, give her credit for letting what she is hiding out. I expect,like me, she is making life idyllic and perfect looking to everyone and her heart isn’t in it right now, she needs her friends’ support.  All it takes is for my friends to comment on my wonderful family and life and how we are still all together…good times and bad…to boost me up.  But along wth that midlife crisis, I have had to learn to start persuing my dreams and put myself first. I look back at the many years my husband and I were alot like you two and all I think is, man, we need to get away on a short adventure! but ultimately, I have learned and grown so much by having my children teach me what life is about…..and one dream I want to persue is to be this amazing grandmother who sleeps on the beach or takes the grandkids into the backcountry, who is a character and someone her grandkids can come to when life gets hard…ultimately, you two will know what is right for you …. and I have thought to myself what amazing parents you will be when the time comes.

  • mandy

    Lots of advice here….I got hooked on you guys during a midlife crisis…four kids all heading in and out of teen years, twenty year marriage and forty pounds overweight.  When I first started viewing your lifestyle videos and posts, I was jealous, nostalgic…I had been a traveler and me and my husband lived simple and adventureous lives…Yes, my life has changed! something was missing, but I took my unhappiness head on…first, my weight. YAY! I am a hot momma!  YAY! I can outhike anyone in the mountains again!  Yay! When I visit my son in the navy we have push up contests and do burpees on the beach! My perspective on my life changed…I bet something is going on deep down in Madge’s life and darn it, give her credit for letting what she is hiding out. I expect,like me, she is making life idyllic and perfect looking to everyone and her heart isn’t in it right now, she needs her friends’ support.  All it takes is for my friends to comment on my wonderful family and life and how we are still all together…good times and bad…to boost me up.  But along wth that midlife crisis, I have had to learn to start persuing my dreams and put myself first. I look back at the many years my husband and I were alot like you two and all I think is, man, we need to get away on a short adventure! but ultimately, I have learned and grown so much by having my children teach me what life is about…..and one dream I want to persue is to be this amazing grandmother who sleeps on the beach or takes the grandkids into the backcountry, who is a character and someone her grandkids can come to when life gets hard…ultimately, you two will know what is right for you …. and I have thought to myself what amazing parents you will be when the time comes.

  • Glowforever

    I respect everyone’s decision whether it is to have
    children or not to. Your friend must truly trust you to reveal such an intimate
    feeling.  A lot more people should be really honest with
    themselves and their loved ones instead of putting on the mask or saying “what
    society thinks we should say”.

    Having said all of that, I would say that I disagree with
    her perspective, that if you were to have children it is wasting the better
    part of your youth.  I am not judging her
    statement, but just because that is her feeling doesn’t mean that will be your
    experience or the experience of another who chooses to parent young.

    Again it’s a very personal choice. I have friends in
    their mid to late 30s who have children, and friends who are childless.  Some of my friends who are without children
    really want a family. Others do not.

    I have three children and still was able to excel
    professionally, and creatively. And I still have a long way to go. Now I am
    watching them grow and its such a beautiful experience, beyond words. Now I am
    not going to be so one sided as to say that there are not sacrifices and
    unhappy times that come with having children because there are plenty. It aint
    all roses, just as marriage is not.

    And since this is a health blog I would be remiss not to
    say there are many health benefits that come with having children young (not
    too young of course:)). This holds true for the child, mother and father.  

    Thank you for sharing this story and to everyone’s
    comments!

    Glow

     

     

  • Glowforever

    I respect everyone’s decision whether it is to have
    children or not to. Your friend must truly trust you to reveal such an intimate
    feeling.  A lot more people should be really honest with
    themselves and their loved ones instead of putting on the mask or saying “what
    society thinks we should say”.

    Having said all of that, I would say that I disagree with
    her perspective, that if you were to have children it is wasting the better
    part of your youth.  I am not judging her
    statement, but just because that is her feeling doesn’t mean that will be your
    experience or the experience of another who chooses to parent young.

    Again it’s a very personal choice. I have friends in
    their mid to late 30s who have children, and friends who are childless.  Some of my friends who are without children
    really want a family. Others do not.

    I have three children and still was able to excel
    professionally, and creatively. And I still have a long way to go. Now I am
    watching them grow and its such a beautiful experience, beyond words. Now I am
    not going to be so one sided as to say that there are not sacrifices and
    unhappy times that come with having children because there are plenty. It aint
    all roses, just as marriage is not.

    And since this is a health blog I would be remiss not to
    say there are many health benefits that come with having children young (not
    too young of course:)). This holds true for the child, mother and father.  

    Thank you for sharing this story and to everyone’s
    comments!

    Glow

     

     

  • Monstrosity5

    Added 2 extra rounds –
    Did 24 rounds (16 mins) 8 rounds – :30/:10

    Commando Push up (15 goal) – 18-16-17-16-15-16-14-16

    SB Squat+Push Kick (15 goal) – 16-18-18-18-18-18-18-16

    Single Knee Tuck (18 goal) – 20-20-20-18-20-20-20-20

  • Monstrosity5

    Added 2 extra rounds –
    Did 24 rounds (16 mins) 8 rounds – :30/:10

    Commando Push up (15 goal) – 18-16-17-16-15-16-14-16

    SB Squat+Push Kick (15 goal) – 16-18-18-18-18-18-18-16

    Single Knee Tuck (18 goal) – 20-20-20-18-20-20-20-20

    • http://ladneslowa.wordpress.com/ Dorota T.

      Great score!

  • Josie

    I had my children young also 24 and 26.  I didn’t think I could ever feel that way either.  But let me tell you they are 17 going on 18 and 15 going on 16, there are some days when I feel I can’t do it anymore.  I can’t be a mom I should have never been a mom.  These teenage years are challenging and exhausting as a parent.  They are trying to break free and we as parents are trying to guide them in the right direction.  As teenagers they tend to be selfish and self centred.  But, you know what?  They also bring joy and laughter and happiness.  Raising children is by far the hardest and most challenging thing you will ever have to do.  Some kids are more challenging than others, that’s just how it is.  My husband and I sacrificed a lot for our kids, do I wish I could do some of the things others do?  Yes I do.  Do I sometimes invision my life without my kids? Yes, I do. We don’t have the money to have kids and lead an embellished life.  But, my kids complete our family and add so much more than that.  They are a huge responsibility and the older they get the harder it is.  I think your friend is going through those teenage years and I understand her totally.  It’s a season and they will one day be responsible successful adults.(We HOPE!!)  Anyway, having children is a personal choice, and yes, you will never really know what it’s like until you have your own!  Best of Luck my friends!!!

  • Josie

    I had my children young also 24 and 26.  I didn’t think I could ever feel that way either.  But let me tell you they are 17 going on 18 and 15 going on 16, there are some days when I feel I can’t do it anymore.  I can’t be a mom I should have never been a mom.  These teenage years are challenging and exhausting as a parent.  They are trying to break free and we as parents are trying to guide them in the right direction.  As teenagers they tend to be selfish and self centred.  But, you know what?  They also bring joy and laughter and happiness.  Raising children is by far the hardest and most challenging thing you will ever have to do.  Some kids are more challenging than others, that’s just how it is.  My husband and I sacrificed a lot for our kids, do I wish I could do some of the things others do?  Yes I do.  Do I sometimes invision my life without my kids? Yes, I do. We don’t have the money to have kids and lead an embellished life.  But, my kids complete our family and add so much more than that.  They are a huge responsibility and the older they get the harder it is.  I think your friend is going through those teenage years and I understand her totally.  It’s a season and they will one day be responsible successful adults.(We HOPE!!)  Anyway, having children is a personal choice, and yes, you will never really know what it’s like until you have your own!  Best of Luck my friends!!!

  • Sarah

    It is refreshing to hear someone saying what my husband and I feel.  I have actually been told by a woman that she tells everyone how much she loves being a mom and she wouldn’t change a thing – and will encourage people to have kids.  BUT…the real story is that she is jealous of the freedom that many couples without children have.  Myself included.  My husband and I travel when we want, workout when we want, sit around and sleep in if we want and truly are focused on each other.  We have been married for 8 years and are still madly in love.  We made the decision 4 years ago and although I will admit there are moments when I feel that pang of sadness when I see a cute little baby, or an adorable little girl or boy holding their mommy’s hand…those are just moments.  Not the crying 24 hours a day job that a parent lives.   Some people will say we are selfish because we are living just for ourselves…but who says you have to be a parent?  Why can’t we just enjoy life how WE want to? 
    Everyone will have their own opinion and there are so many AMAZING parents out there…I thank you because I am a teacher.  Parents have athe most challenging job in the world when it is done right.  But it isn’t for everyone and that is OK!  There is alot to think about before you make the decisons to be a parent.  It is a big decision and you should always look at both sides before making this life-changing decision in your life. 

    • Anonymous

      EXACTLY!!!! like everything else in life, everything is NOT for everyone.

  • Sarah

    It is refreshing to hear someone saying what my husband and I feel.  I have actually been told by a woman that she tells everyone how much she loves being a mom and she wouldn’t change a thing – and will encourage people to have kids.  BUT…the real story is that she is jealous of the freedom that many couples without children have.  Myself included.  My husband and I travel when we want, workout when we want, sit around and sleep in if we want and truly are focused on each other.  We have been married for 8 years and are still madly in love.  We made the decision 4 years ago and although I will admit there are moments when I feel that pang of sadness when I see a cute little baby, or an adorable little girl or boy holding their mommy’s hand…those are just moments.  Not the crying 24 hours a day job that a parent lives.   Some people will say we are selfish because we are living just for ourselves…but who says you have to be a parent?  Why can’t we just enjoy life how WE want to? 
    Everyone will have their own opinion and there are so many AMAZING parents out there…I thank you because I am a teacher.  Parents have athe most challenging job in the world when it is done right.  But it isn’t for everyone and that is OK!  There is alot to think about before you make the decisons to be a parent.  It is a big decision and you should always look at both sides before making this life-changing decision in your life. 

  • http://profiles.google.com/emily.27.uk Emily Hale

    Ugh, I get that all the time too, its such a personal question why do people think its appropriate.

  • http://profiles.google.com/emily.27.uk Emily Hale

    Ugh, I get that all the time too, its such a personal question why do people think its appropriate.

  • http://cindybeverly.wordpress.com/ Cindy Beverly

    Oh and this message is for my fellow Canadian Freddy, Happy Canada Day!

  • http://cindybeverly.wordpress.com/ Cindy Beverly

    Oh and this message is for my fellow Canadian Freddy, Happy Canada Day!

  • http://cindybeverly.wordpress.com/ Cindy Beverly

    Oh and Zuzana I have to say that your pic above doing the splits looks amazing.  I know that you have been working on your flexibility for awhile and all your hard work has paid off.  Looking great and loved today’s workout.

  • Anonymous

    Thank you for posting this… About four years ago we found out that having kids would be very risky for me and a baby since I have epilepsy. We decided to just be DINKs and enjoy life but I feel sick about it sometimes, especially when other people are rude and ask me, “why no kids?” Why do people ask you that??? This post made me feel so much better… SO much better. 

  • Anonymous

    Hi BodyRockers.
    Here are my scores 
    Commando push ups: 10 10 9 8 8 8 
    Sandbag squat and push kick: 10 10 10 10 10 10 
    Single knee tuck: 14 14 14 14 15 15 
    Off to Skipping……Have a good day all.

  • http://profiles.google.com/emily.27.uk Emily Hale

    Hmmm, my husband and I always planned to have children but after a miscarriage we decided to take a break from trying and try to maybe get the idea into our heads that children might never happen.  We got so used to the idea of not having children and what benefits this will bring we have decided not to try again.  I also have a friend who has 2 children and she said if she could go back she wouldnt have children or just have one.  I think children or over-rated, if you cant list 5 decent reasons why to have children then dont bother.

  • http://www.facebook.com/Zealot70 Zealot Protoss

    Did 42 rounds (of 10×30).
    Commando Push Ups: 14, 13, 14, 14, 15, 13, 14, 12, 14, 11, 13, 11, 12, 14
    Sandbag Squat and Push Kick: 14, 12, 11, 12, 13, 13, 11, 12, 13, 10, 13, 11, 10, 12
    Single Knee Tuck: 14, 15, 15, 14, 16, 15, 17, 16, 15, 15, 17, 15, 15, 15

    • Anonymous

      WOW, u have inspired me!
      I think, I will join you for the 42 rounds, just for fun!!! Will see how i feel after my coffee!

  • mbc3

    this is just from my personal experience and has no judgement on someone who decides to have children or not :)  We all have a different purpose in life so to just make it a generalized question of should you have children or not is a personal decision.  So saying that… here is my personal opinion…
    I am a mother of three kids ages 1, 3, and 4.  The “freedom” your friend talks about (to me) doesn’t come anywhere near in comparison to having children.  I would give up that “freedom” over and over and over again in a heart beet to feel the love and happiness i get from being a mother.  That word “freedom” you refer to has a different meaning to everyone and it depends on what you want out of life.  That being said, some people have different things that complete them or make them happy so its just a personal choice and nothing anyone says should convince you either way in the decision. It has to be made entirely without the input of others.  But when people feel like they had to make a sacrifice of freedom to receive a huge blessing of a child is a weird comment to me personally.  It doesn’t feel like a “sacrifice” at all.  It all just depends who you are.  I personally couldn’t imagine leaving this earth without ever experiencing the wonderful gift from God of a child.  Its the most special experience and i feel like its what brings me closest to God and I don’t feel like i’ve given up freedom at all…. especially since i’ve gained so much more meaningful things in return.  Life is about relationships and experiences and to experience being a mother and the relationship with my child is a feeling i can’t even put into words… That “freedom” your friend refers to…. would it have given her what motherhood would have given her? Would freedom give her that deep connection and love she likely experiences with her children?  what is life REALLY about?  Our “freedom”?… still not sure what your friend means by that…? But i could go on and on, we are all so different and can’t pass judgement on everyone’s opinions… but figured i would give my two cents :)

    • http://cindybeverly.wordpress.com/ Cindy Beverly

      Mbc, I feel the exact same way, I couldn’t have said it better myself.

      • mbc3

        thanks, but even that doesn’t to come close to what i want to say lol.  I can’t even come up with the words to explain how i feel.  Motherhood is such a spiritual thing for me.  Grows my soul :)

      • mbc3

        thanks, but even that doesn’t to come close to what i want to say lol.  I can’t even come up with the words to explain how i feel.  Motherhood is such a spiritual thing for me.  Grows my soul :)

  • Tammy77

    Good morning and HAPPY CANADA DAY to all my fellow Canadian BodyRockers!!!
    This was a great sweat and a great start to my morning, so thank you!! Here are my scores:

    1-comando pushup: 14,14,13,13,12,12
    2-sandbag squat & push kick: 14,13,12,12,11,12
    3-single knee tuck: 15,15,15,15,16,16

  • Anonymous

    It’s really hot in here now, but I did this workout. Like this one very much!! ♥ 

    Commando push ups: 13,13,13,13,11,11 
    Sandbag squat and push kick: 10,11,10,10,10,10 
    Single knee tuck: 18,15,16,17,16,17 

  • http://twitter.com/GoustiFruit GoustiFruit

    Just to be sure, the exercises have to be done in what order:

    111111222222333333 or 123123123123123123 ???

    • Anonymous

      I did it like 1,2,3-1,2,3… :)  

  • Rebeca

    My core muscles are aching D8
    But great workout!

    Commando push-ups: 11/6/8 ½ /10 ½ /8/7

    Sandbag squat and push kick: 14/14/14/15/13/13

    Single knee tuck: 10/8/8/9/9/10

     

    + 12
    min interval skipping, my personal extra :D Now to the children thing.Well, im 23 and I feel way too young to have children in near future.I can’t imagine myself to have children. Maybe one day, but right now…I can understand if people decide not to have children and the statement of your friend. As parents you have responsibility for another human being. That’s incredibly exciting AND scary!One pissibility is to adopt a child. There are so many orphans who need love and affection.Well, I don’t want to have children, who knows  what changes in ten, fifteen years :)

  • Anonymous

    Hi there,

    so the season started,much more work to do, much less internet connection, but I am working out almost every day…and one more thing..remember that boy that left me???…he decided that he was wrong, that he has to change some things in his head,that he has to be able to put love first, and he wants to get back together again…I am thinking if all this is truth I will give love a chance…what do you think??

    kisses to you all

    • Donna

      If you love him then he is worth another chance:)

  • http://twitter.com/misathemeb m

    my husband and i decided not to have our own children biologically and i’m only 28 ;) we said if we find ourselves in our middle age desiring a family, then at that point we will adopt. there are plenty of deserving kids out there that need a loving home! i’m at complete peace with our decision. best of luck to you two figuring it all out! :)

  • http://www.eroticstore.ro rox

    NICE
    QUICK WOKROUT
    1. 13,10,11,11,11,11

    2. 9,13,13,12,10,11

    3. 9,13,11,12,11,11 

    My oppinion about the subject: I totally agree with your friend, Madge, and your short background about her qualified her to give such an advice.
    the goal of human being is to be happy, and there are things which makes us happy. And guess what, children are not in the list. This is proven.

  • http://ofdreamsandseams.blogspot.com/ Katja

    That is a huge subject you are bringing up. I believe nobody can really help you make your decision. Of course, listen to as many opinions as you can, but then decide which aspects are true for you. All the best with it.

    Now to the workout!!! Brilliant!

    Commando Push Ups: 14 11 11 11 10 11
    (I did it like Zuzana, lifting my hands off the mat every time, which makes it a lot harder!)
    Sandbag Squat and Push Kick: 10 12 11 12 11 11
    Single Knee Tuck: 13 15 15 14 13 14

    I have made myself an Excel chart where I list all the workouts I do (I am at nr. 105!). This way I can sort it by name, date, or equipment needed, or duration etc. It is very handy. But the best is this: I added a column for my own personal rating. If I like a workout a lot, I give it three stars. Well, lately they are ALL getting three stars – I guess I have become a true workout addict, I just love working out in general :-)

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Aleksandra-Bilcane/100001343398864 Aleksandra Bilcane

    my scores:
    commando push ups 10/10/10/8/8/10
    sandbag squat & push kick 10/8/8/9/8/9
    single knee tuck 11/12/11/10/10/11

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Aleksandra-Bilcane/100001343398864 Aleksandra Bilcane

    i’m not married and i don’t have children but i guess once you have a child it’s a lifetime commitment and responsibility.

  • mirah

    I have two sons, 3 years old and 1 year old. They are my everything.

    Before kids I was lazy, didnt exercise and eated bad foods. I was sooooo tired and unhappy. I used to do sports but this lazy period started when I was about 16. I never got fat, but I of course bad lifestyle started to affect to my body, I wasnt that toned anymore. I didnt care. But at the age of 19 I got pregnant. My older son was born when I was 20, and when he was 9 months I was happily pregnant again. At the age of 21 I was a mom of two beautiful boys. This pretty much destroyed my body but changed my lifestyle completely.

    Without my kids I would never have so much willpower and strenght to change! I started exercising and changing my eatinghabits because I wanted to be healthy for them, and because I wanted them to be healthy. I found BodyRock.tv when my younger son was 7months and Ive been hooked. I could never achieve these results without bodyrocking so THANK YOU for that. Ive tried to get my husband to do workouts with me but he feels this is a girls thing:D So FREDDY, maybe you should do some workouts for us?

    But where would I be without my kids? Im sure far away from healthy, happy life. They saved me!

    • Anonymous

      I have the exact situation, I have 2 boys…6 and 8 years old and when I was a teenager I ate horribly too. I had both my boys and gained so much wieght…I was 215 lbs and very very unhappy. Ive been taking better care of myself for 3 years now and I’am now 125-30 lbs…still working on my 6-pack but I’am gettin there….and now I’am a much better mother and wife, I’am feel so much happier!

      My 8 year old saved my life too…I was on a wicked path to self distruction, and when I found out I was pregnant I realized I had a new life to take care of….it took me 8 years of climbing a very high mountain but I must say I’am getting to the top pretty quick with the help of you guys and my children! If asked if I had a chance to redo it all??? Yes!!!! My boys are my world!

  • V.I.G.

    I am a mother of two boys 9 and 11, and I can tell you motherhood challenge you to the core of your being. And a lot of times I feel so guilty for not being a perfect mother…..That said motherhood is the riches most fantastic experience in my life. I would have kids sooner if I knew better before, because there is nothing (besides getting drunk, or working 24/7 away from home) you can do with your kids.
      I think because we know deep down all of us that kids are the most precious thing on earth, they remind us of our true nature, and intelligence, witch is to live peacefully with each other, and take care of nature and each other, witch is in so many ways the opposite of what many of us is doing. It become so challenging to have kids, and be constantly reminded of the values of society, witch is do more have more, be more of everything.A very stressful life too live, and it leaves us with no room for kids, because it will take all our energy too constantly chase success, money and career….and by us all the stuff we want, that we really do not need. That mentality and lifestyle takes a lot of energy, and most of us are living it.

     I think courage today means do less, have less, take better care of nature and children. Even if I know society will swollow all my hours of the day if I let them, do more, produce more, bye more, work harder, work more……what about smarter and better….and especially better for nature and kids???? Where is the balance,it does not make it better in the long run. I think society need a shift in mentality.  Not so many years  ago we where advised to wait until we got older to have kids, and now we get the advice not to have kids at all?    

    My advice is look inside yourself, because there is the intelligence of you, and you will find your answers, and true answers will never come in that form. True answers are intelligent and for the greater good, and in that form,  not in what you do not want….

    Love V.I.G

  • susana

    Dear Zuzi and freddy,
    I understand your friend’s position sometimes, it’s kind of hard to deal with home, children husband, work etc. But that’s what LIFE IN GENERAL ITS ALL ABOUT been challenging in different areas in your life.
    Sorry if I’ll take too long in this post but let me share my story with you guys and the rest of the community :) . I got married almost 11 years ago( I was 23) I left home (South America) and came to the States, that was my very first challenge, leave everything and most important my family. My Second challenge was after I had my first son, dealing during my pregnancy with 40hrs a week work (psc teacher in a daycare) and extra 8 hours during my day off as a Spanish teacher in a different school (cause I came here with 0 english, so I tried so hard to learn the language in a short period of time :) . That helped me so much because my SECOND big challenge was accepting that my first born had autism(mild spectrum),and I had to trained myself in different areas to help him to improve. Later came my second, and new challenge (deal with food allergies) since 8 month old :( and now with 2 children, still working hard in 2 or 3 different places. And when I thought that was it, late October 2008 I found out that I was 17 weeks pregnant :( , I felt so bad because that year was so important to me ( I tried to start school again for my second mayor in education) and done some other important stuff. I was so frustrated and mad, I prayed for so long to God help me to love my son. I didn’t understand why HE send me another want when my plate already was full. I used to compare myself with other woman, but after 2 years, i understood the message.
    I went back to college last summer :) I have a full time job ( with PSC kids) 3 beautiful boys, my autistic child engages now into daily conversations, improve so much, this summer he’ll be a second grader, my middle one is getting better from his allergies and my little one talks in both languages :)
    My plate is probably more than full but I’m so happy and thankful, also I tried to squeeze my schedule and BODYROCK 4 OR 5 times a week. Sometime soon I’ll post some pics.
    Don’t know your friend but pls let her know that she is not alone, sometimes we thinking that our personal conflicts are already bad, but it’s not.
    FOR FREDDY AND ZUZ : guys yeah a child will change your life, but for good, any trips, shopping, vacations,etc can compare with the happiness of having a baby, someone who calls u daddy or mommy I love you, or the feeling that u r their personal superheros :) that my friend it’s just priceless
    have a nice a blessing day !

  • Anonymous

    Hi Freddy and Zuzana,

    Happy Canada Day and thank you both for everything!

    –Chris

  • Zouzou

    Zuzie and Freddy, you guys should never let yourself be influenced by anyone around you, even the people you love and respect most. Why? because to decide to have a child, or children, is the most personal and intimate decision you can do, and only you two can decide about it. For you two. 

    You will always find pro and contra people, whether they already had kids or not. People’s experience in this fields are so diverse and so different that you could spend your life time balancing the pro and the contras. 

    No one can advice you, no one can advice no one I believe. I think the best is just listen to yourself guys.
    Now, is there a right moment? Not really. Again people could oppose thousands of yes and no. I think if you or anyone wait for the perfect moment you will never have kids. It means a lots of sacrifices and changes in one’s life. But this is from my personal point of view one of, if not the most, important achievement in one’s life. It requires courage, but our parents had it and before them, thousands of generations. It is the end of a certain “selfishness”, true, we become secondary to ourselves, as our child becomes the most important person of our life. 

    Sometimes I think of all the History of Humanity since it began. And that our ancestors survived wars, epidemics, starvation, hatred, accidents… and that to be alive today, is the most amazing miracle. I wish personally to continue that miraculous chain. I feel this is right, deep inside of me. 

    I am more afraid to die without having had a child. I believe my life would be incomplete without this. 

    You guys, should listen to yourselves and not be afraid. You are achievers! You truly are. Whatever you will decide together, because you are ONE, will be the right thing for you. 

    PS forget us all when you guys decide! 
    zouzou

    • Vivi

      I’m totally agree with you !

      • Zouzou

        Yes Vivi, we ROCK!!! :-) And congratulations for being such an enthusiastic mum!!! 

    • mbc3

      love your post!!

    • runner

      There are people who are afraid to die without having a child.

      Then there are others who would be terrified to be solely responsible financially, emotionally, mentally, educationally, health, etc. for a child — 24/7 for at least 18+ years, NON-STOP.

      We are all different.

  • Vivi

    I’m 34, and I had 3 children (but one of them became an angel yet….:’(

    For me it was an evidence to have child.
    To have child permit to discover that we can love so much !!! To see that we have so much love in us !
    Obviously there are “difficult” passages, but they are so quickly forget, with the joy, happiness, cuddles theu give us.
    There is nothing better than a child’s giggle !
    Nothing is comparable to the relation which we have with its children !
    I breast-fed during 28 months my daughter and never I shall forget this intensity in the glance, in the received tenderness ! <3<3<3<3<3
    You who like giving yourselves challenge, it the best one !!!
    Don't you think it will be so sad not to pas on your healthy line life, your tolerance, your generosity, your beauty additionally also! haha!
    Which mortar it would be. !!Not ? :p
    And more your workout are fmade to be made at home !!! No excuse for you !! lol
    And to travel is also a cultural wealth for a child !! ;)

    On the other hand if you prefer to have a lie in, the silence, have no stretch marks, don't have child !!

    What? My opinion is not very well-balanced? hahaha
    Perhpas because I can't see my life without them !!
    I love you my children !! SO MUCH !!!

  • Donna

    My fairytale dream as a child was to meet my handsome prince, get married and have 5 children…lol

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Juliana-Monteiro/100000539019679 Juliana Monteiro

    Well…actually me and my boyfriend are having this exact conversation at the moment up to now it was about when is it the right time to have kids. I´m 27 he is now 30 we have a great relationship and if it was up to him we would have them next year. The thing is to be a women and wanting to have a career and a family is extremily difficult to start with the fact that I most probably would loose the job to a woman without kids, I already saw this happen over and over again…
    Now I am actually starting to think like your friend… perhaps I could just enjoy my life with my partner without kids that would alow me for ex. to travel and change carrer, be more risky because I would haveto worry about waht a change in country would do to my kids future for ex.
    But then… do I really want to never have the chance of experience motherwood, and what about never give the chance to my own parents to become grandparents? I am being selfish?
    So… you see you are not the only one with this concern…
    Let´s discuss it! :)

    • Zouzou

      Hi Juliana! 

      I found your comment very interesting cuz you raise a lot of issues. I am 36, was in carrier until not long ago and dropped it because I realized that I was losing the most important direction of my life. Carrier, status,  money, ok…but I was so eager to succeed and so locked in my work life that things went wrong. A burn out saved me like 6 years ago, literally did. I had to reconsider everything, stopped and stuck at home, and THINK. 

      Funnily enough I always wanted to have kids and a family and thought I would be married before 25 yo. All my girls friends were ambitious and made me feel I was the stupidest one in a way. 
      Well, they got married young, had kids, and I went on with a real carrier. But I believe they were luckier than I was.  I got married at 35 yo, 3 months ago. I found the love of my life, married because I really believe, like he does, that we are made the one for the other. I would never had married without this conviction.We did the same thing, while we did not know each other yet: we gave up our money oriented carriers, and went back to our first loves, art under all its forms. We earn much less today but a child should not be to me, an economical calculation. A couple should not be afraid to have less time on their own, or less money, a women should feel blessed to see her body change because of giving life. These are my beliefs. I have not much, much time to get pregnant, and now the discussion is going to hit the table even though our life is now under tremendous changes, because as I said in my other post: wait for the perfect moment, never get pregnant. But for sure, whatever people tell me including my mum and dad whom I love SO much, I would not go slower or faster, or differently than what we have decided together my husband and I. I think it is a miracle to find the right person. I kind of have given up on the marriage idea ;-) and there “he” suddenly came. I think there is nothing more beautiful and challenging than having a child that would be the mix of both of us. 
      zouzou

  • Anonymous

    I will be 30 in a few days and we are trying to decide if we should have a child or not. Until a few months ago I didn’t want to have children, but then I started to feel that I want to…It’s a hard decision, I know it’s a huge responsability, I’m afraid that my life would change too much and  my body too. I hear so much from our friends with children, positive and negative things. There are so many pros and contras, but I think first of all you should decide based on how you feel and what you want, you should decide what to do with your life. So, i think we will have a baby soon, if everything goes right  :-)

    • susana

      Andrea don’t be afraid, LIFE its the school to training you to be a good parent. With the first child you make the all mistakes but u learn to love, caring and protect your child as the most valuable jewel .
      And about the body, yeah it will change, but after all it’s worth it :)
      Wherever its your believe, I will pray for you and your future decision. You’ll be a super mom, believe me
      blessings

      • Anonymous

        Thank you so much Susana for your kind words and for your support :-)

  • JuMe

    Great topic and it raises a lot of the question that I have been posing to myself. I am a 26 soon 27 year old woman and don’t have kids. Still, consider myself very young, I feel young but I hope to have kids one day.
    I have always though I was too young to have kids that I should concentrate on my education. So did most of my peers. Only few have kids. I graduated 8 month ago and since then I’ve been trying to get a job, which is very hard! I have a very supportive partner and he is my best friends. We’ve been together for quite a while and I can totally see myself building a family with him.
     But here comes the dilemma! Everyone here is saying “wait” until you are old enough! And I agree with that. But what if you wait till you find the perfect man, you have the perfect job, the security etc, then it will be even more difficult to give everything up. 

    I think no one has mentioned one VERY important factor – biology! What if you wait until you are in your mid 30s and you find out that you are unable to conceive?!!! I have been diagnosed with an auto-imune thyroid disorder couple of years ago (which came out of the blue and made me question my views) that can severely influence/hamper my wish to have kids one day. All the doctors are unanimous “Don’t wait!” But then again – I don’t have a job, no stability, thankfully I am with a great person who loves me but he doesn’t feel ready yet. And these doctors are not going to raise my children! But I cannot ignore what they say. I want to live my life to fullest and not only of egoistic reasons. I want to be interesting and inspirational for my kids! I want to have something to share with them. However, what if it will be too late and I won’t be able to have  kids, when I/we are ready… Many people take the ability to have kids for granted. 

    P.S. Zuzana and Freddy, it will be wonderful if you guys decide to have kids! The Zuzi can make special workouts for all the pregnant women who want to continue to bodyrock! 

    • Zouzou

      OH yes that would also be SO exciting to have a whole new program for pregnant women! I love the idea!!!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/ildiko.mazar Ildikó Sünci Mázár

    I was a good girl and did the workout before addressing the kid Q, but my long constructive comment disappeared, and I don’t have time to re-type it. :-( Anyway, my scores are:

    Commando push ups: 16, 14, 13, 13, 12, 12
    Squats and push kicks with 2 4kg weights: 11, 13, 12, 12, 13, 13
    Single knee tucks: 17, 16, 14, 13, 14, 14

  • Jessy

    Where is the coffee talk?

  • Jessy

    Where is the coffee talk?

  • http://twitter.com/GoustiFruit GoustiFruit

    Now I want to know why you were trying not to laugh during the whole workout explanations !? :-)

  • http://twitter.com/GoustiFruit GoustiFruit

    Now I want to know why you were trying not to laugh during the whole workout explanations !? :-)

  • ulla

    Hi guys,
    I know I’ve never really commented on anything you said yet, but this time, I feel I have something to say. Before I go there, I’d just like to thank you for all you do, and I promise I’ll do this workout tonight – right now, I’m at work, so that won’t happen before I comment.
    The way you describe your conversation, I think your friend is experiencing something I see over and over in other people. It’s the nagging feeling that the grass on the other side of the fence is always greener. That you miss something important in your life if you do not do something in a certain way. This feeling always makes people regret what they did, decisions they made, and think that they should have decided differently. If this implied that your friend would have regretted not having children (if she didn’t have any), I got my message across. It all hinges on the feeling of having missed something important, rather than on some real reason to be unhappy.
    This is just my guess, anyway, and could be completely wrong. But you know that.
    That said, I don’t have children of my own yet, and I’m looking forward to that. I don’t think I’ll regret it, but who knows? The change kids bring to your life is so big that I don’t think I fully grasp the implications yet. Still, it’s a big step on this life-journey, and I think I really would regret it if I wouldn’t.

  • Anonymous

    Hi Guys,

    I never married and have no children of my own, but I have helped raise my nieces and nephews and from  the age of nine a great guy who is now about Freddy’s age. .  I have seen lots of soiled diapers, pulled bee stingers out of feet, patched wounds and worried over coughs, sneezes and running noses. The love of a child is something you cannot buy and I love them all more than anything and would never give up one moment even with all that poop, blood and crying.

    I’m not sure why your friend said what she did.  As I said before I think you would make good parents.  This isn’t me sucking up to you! This life only comes once as far as I’m concerned and you need to grab all the good as it passes Zuzana and Freddy.  The strange and sad part is often you don’t know what was the good stuff till it has gone by.  Zuzana’s biological clock is ticking and by the age of 30 she (if average) will have about 12 percent of her eggs left.  You can freeze some and maybe hedge you’re bets, but even that is costly and has problems.

    Get a gynecologist and talk to them about this, PLEASE!

    Your friend,.
    –Chris

  • Vivi

    Just finished !!
    OMG my muscles were most stiff than I believed it !!
    Very good workout to be in shape !

    My score is :

    1/ Commando push up : 18.17.16.16.17.18
    2/ Sandbag squat & Push kick : 17.17.18.18.18.19
    3/ Single knee tuck : 21.21.22.22.22.22

    Now another one !! but which one?? It is not the choice which missies !!!

    • http://www.facebook.com/ildiko.mazar Ildikó Sünci Mázár

      I was traveling practically all day yesterday so I’m now catching up with the Sexy Beast. What did you choose for second course today, Ms Machine? :-)

      • Vivi

        oups I didn’t validate my comments !
        I chose “Give me a reason wo”. I find this title in touch with the day discussion
        Give me a reason to have or not kids???

    • MariaBjørgJepsen

      Vivi, do you sleep a lot? I find it unbelieveable how you can have energy for 2-3 workouts every single day. Very impressive! And great scores, sweetie :) I guess I can’t always be high on energy with my busy kitchen – and waitress fulltime job. That is why I always do my workouts very early in the morning, to become energized for the long day. Have a great weekend!
      Much love, Maria

      • Vivi

        A lot ?Perhaps with regard to others. I sleep on average 6-7h by night.
        But When I do a workout at the end (having found my breath!!) I’m in shape and need one more.
         3 workout is exceptional, even if I always made abs exercises after. To work my “transverse” because I need it! I  gained core, abs with workout but not really the “transverse”.  Thus that makes that I kept of the stomach because without ransverse developed the muscle, that in trendier to push away internal organs ;)

  • Anonymous

    Hi, i’m 29 and i don’t have children, becouse i’m not ready yet to give up on my freedom, plus i’m affraied of what could happen to my body after a pregnancy?!
     i admire couples that have children and they are supportive to each other. one thing is to have a baby and another thing is to rease them. i think that to have a baby you need two person but to rease them you need to be in TWO.maybe is just me talking like this, becouse my parents divorced when i was 5 years old. i have seen,and now i understand, my mum’s difficulties, it was not easy for her. since 24 years we don’t know a thing about my father and he lives in the same town with us!!!! i’m just saing that you have to know well who is infront of you before having a baby. for sure i want a FAMILY for my children :) )) but fot that i have to wait and to be patient;)

    <3 i'll do the workout this evening

    have a great Friday bodyrockers!!!!

    kissss

    • susana

      Kikinafit,
      I know what you meant about your body change, that’s it’s only one thing in the whole pregnancy motherhood. And if you decided to be a mother, not necessarily will be the same situation of your mother, but let’s say if you do, you’ll know how to deal, cause u already had the best example: your own mom :)  

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=32805213 Rachel McNally

    My husband and I are in our mid 30s and definitely not wanting kids. We are the type of people to never say never, but we believe we shouldn’t have kids unless we know without hesitation that we want them. We truly enjoy our friends’ kids, our nieces and nephews, neighbors’ kids etc, but we never have had a situation where we looked at any of it and thought to ourselves, “wow, I can’t wait to have my own children.”

    People always look at us like we have three heads and antlers when we say we won’t have kids, but you can’t let society sway you toward a big decision just because your view isn’t their “norm”. We get why so many people find the utmost joy in being parents. We wish more people understood why we’re certain that being parents just isn’t for us.

    • Zouzou

      I completely agree with you Rachel: whatever the decision of a couple, no one is allowed to judge, or to advice. As I said in my other comment I do want children. But when I meet people who say they do not, I don’t find it “abnormal” either. I don’t see how on earth anyone should dare judging anyone. We are all different. It is good I think, that people are lucid and do not do things because the society or the family around expects it. I think the most important thing in life, is to be coherent with yourself. It also means you know yourselves pretty well. There is nothing worse than having a child, which is irreversible, but not be convinced about it…!

  • Vivi

    A new Tea Talk !!
    http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fyoutu.be%2FvPQw2cQhD8E&h=HAQCql0f7
    I’m going to make this workout, and I go back to put my score ant to give my advice about children ;)

  • Anonymous

    Yes. Follow the workout schedule, don’t let an exercise scare you away (do it!), and push your hardest. I’m a newbie, too and I’m loving this. Give it your all, you will love it, too. :) Welcome!

  • Anonymous

    I don’t have children, so I guess my comment does not count as much, but anyway, this is how I look at this.
    Sometimes I get the feeling that people, especially women have children just because at some point in life they do not see new challenges for themselves. They build a home (either house or flat), get a car (or two), have a job and maybe own a dog or other pet. What now? Having children seems like a logical decision, widely and socially accepted. It certanly guarantees you 20 years of constant action and there you are – occupation of life.
    And talking about biological clock ticking – I sense a sort of panic in that. It usually happens in women’s 30′s (around age of 35) that they seem to realise that they – ops! – sort of forgot to have children. I do not believe in certain twist of mind over night.
    Historically taken, having children was a must if human beings wanted to survive – they were work force. People didn’t decide on having children (or marriage) on basis of love, but from a different perspective – surviving. If they wanted to hunt and grow foods that would provide them with ‘fuel’ for living, they had to have help. And children were guaranteed to help.
    Having children stays everyone’s own choice. No one can tell you whether you should have them or not, if you want them, then there is no need to ask other people for their opinions. But since you did ask and I wanted to add my piece, here it is! ;) Best to you all!

    • Anonymous

      i agree with you when you say some “women have children just because at some point in life they do not see new challenges for themselves” or because society thinks that it would be time to have children. it’s only our private and personal decision to have kids and when to have them. nobody can decide for us. not even society or friends, becouse it will be our commitment for life. to take this decision you must be in TWO. it’s not fair to decide alone, you have to involve your partner. ( a friend of mine decided it’s time to have a baby, her husband wanted kids but he thought it was to soon and they should enjoy a little bit the married life together. she insisted, she got pregnant. today she is a divorced single mom with her beautiful baby, just becouse she did not listen to those words:”yes, i want kids, but let’s enjoy a few years of married life”)

  • Hanna

    It’s ultimately your decision. If you’ve always wanted to have kids one day and if you should feel at one point that the time has come to make some additions to the family then follow your feelings, I would say. I can’t really judge from a good perspective, I must admit, seeing as I’m no mom yet. But if you’re worried about not being able to continue your sportive lifestyle then take a look at all those many bodyrocking parents. There’ve even been threads regarding bodyrocking while pregnant. As to outdoor sports – children are quite capable of doing some exercise. When my hubby was 3 years old he started climbing mountains. When I was 6 years old I went on 30km hikes and loved it. If you can be a role model for your children they’ll follow into your footsteps.

    • Zouzou

      I also agree with you Hanna. I know so many parents who continued to do all kind of sports and included even the brand new babies ;-) in the cycle: I think nowadays it is easier and easier to do so. You can cross country ski with your kid on the back, more exercice! and many sports are like this. Lots of kids love to have sport activites from very young and this is the parents’role to make their kids active. I think there are always ways and solutions to continue being sporty, and this could even be a brand! like, find out on the best sport solutions once you become a mum! 
      Anyway, sport is just an example: yes things change and some change drastically with a kid. if you want no change at all you cannot have a child.  

  • Elle

    To be honest, I believe she is just speaking the truth. I think a parent sometimes (not all) feel the same way, but it is not to say they really and truly wish they did not have kids. I think they just wish they had gotten everything out of their system before. I have seen the most selfish people I know have kids and turn to mush. It is like seeing a whole new person. Children do change you and your life and marriage and everything. It is hard work. You have to be willing to devote your entire being to someone totally incapable of taking care of themselves (at least for a few years). It is all personal choice, but you have to be ready.

    I think that you guys are living out your dreams right now and have very fulfilling lives being able to travel as much as you do and see the world and move to new homes every few months. It is great and those are the opportunities you should take advantage of right now. I’m not saying you can’t travel with kids, but it would be very hard to pack light the way you two like to do :D

    Overall, I say if you want them go for it when you are ready. Deep down, your friend would lay down her life for her kids. Any parent would. I’m sure more parents feel the same way but feel bad if they think it or say it out loud. I’m sure if she were given time off from being a parent and live the life she thinks she could have had, she would be very lonely and wish to her “mom…mom…mom…mom” lol. I say just make sure you are ready and when the time comes you will know it. Don’t let her comments scare you off. Everyone has their opinion but only you two will know what is right and when it is right.

  • Anonymous

    I’m  22 and a mother of two little boys. We decided to come for young parents. I have always wanted kids and wanted to be a mom. To be a mother, to be a parent is the greatest thing on earth! :) From the love of a child beats all unnecessary careers, hobbies and all… In the child you see the meaning of life. I think it is best to get children at an early age, because then you have more energy to play with your kids and do all grazy things with them. :)  
    With two children I still have “my own time”, like doing these workouts. ;D Well, kids are probably my reason to do these, cos’ I wanna lost some weight before I get pregnant again. I dreaming about having more than 5 children, cos’ there is no thing that can beat that family love. :)  
    It is our blan to have kids at young. Cos’ children are growing so fast and now time is like flying! Then, when we are like 40, we can’t have children anymore, but then we can do all the other things that we are dreaming. Like travelling some wonderful places… :)  

    Now I go to bake with the boys some birthday cakes. My youngest celebrated two years, and we having a party tomorrow. ♥ 

    Will do this workout this night… 

  • http://www.janetspreiter.com Janet

    Having children is the most wonderful blessing and joy of your life.  I was 26 and 28 with my boys, and my husband and I had been together 8 years before that.  It will challenge your patience and your relationship with your spouse, but you will never experience that kind of unconditional love any other way.  It was also like getting to revisit my childhood all over again.  Children are absolutely fascinating, and to watch them and to intimately know another being from conception on is something not to be missed in life.  Sure there are days at a time where you don’t have time to comb your hair, brush your teeth, find clean clothes, shower or workout like you want, but you also start realizing how much time you waste in a typical day. 
    Pregnancy is no picnic but your fitness pops right back if you are careful, as I am sure you would be.  I wound up racing better and faster after my 2 kids, and we loved surfing together then and now(they are 25 and 27 now).
    Just make sure you agree with your spouse on how to raise them, discipline them, educate them, etc.  Talk it through carefully.  Arguing with your spouse in front of your children is the only time you will regret having them, but it is more because you are so ashamed you cannot do better than that for them.  So if you have ugly arguments about anything now, do not expect it to improve with the added pressure of children!  You already have two dogs, so you probably have a sense already on how you both deal with these sorts of things.  
    Then there is the extra stress of wanting to do more for your kids than what you had, and not to repeat your parents “mistakes” with them.  This can be hard to agree on, too!  
    Children also come with a personality package and agenda built in that will be beyond anything you can possibly imagine.  They will become unique individuals.  They will not be clones of you and Freddy.  Your job is to help them become the best people they can be…and that is the beginning of all the learning and fun for all of you!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1395292098 Sherice Potter

    I have to agree with your friend.. or maybe only have 1. It is huge.. and I don’t think that most people realize the commitment exactly like your friend said..  Dr appts, emergencies, vaccinations, sticking to punishments and groundings and it’s harder on you when their in trouble. The bed wetting, braces, driving, grades, defiance, constantly being broke I could go on and on.. these aren’t the normal things you think of when thinking of starting a family at least my husband and I didn’t think about any of these things, yet these are the things that you will deal with, they are only little for so long then they become their own person with attitudes, emotions and their own opinions!!

  • Fleksfitness

    i feel sorry for her as i believe she is a very unhappy person. seems to me kids are to blame. i got 4 kids and never wanted to have them at all. i must say it was hard but my husband and i raised them well and i do not think that there is anything other in the world that could make me love so much and be fully happy with just a little smile. it is very unfortunate that people feel that way about kids but i am happy that your parents had you both as you turned out to be great adults.
    One thing i must say do not plan for having children if your relationship is “rocky” and you are doing it to fix it. Once you have kids it does change your life and you will need full commitment and be able to shift your priorities. also i have learned there is never good time to have children: not enough money, blooming career, house too small etc. Just have them the sooner the better. Our bodies change and age bearing years are between 18-28 years old so give that some thought as well. if i could do it all over again i would not hesitate and have them once more! they are just perfect! and let me add it did not change my body, i am still 5’4″ 128 lb  and only 14 % of body fat. i still workout and have time for myself even with 4 of them.

  • Anonymous

    Here are my two cents… your friend says that having children takes away a great deal of freedom. You know what else takes away a great deal of freedom? Marriage. When you get married, you’re giving of yourself and your life to someone else, just like you do when you have kids. If you’re happy in your marriage and you see that loss of freedom as a trade off for a great adventure with someone you love, then I guarantee you will feel the same when you have a child, especially since you planned on having kids in the first place.
    That brings me to another point… you already know what you’re going to do. You said that having kids was something that you always planned on, even though not right away. Having kids was already a part of your long term plans, so why not stick to you plans? We’re on this earth but a short while, and while we’re here we develop desires that determine our priorities and help us set goals. Some people leave this world satisfied, having met the goals they have set for themselves. Others leave with regrets because they didn’t fulfill all of their life plans. Having kids must be a desire you have, or you wouldn’t bother make plans to have them. Don’t regret not doing something that you wanted.

    So there you go. Life according to FatBGone. Take it with a grain of salt, though I hope it gives you something to think about.

    *************************************************************
    My scores: 
    Commando Push Ups (first round normal, the rest on knees, but I threw in the knee tucks): 6, 5, 7, 8, 4 (I really needed a sip of water), 7
    Squat and Push Kick (no sandbag): 11, 9, 10, 10, 9, 9
    Single Knee Tuck (beginner mod): 8, 12, 12, 12, 12, 12

    My daughter’s scores (she’s 9):
    Commando Push Ups (she did the first 2 rounds normally and the rest on her knees): 8, 7, 10, 4, 2, 0 (she needed a break)
    Squat and Push Kick (no sandbag): 12, 14, 11, 13, 19, 2 (she was still taking a break)
    Single Knee Tuck (beginner mod): 9, 12, 12, 11, 13, 15 (she pushed hard to finish :) )

  • miafromtheblock

    I have many female friends who don’t want kids and never desired to have kids ever. I, on the other hand, have always wanted to be a mother. At 27, I am a mother to a lovely 5-year-old who completely amazes me. She completes me. An appropriate decision inline with MY goals, hopes, and dreams.
    Having children or not depends on you and your partner’s desires for the future. What are your hopes and dreams? 
    I’ve known of people who feel the pressure of having a family, not because it is what they want but because they think its something they are supposed to do (make their parents happy, society, religion, etc). and at the end of it all, they are not happy with their lives as parents…
    On the flip side, I know of some couples who have delayed having children because they were career-oriented, and now in their early 40s… some wish they could have turned back time to be younger parents because they wish they had energy to keep up and enjoy their kids.

    No one can live your life for your life but yourself, the same way you can’t live life for someone else.
    There is no right or wrong or better or worse decision, except one that affects you.

    Good luck 
    x

  • http://www.janetspreiter.com Janet

    I hate to be the one to break the news to you, but kids never leave home these days!  ;)

    • Anonymous

      Your problem is living on an island, girl! :-) Give each a boat and say bye!

      –Chris

      • http://www.janetspreiter.com Janet

        Haha, Chris! They went on a small boat, sailed together to Australia from California, and live in Calif and New York at the moment. They are not the live at home types, but I hear from many that they just can’t shake em loose.

  • Eli

    Hi, I am a 29 yr old stay at home mom of a three year old boy. Love of my life. Would do anything for him. My husband and I get constant pressure to continue to grow our family, but we are sticking to just one child regardless of what people say because this is whats right for us.

    I envy childless couples because of the freedom they have to do what they want. Travel, eat (without rushing), go out for drinks or a movie, stay out late, take a yoga class, etc. Think about the small things too that become difficult, such as taking a shower, cooking, using the restroom! Haha. Seriously.

    What I am saying is that just because the social norm is to have kids, does not mean that you are selfish or bad people for chosing not to. If you enjoy the quality of your life as it is now, your free time, and your time together, chosing to not have a baby may be a good decision. Either way, i can tell from what i have read so far that you are the type of couple who will choose to be happy with any challenge thrown your way.

    My pregnancy happened accidentally, and we could not have picked a better time if we planned on it. Perhaps you can let fate decide. :)

    Thanks for your fantastic workout and diet advice! Love you guys.

  • Stephaie

    Wow!  Some really great comments!  I am a mother of 3.  I am 39 and I was married almost 6 years before kids.  I knew at the beginning of our marriage that I wanted children, but I also knew I couldn’t handle them, nor did I want them early.  I will never regret this decision.  We travelled and had fun together, just as you are able to do and the best part is you are learning about life and getting more mature.  I see my oldest son becoming a teenager and I know I wouldn’t have been able to deal w/ his emotions and mine if I was raising him as a kid myself.  My advice is..if you want children…wait until you are ready.  For some people it is much earlier, for myself my late 20′s was perfect!  We love our children and we are so glad that God gave them to us.  I think it is our responsibility to raise them and train them.  If you don’t have time for them and your idea of raising them is putting  them in daycare as early as possible then PLEASE do them a favor and don’t have kids!  They need the stability of at least one parent being home and around them until they are school aged at least.  I wish you all the best as you think about your decision!

  • Daniela

    This is something I struggle with almost every day…

    I think that choosing to have children or not is like choosing between two life adventures. Neither is worse or better. It all depends on how you do it. Personally I’m pretty young (25), I’ve been married for about 2 years and my husband and experienced this weird thing where we wanted a family and we talked about having a family right up until we got married. Once we got married we just both lost all desire or interest to have children. We’re open to that one day changing but we don’t foresee it changing. I’m just not sure I want to raise a child in this world. Plus there are so many other things I want to do; travel, help people, learn… SO MUCH!

    Raising children in itself is such a huge responsibility and you can do it grandly or poorly. Choosing not to have children opens up a whole different (not better) adventure, it all depends on how you do it.

    That’s my 2 cents. It might be a little jumbled.

  • Lisa

    Children? No children? Hmmm…
    There have been some great points made on this site. Here is what I’ve heard so far about having kids:

    It’s a personal choice, yours and yours alone.
    It’s not an easy choice and there are pros and cons to both as with any decision.
    Raising kids is really hard.
    It’s also really amazing.
    You grow as a person no matter what.
    It’s a love like no other.
    You’d better be ready.
    You still have control over your own life and the decisions you make.

    This has been a topic that my husband and I have been discussing at
    length lately. I have appreciated reading the range of comments, ideas and opinions. My husband and I have been together for almost 9 years, married for 1.5
    (He’s 37, I’m 32). We’re happy and have a great relationship. At this point as a couple, we’ve decided not to have kids, but that doesn’t mean I won’t change my mind down the road. At this time in his life, my husband isn’t interested in having kids. I am on the fence. I am not willing to make the decision for both of us since it’s going to be a major team effort. There is a lot to take into account and I don’t think the decision should be made lightly. Times have changed, and people really do seem to have more of a choice these days.

    My husband and I are happy with our lives right now. Until something feels like it’s missing, I think we’re going to keep doing what we’re doing.

    Thanks for broaching this topic. There are always going to be those who don’t understand people who choose to be child-free, and there are those who have a hard time understanding people who have kids.

    It’s all about what makes each of us happy in this short life.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Sarahi-Gomez/1501689496 Sarahi Gomez

    Cons of having a kid: way less me time, life time commitment,  embarrasing moments of having the kid cry in the theater and it wont hush, tantrums, EXPENSIVE (education, food, toys, cars, etc), cant travel as much, your life will revolve around them.
    Pros: procreation, having a mini you, change of way of seeing “life”

    I have always heard that line countless time “I never had a single regret”. I think once you have a kid you just convince yourself that its for the better. Personally I don’t want to have a kid, and i must say it may sound selfish but I want to live my life MY way. And I dont feel that having a kid will change life for the better or for worse. I just don’t believe that having children will make life complete, I already feel happy with what i have, and if I want to take care of something or someone I will just get a dog, or volunteer at the old peoples place or orphanage.

    I have put a lot of thought and research into this. I even found an article which says that when you play with your children, you would get the same level of satisfaction as when you are cleaning your house.

    • http://www.janetspreiter.com Janet

      My satisfaction from cleaning my house has never been on a level close to playing with my children, that was why my house tended to be messy!

  • http://www.facebook.com/Sofia.B.LopezBilbao Sofia

    I personally don’t have kids but I know that I want some eventually. I think it’s admirable that some people are able to put their wants and needs aside from societal norms. I find it so hard to ask myself, do I want this because I want it, or because society says so? and actually come up with the right answer.

    Like many of the people said, you trade one life in for another. I don’t think it’s good to burn through stages so I want to enjoy my life just with my partner before we think about kids. I want to travel, get to know each other more, etc.  But I know that something would be missing in my life if I never had any. Like I told my mom when she couldn’t understand why I don’t want to have kids too young: A life with kids is totally different from one without kids, I just want to experience them both. 

    I’ll be doing this workout tomorrow :)

  • Ziba

    commando push ups! my favorite :D  

  • Peta

    So l’m a mother of 2 (aged 4 and 18months).  l never ever, EVER wanted kids.  l wanted to be a professonal career, see the world type person who only care for myself.  Then l met my partner Trent & l fell pregnant at aged 24yrs (on the pill).  l didnt know how to deal with that, as l said l didnt want kids.  l had my daughter and yes, did my life change.  But in my opinion, it was for the better.  My focus, my goals, everything changed.  Who cares about a career?  How can l make my kids happier?  What can l do to make their lives better?  Until you have kids, you shouldnt really be trying to answer this question, because you really dont understand.  Some people are meant to have kids and some arent.  Some cant get over the full time, constant effort and some are born parents. 
    My hat goes off to all the single parents.  At least if you do have kids, its a role that can be shared.
    Now that l’ve had my say, l’ll go do my workout.

  • Sheila

    To have or not to have…well…we have been married for 21 years..we didn’t start having children until our 12 year of marriage…in the beginning we didn’t really think we would have a family by choice…but after doing all the traveling…career…business…living all over the place…we just knew something was missing and we wouldn’t change a thing…well maybe one thing…would have started a few years sooner and maybe had more…children are a blessing from the Lord…yes there are days that we are challenged and our attitudes are stretched but children enhance your life so much and if you decide that they are coming into your family and that the whole family is not centered around them then life is balanced!

  • kat

    I have 7 children and would not change a thing!!  I love my children and if anyone would ask me I would tell them the same thing.  Don’t get me wrong having 7 children is not always a day in the park but it has it’s rewarding moments more often than not :0) 
    Here are my scores for tonights workout (sorry not too impressed was a little tired this evening)  no excuses will beat my personal best next time :0)
    comando pushups 10 13 13 12 12 1/2 13
    sandbag squat push kick 5 7 1/2 8 1/2 8 1/2 9 10
    single knee tuck 15 15 15 17 18 19

  • Sadie

    Hi guys, 
    I’m 25, 26 in few wks, (yikes) and mother to an amazing 2 year girl. The pregnancy was something I absolutely didnt want and broke my heart when I found I that i was sentenced to being a mum. So many hopes and dreams just vanished with that plus sign on the pregnancy test. 
    But my boyfriend is amazing and encourages and supports me like no other, and with his help, and that of my friends, the pregnancy became such an amazing event. 40 wks on, and the size of the house I gave birth to the most beautiful being I have ever seen. It was the most painful, horrible, ecstaticly beautiful experience. And the result of it, my baby girl is my greatest achievement and my guiding force.
    I am more ‘me’ now than I ever could have been before – stronger, more confident, more sensitive, more driven – being a mum doesnt define me, but I think I would have been a long time trying to find myself had this not happened.
    I still spend time with my friends, my job, bodyrock, take trips with my boyfriend, have romantic nights in etc(And like all those other great mom bodyrockers, have gotten my abs back proving it can be done!)My life has filled up to every corner with joy and chaos and I wouldnt want it any other way.
    I think becoming a parent is probably like the greatest thrill ride and the greatest love that we are capable of experiencing, so anyone who is with someone they love or has a happy home to fill, and on the fence about having kids – do it, go for it. The rest of your life is waiting for you!
     

    • ZoeRocker

      I think if I got pregnant I would be horrified, but I would keep it because I’d think it was meant to be somewhere deep down. However, I am and always will do whatever I can to prevent that from happening. I’m sure having a child is an amazing self accomplishment, I just know its not for me.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Angie-Thompson/1175203039 Angie Thompson

    Some people are just not made for kids. I am 21 and I have no desire to have kids whatsoever.I have friends that are 18 and already know they want some. It just depends on the person. I am happy on my own and I don’t need someone I have to care about and take care of….So really it’s up to you guys. I do understand her point though. She is honest, not many parents would admit to that.

  • http://www.twitter.com/NightShayde Hazel

    I think the most important thing about having the kids is to make sure mummy and daddy are always united in communication and decision-making. I live with my brother and sister-in-law…and they have communication issues because my sister-in-law never wants to accept that she is doing something wrong in her decisions for the child. No matter what anyone says, she never listens, and this is always at the expense of the child.

    Thats why I’ve always felt that unless you are really ready and mature enough for children, dont have them. Kids need a lot of love and attention, not constant scoldings or spankings, although sometimes that is necessary too.

    Besides, every parental experience is different. I’m sorry Madge feels that she would change how she did things, but that doesnt reflect on the both of you. Besides, I am sure you will both be amazing parents! And your kids will have hard muscles by the age of seven. :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=510084719 Zuri Scrivens

    WOW! What an awesome topic! I have to admit, I’m incredibly disappointed to hear that someone would flat out tell you NOT to have children, and to refer to having children as a “waste of time”. There is no more personal decision in the world. At the end of the day, it comes down to you and your partner and what your priorities are. Of course, there are also the societal implications and impact on population dynamics should more and more couples opt not to have children, but I’m not going to get into that.

    Myself, I’ve only been a mother for 9 months. However, I have yet to have a single moment of regret. My pregnancy was less than favorable (pain and bed rest, etc), I’ve never been so tired in my life and to be honest, I am so unhappy with my body right now. But, I can safely say that every morning that I wake up (whether I’ve had 1 hour of sleep or 6, and no matter how rough the night or day before was, and no matter how frumpy I feel), I’m ALWAYS happy, grateful, overjoyed and awestruck by the little human happily bouncing away in his crib giving me a big smile as I open his door. I wouldn’t trade him for any number of worldly adventures or experiences. Besides, as someone already mentioned, you can experience life WITH your child(ren). What better way to experience what the world has to offer than through the eyes of a little person??

    I am truly sad for your friend. What a huge regret to have on your shoulders for a lifetime. But wouldn’t it be worse to go through life thinking you’d rather not have children and then someday realize that maybe you did, but it was too late? Again, this is such a personal decision, and I hope that whatever decision you make, when the time comes, that it is the right decision for you and for no one else.

  • Melissa

    When I pictured my life a few years ago, a child just wasn’t there. And I’m not going to lie when I found out I was pregnant I was horrified. Then I realized the only reason I didn’t want kids was because I was afraid of the type of parent I would be, not having the best role models or parents growing up. But everything changed when I saw my daughter, everything just clicked and I knew that I would be great, everything was how it was supposed to be. I wouldn’t go back and do anything differently. I am 23 with a beautiful 2 year old girl that I wake up to every morning (she is my alarm clock) and her father is an amazingly compassionate person that I have been with for almost 8 years now. Children require an ENORMOUS amount of energy, love, patience, and diapers. But they can bring you so much happiness – if you are capable of just appreciating a smile, a kiss, and the occasional bruise because they get excited and are clumsy.   Do what you feel is right for your relationship, after all no one knows yourselves better than the two of you!

  • Czerskii

    I did the workout from the 28th bc of the time difference.  It’s 10pm here and I just got the workout from the 30th.  I just read your note Freddie, and everyone will have their own opinion and idea’s about having kids and family etc.  Each persons experience is completely different from the other when it comes to raising kids.  I don’t have any kids of my own-but I really want to have kids, and my husband at this point does not want any kids.  Lord willing, one day we will have kids.  But at the same time I am nervous about it.  I think kids are a blessing, and of coarse there are challenges…but isn’t it worth it?  It’s not just about me is it?  What about raising a child, teaching, training, growing, character changing experiences?…life is about growing our character, not staying the same.  And we not only grow with our kids, we grow with people we never knew we would grow to like and love.  Who am I to say?  I don’t have kids yet.  But I am 38 years old and love kids.  One child is an important life, a destiny, a beautiful life full of purpose…and isn’t is so exciting to see which path that child would take?  I love my nieces and nephews, and it’s so neat to see what things they are drawn to, sports, music, art, or whatever…anyways, I would love to see you guys have beautiful kids…it’s so exciting…listen to your own hearts…you are a beautiful married couple with much opportunity before you, and whether you have kids, or not, there simply is much opportunity and life that lays ahead for you…may God lead you and guide you in this and lay on your hearts what to do about it.  Anyways, I hope to do this workout tomorrow…thanks again.  Have a great day…Sincerely, Tracy

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_HIRA7W7OJ6ZHXMTHXJDPVS7VLE Melanie

    Commando push up 15,14,13,12,12,13
    Sandbag squat kick up 14,13,12,12,12,13
    Single knee tuck 15,15,14,14,14,14
    Thank you Zuzana and Freddy. My 2 cents I think you are wonderful and Freddy too, and I think it would be a shame if you didnt have at least one baby. I myself have one child and I had my son when I was 16, Im 29 now and I gave up much yes I did but I would do it again because My son Julian is the best choice I ever made, he is my greatest accomplishment. No I didnt go to prom and all that teenage stuff and I didnt go clubbing as a young adult but I raised and Im still raising an amazing kid, and I wouldnt trade it for anything.

  • morayma segura

    Well, i’m a young mon , my daughter just turned 4 last friday, having kids it’s a decision a couple should do if they want to. There are some peple who are parent type and some that are not. Nowadays, women just don;t feel the pressure of havng kids anymore. And it’s ok, when you have a kid it’s a lifetime proyect and you shlould know that somelse needs you, depents on you and your heart will grow and you should be absolutely sure that’s what’s you want and that’s it’s going to be you 24×7 job just hard as you want it to be. I know feel more realize as a person since i have my baby girl, but it just me. You know when are made for something ……always think before you act! It’s ok not to want kids but i really think that you should never regret them because it was your decision who they are now and what they are…..

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=708316425 Mikki Eifert

    I do not have children but heard both sides from friends with and without children.   It is a huge commitment and I believe some are just not that “into children” and have them anyway.  Some just go through the motions of dating, getting married, purchasing a home and finally having children. A prefect example, friends of mine became pregnant with their second child.  They had it all, married for a year, new home, good jobs and just starting out on their lives together as a family.  I asked the husband how fatherhood was with having his first child.  I could hear the despair in his voice saying it was tough and it was only going to get tougher.  I then said, “do you have some news to tell us?”  He hung his head down and said, “we are expecting another.”   He didn’t sound like it was a happy occasion. I didn’t know whether to congratulate them or not.  His wife, my friend, said nothing. It was an awkward moment.  I tried to add some comfort.  I could sense he was seeing his carefree life slip away.  I told him; “you just trade one life for a different life, ones not better than the other, it’s just different.”  Unfortunately, they are now in the middle of a divorced.  My friend had no idea her husband was not father material.  He doesn’t beat them he just doesn’t want to spend time with them.  He has no interest, it’s a hassle.  After hearing all the stories, I asked my girlfriend if she thought he would have made a good father before all this happened.  She said, yes.  When it came to actually do it.  It was clear he was not.  All she wanted was a good man to raise a family with.  My opinion, she was just going through the motions of life without really thinking about it.   

    I heard this from Marie Shiver, years ago.  To find if someone is a good parent have them care for a dog.  Do they walk it, feed it, bath it, play with it, discipline it and love it?  I asked my girlfriend what happen to her husbands dog when they moved in together.  She said he never took care of it. She ended up doing it all.  He eventually got rid of it because it was to much trouble.  I never forgot Marie’s little bit of advice.  I told her this story and a huge light went off in her head.  It breaks her heart he is missing out on these beautiful little boys.  I’m not sure if he will ever get it.

    With that said, I have plenty of friends who are great parents and love… love… their family and children.  I hear it is the most rewarding experience you will ever have.  

    This conversation has always fascinated me.  To have children or not.  I admire people who really think long and hard on what is right for them.  Not just going through the motions because they are suppose to.  As a women who decided not to have children, I STILL hear, “are you going to have children?”  My response, “what are you crazy, I’m 47.”  It is a choice and it’s my choice.  I’ve had annoying friends ask and ask. Like it was mandatory to procreate.  Do what is right for you and no one else.  You will be trading one life for a different life.  That’s how I see it. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/marilyn.rietveld Marilyn Rietveld

    Finally! Somebody who admits that having children is not the greatest purpose in your life. I mean this generation has an option and actually has to think about the choice of getting kids or not whether this used to be something that you just did.
    I ‘know’ (although you never know for sure) that I do not want to have kids. I have had this opinion since I can remember. Sure I like my nieces and cousins, I enjoy playing with them and proper care of kids is something so very important. You have to be 100% dedicated. Therefore I feel that admitting that there is more to life than kids (for some people, not all) is a very good decision. If you have doubts about it you can not give a 100% to the upbringing of your child.

    Ow and I am already looking forward to do this workout later today!! :D

  • Michelle Tremel

    My husband and I are planning on having children, and honestly I am so excited at the idea. We have fully considered all the changes (and fullness/meaning) that it would bring to our lives before we even got married. Having children is a huge sacrifice. They become your whole world, and I recently heard from a friend that she literally has to stop herself from sobbing (just around birthdays 7 months and 3) when she starts thinking about how awesome her kids are. 
    It is most definitely a personal choice, and not one that should be made lightly. If a person is not ready for children, or willing to make the personal sacrifices necessary, all of your attention will be focused on that. I am 26 and I want to have children before I am 30 for several reasons. Most importantly so I can be fun and play with my kids, but also to reduce health risks for baby and mom, including breast cancer. We will also be without dependent children in our retirement. I am planning on getting pregnant within the next year. This summer my goal is to see how smoking hot I can get before I get pregnant, and they it will be to maintain as much of my fitness as I can, and have a healthy pregnancy.
    I think discussion about this topic can be very valuable, and I have appreciated everyone’s comments. I hope that everyone takes the time to weigh all the pros and cons, and makes the right decision for themselves.

  • Julia

    Hi Guys 
    I’m 29 years old mother of 3.5 years old girl  ,living 16000 km from my family  and all the friends .
    And I have to say that being a parent so far from everything I know and without  any help,  it is the most challenging thing I ever done in my life .
    I used to think that I’ll never have kids-no way that I’ll be available  for someone else 24/7, 7 days a week But as older I’m getting the more I think that she is the closest human I ever had  in my life .And  every day I love her more and more .I can see my husband and myself in her .It is unbelievable .
    Of course some days are harder then others and there is no much time for yourself trying to balance life ,work ,children and not to go crazy.
    Remember that no one said  it’s going to be easy but I believe my daughter is a little girl who is growing to be my best friend ;-) .All the Best

    • Peta

      l not only like this post, l love it.
      Right on the money

  • Cect82

    Hey,
    I’ve read many different perspectives and respect everyone for their honesty, but I think the most important thing for Zuzana and Freddy is to desire the same thing. As long as you both wish to not have children you will live life to it’s fullest without regrets and resentment. However, if you disagree then you may have to re-look at the big picture. I had 3 children in my early 20′s and have not regretted for one moment ever having children, as said before, they are the reason I wake up, they motivate each day to be a better woman than yesterday, and I am still completing my studies all the while. As long as you both follow what hour hearts desire you cannot go wrong…I wish you both the best!

  • BodyRockerGinger

    You know, this is a hard topic because EVERY person has different outlooks on life. I had my daughter at 16 and I get asked if I regret it all the time because I missed out on some very important years of my life. I understand why people would see it like that but I don’t feel that way at all because I have the energy to keep up with her, and by the time she graduates I will only be 34 and will be able to travel and do things later on. I have ZERO regrets in my situation. I love being a mom and looking back I wouldn’t change a thing. That being said, I really think peoples situations do matter. If you guys are really into travelling and just love the freedom to get up and go whenever and wherever you feel like it, then maybe now is not the time. Being a parent, in my opinion, is more fulfilling than any kind of travelling adventure and is the best experience a person could have. 

  • Jazzy

    Commando Push-Up: 15,14,13,11,11,11
    Sandbag Squat & Push Kick: 15,16,16,16,16,16
    Sigle Knee Tuck: 12,13,13,12,13,12

    At some degree I agree with your friend. Having a child changes your life completely. I dont regret having my son, but if i could do it over i would have like to have him a little later in life ( i was 24 when i had him). He is my joy, my husband and i do not remember what it was like or what we did without our son. I would have liked to have traveled more. I know we can do that with him, but it would not be the same. But having a child gives you joy and love that no one can really explain until you have one yourself.

  • Christine

    How can having a child do anything but completely change one’s life? Creating life is, well, amazing and frightening and challenging! There are things I would change about my life, but nothing that would rob me of my son. He is an incredible young man now and has always been an amazing being. I don’t think there is a single act of bravery, commitment and generosity greater than giving your love to a little human being. It is also a very personal and intense decision two people should make carefully. I encourage you to think about it and be fully engaged in whatever you choose. :)

  • Heather

    Oh no you and Zuzana have to have babies – you guys would be great parents and your kiddos would be so cute!!
    I am a mom to 3 little ones and even though some days are crazy and you just feel like giving up, the rewards they give you is amazing!!! I can’t imagine not having kids, and yes things would be easier if it were just me and my husband, but I want to be able to see my children graduate, get a job and get married. I don’t want to be old and alone without grandchildren to visit and spoil.

  • Lisa

    Thanks for “making” me do this workout, guys. I was having doubts about whether I would workout this evening…it was 8:20pm…feeling tired…but, I went on to see if Thursday’s workout was posted yet (I checked earlier and it wasn’t yet), and sure enough, there it was. I had no choice, really!!
    My scores:
    1. Commando Pushups: 13, 12, 11, 11, 10, 10
    2. Sandbag Squat + Push Kick (20lb bag): 12, 11.5, 11.5, 11, 11, 11.5
    3. Single Knee Tuck: 13, 12, 12, 12, 12, 13 (not easy!)

    I have lots to say about deciding to have kids…maybe I’ll wait until after my shower and post-workout snack!

  • Steph

    I’ve always wanted to be a mum, but after falling pregnant at 19 and having an abortion (hopefully this statement won’t cause a discussion around here), I realised that a lot more goes into having a child than just feeling you have enough love to give. And whether it sounds selfish or not, I realised that I still had so much to experience at that age and wasn’t ready at all.  I’m happy I made that decision, even though it was the hardest I’ve ever made and threw me into serious clinical depression, because I know my child wouldn’t have been raised the way he deserved, both emotionally and financially. 
    Now, at 24, I still feel too young to embark on such a life changing experience. There’s so much more to accomplish still, from my fitness to improving my impatient ways, becoming financially stable, owning property, getting married…I’m still a long way away from that stage of my life but I do still want a child someday, no question (probably just the one though… lol). I feel that 30 is sort of a turning point and probably the time when I’ll start thinking about starting a family. Before that, there’s still a lot of travelling, working and general ‘being young’ to be done :)

  • Rachel

    i’m only 23 years old and the thought of having kids at this age isn’t something i’d like to happen, but if it were to happen i def don’t think i would regret any of it.  i feel your friend has a negative view on having children.  she brought two people into this world and i’m sure it had it’s ups and downs but how could she say she wouldn’t do that again?  sure it’s got to be hard work, but that’s what having a family is all about.  to me it seems that she just had kids to have kids— she didn’t really think about the love she would be receiving, and was more focused on the expense.  i’m glad you didn’t post her name, because if i found out my parent’s wouldn’t go back and have me and my sister i’d be devastated.  i really can’t imagine someone saying that.  on a different note, i think you and freddy would make awesome parents bc you both seem to have a good healthy and loving relationship, and i’m sure having a kid wouldn’t change it. it would just be one more person to love and teach =]

  • Travis Bradford

    My first thought is that she really doesn’t have a wonderful family if she has that deep seeded resentment of having to sacrifice for her children.  It makes me sad to hear her say that.  Nothing brings you more joy, sadness, love, frustration, and happiness as children.  Having children is the biggest decision you wil ever make in your life.  You have to be 100% commited to sacrificing most of the things in your life for them early on.  Many of those things will be enhanced and more rewarding when your kids can share the experiences with you.  If you think you are proud of something you have done, I can tell you that you will be 10x as proud as when your child accomplishes a goal.  Hopefully, she was just trying to convey to you the drastic change in your lifestyle if you decide to have children, and was only saying that in a moment of weakness.

  • Jóhanna

    I have 3 kids and I wouldn’t return any one of them even if I could!  I am utterly and completely in love with each one of them. 

    There are moment when I think I’m going crazy!  But, there are more moments where I am having the time of my life, being around my crazy bunch is the best thing ever. 

    Watching them grow and go through different stages in life is priceless and often times totally hilarious……I have a daughter who is turning 12 this summer and O.M.G., can you imagen what I am going through !:)

    When a baby looks at you with nothing but love, and wraps their little arms around your neck and gives you a hug…………..your heart melts every time.  Now, could you really imagen going through life with out that exsperience??!!

    • Donna

      I can:) 12 is easy wait till she hits 13…

  • NILS

    wow. ! What can I say.  After reading that I was LITERALLY in tears!  I am 26 and have two beautiful children aged 3 and 4.  They are 15months apart and although they can be extremely nutty and crazy at times I would do the whole pregnancy, and labour a hundred times over!!  My kids were not planned but they truly are a blessing.  Yes I could have experienced more in life at my age but then again who says I still can’t??  Age aint nothing but a number and you are only as old as you think.  Who says you can’t do things a 20 year old can do.  The sky is the limit and there are plenty of years to come where I can continue to make history for myself, my wonderful children and the rest of my family.  I’ve had to work extra extra hard to get my body to where it is now and it has NEVER looked better!! Having kids SHOULDN’T be an EXCUSE … it should be a REASON !!  I suffered post natal depression after my eldest child but I picked myself up.  I gained 30kgs during my pregnancies and right now I am sitting at 20.3% body fat.  Zuzana and Freddy…. you will make BEAUTIFUL children and you will NEVER experience any other love that will ever come CLOSE to the love and joy you will get from these blessings.

    BODYROCKIN’ MAD FROM NEW ZEALAND !!!

  • Jennifer Forrest

    I suppose in the world of me,me, me then having kids might get in your way… but as a Christian mother of 2 boys I realized that life isn’t about me anymore.  Life isn’t about having fun and pleasing myself. We were not put here to get all the shiny pretty things in life and just die. When you get to your last day and your last breath will you say, oh I regret that I didn’t buy that or visit this place…etc Plus, becoming parents is something most of us were physically made to do. When you go to face an opponent or a problem wouldn’t you like to have back-up and support you can depend on. A family is a team, a gang, a troop, a clan, a posse, a crew that will stand by you and lift you up.  Like it says in the bible, “Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.” (Psalm 127:4-5) Children are blessings! Thankfully Eve decided to have kids:)

    Blessings,
    Jen

  • Anonymous

    It really all boils down to how it depends on the couple. Some people aren’t meant for kids. I think it must take a lot of maturity to handle kids. And any couple lacking that maturity SHOULD NOT have kids, because they will be unhappy and the kid will be unhappy. Your friend must be an unhappy person to say that, despite her wonderful family. At least from my perspective. If everyone thought the way she did, humans would cease to exist. It’s extreme, I think, unless there are certain circumstances that will not allow you to have kids. It’s also quite selfish. And this is coming from someone who does NOT want to marry or have kids right away. You can wait as long as you need, and if you don’t want kids, that’s perfectly fine if it’s based off of your thoughts. But don’t base your decisions off of what others say. That’s THEIR experience, you have to be able to live your own life. If your reasons for having kids is based off of the inability to adequately take care and having responsibility for that child, you’re making a smart choice. But if it’s because you’d rather live an easier life, it’s selfish. But if selfishness is your problem, you need to wait until you grow, and if you don’t, you wasted an entire period of valuable lessons that come with having kids.

    I’m 16 and there are girls in my school that are already having kids and/or are already thinking about marriage. I’m the total opposite. I want to travel, like you guys have since this bodyrocking journey, lots, and go all over the place and learn about the world around me with my own senses. I also want to be in the science field. The last thing that’s on my mind is kids or marriage, yet most girls my age are already thinking about what they’re going to do during/after college. I’m definitely in no hurry to marry, I’m not even sure if I want to get married, but I’m probably saying that because I just can’t think about settling down from the perspective of a 16 year old haha. I guess I have to wait until I’m older to make that decision. I also have firmly put my foot down on the kids thing. I don’t get along with kids. To be honest, I’d be a terrible mother… haha. But Again, I may be saying this because I’m young. Maybe one day I will have an amazing husband and a wonderful kid, but ONE KID. That’s it. I’m an only child, and I’ve never been spoiled all that much except with the amazing opportunity of a safe, and amazing house, with a bed, and working water, and food– so I guess I’m a little spoiled ;) (sarcasm). So many people in this world don’t have those luxuries.. But what I mean is that I’ve always been disciplined, and that’s how life will be for my only child– no spoiling! except with the necessities.So how does this tie to you guys? Coming from a 16 year old, I agree with your friend up until the point of NEVER having kids. I think that’s extreme. LIVE your life. Live your life for years without having kids. Live until you feel that all your dreams and demons have been conquered, and then settle down with a family– in no hurry of course. That’s what I want to do. Because when I am of age, I don’t want to have kids young.  I want to experience life for at least 10-15 years after I leave the house. I want to keep the family generation going for my family… and one kid will be enough :) It must be hard to have kids, but it’s one of those challenges in life that are necessary. And it is much easier to just live life without worries forever, but I could imagine wondering what life would be like if I were to never have kids. I asked my parents if they wish they didn’t have me, (they were married for 7 years until they had me), my dad says that he wouldn’t change a thing, but my mom constantly complains how kids are a pain and that’s why she only had one. (It actually breaks my heart, I’ve always tried to be the best that I can for my parents, always trying to grow and be a better person, but it’s never enough and I’m still not good enough, but let’s not get too emotional here ;) it’s not about that).

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=504450020 Laura Fancy

    I think a parent has only so much influence on a child. Society and one’s peers play a far more significant role as the child ages, than the parents. All one can really hope is that the values you instill in your children early on, will stay with them as they get older.
    Being a parent is definitely not for everyone. I personally don’t feel the need to have children, but I look forward to the day when my brother has kids. I would love to be an Aunt. My close friends all have children and I love them dearly. I’m only 25 and I may change my mind later, but right now having kids is not something I am planning on doing. :-)

    • http://www.facebook.com/yfreaky Yuli Slavina

      I agree.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_4DAK5KSSI6EKJJKZBHZVPHOQTY Alisha

    Hmmm.  I was one of the most freedom-loving people I knew!  I grew up sheltered & prohibited from doing much of anything young people do.  Very strict household and several siblings…so not a very good experience with family you could say.  Moved out, went to college and met my now husband on my Spring break.  We dated for 5 years before getting married.  He had done it all and I still felt as if I had to experience everything I hadn’t.  Loved running, gyms, being outside, having noone to answer to, that was all I had ever wanted.  I got pregnant as soon as we got married…my son is now 5.  I had another boy and he is now 3.  I am almost 8 months along with my third (and last) son.  Looking back there were several factors that led to our decision to have kids.  Deep love and trust.  Maturity. Security. Stability.  and the excitement and curiosity of finding out what it would be like to experience having children of our very own.  I am 32 now.  I can say that they majorly changed our lives in some ways –but not at all in others.  I personally do not believe your life should stop being your own just because you give birth. :)   We still make time for romance.  Thanks to Bodyrocktv, I am able to keep in awesome physical and mental condition pregnant or not.  I love my boys so very much.  They bring me a ton of joy and seemed to add life to my formerly self-centered existence. My husband and I were noticing just this past weekend as we ate out, how different our pursuits became after our Gabe and Reilly.  Our fun is making them smile or giving them new memories and our love.  Pretty special. I didn’t quit doing things I love though…am not a cookie-cutter or perfect mom.  I am me,  up for a fantastically large challenge–to raise 3 sons the best I can!  But, I have seen so many be either crippled by having kids–financially, maritally, emotionally, etc or just grow bored with life in general.  Like they blame their family for sucking the very life out of them.  I am a positive thinker and a can-do type of girl!  I can do it all…have my beautiful children, take good care of my body, love my husband, and pursue many fun things!   I can see you both being truly amazing parents, or not…it is your decision and it’s probably only a good thing that your friend presented this warning to you guys.  Gave reason for thought, never a bad thing.  You and Freddy are so capable, brilliant, positive, strong & beautiful people that I am certain you will do well down whichever path you take.  Love you both <3

  • yogapeg

    My husband and I got married young and began having children young (oops). Yes we could have been more careful and extended our youth, however now that our kids are quickly growing up and moving out, we are still young enough to be very active and enjoy life! Bill Cosby always said that getting married doesn’t change your life, having kids does, and he is right. However, I don’t take that statement as a negative. Yes, it is the most challenging thing you will probably ever do, and it’s a very long-term endeavor, this parenting gig. But let me put this as briefly and poignantly as possible… As with any major change in life, IT IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT. As with all of life, some of the outcome is up to you and your choices along the way, and some of it is beyond your control. Being comfortable with yourself and the fact that big events change us and bring out our best and worst in order to enable us to grow, communicating well with your partner and your children, and having skill at dealing with stress and facing challenges (which I perceive you two certainly do!), you can remain present and avoid regrets and resentments. I suspect your friend Madge has some regrets and resentments she has not dealt with well just yet. I am also in my 40s and can understand her very normal midlife grieving at the loss of freedoms and youth along the way. Again, this is a normal stage of life we (I think especially women) go through. It’s all good, you guys. TRULY. 

    • http://www.facebook.com/tiffaniewride Tiffanie Hibbert Wride

      I “like”  – Excellent advice

  • http://www.facebook.com/hholwegergarcia Heather Holweger-Garcia

    I half agree with your friend. My situation is a little different. I married a man who came with two children. We got married when I was 22 years old, and I had not planned on having children until in my later 30s. But here I was thrown into a family (the mother of the children is no longer in the picture), and I was Mommy instantaneously. I am a very happy mother now, as I have grown into my role, and we are happy as a family. But I advise all of my friends to wait until you have lived your lives and traveled, and had great adventures with your spouse to start a family. Because once there are children involved, that all stops. Sure you can have short adventures, but you cannot have the life that you both live now (which is wonderful and exciting), with children. Children in your lives means structure, bedtime, homework, discipline, staying in one place as much as possible, and having a full-time, well-secured source of income that you cannot just up and drop if you want to move quickly. I am happy, but I always wanted to travel with my spouse to different countries and teach English, or just live cheaply and travel from place to place for a few years. I used to call it “walk-around-naked-time” and I wanted a good 5 years of it with my husband before having kids. But circumstances dictated differently, and here I am. Mother of two wonderful children, whom I love and who drive me insane at the same time; who I wish I could give away sometimes, and who I could never live without. Have children DEFINITELY, but definitely WAIT. Live a little more and then get on that train!

  • Anonymous

    i’m 31. when i was a teenager and also in my early 20s, i always said, “i’m never having kids.” since then i’ve been a bit of a fence-sitter. i’ll go through a period where that maternal instinct kicks in and then it leaves me for a while. 2 of my sisters have decided not to have kids and they have no regrets. my other sister has 5 and to my knowledge she has no regrets either. i always say she has been my best form of birth control. but i see how much overtime and double shifts she and her husband have to work just to afford the kids. it’s crazy! i have been married to my loving husband for 3 years. i know he wants kids. however, life has handed us some curve balls. our house burned down. i was diagnosed with bipolar disorder 2 years ago and have not been working since (although i am looking). so we are definitely not ready anytime soon. i always joke and say i’ll be ready when i’m 40. we have 3 dogs together. they are our babies and we love them and they are so spoiled. this is our family. people say kids are such a joy, but so are dogs! there are so many funny things that they do throughout the day that just make us laugh. and the unconditional love they give is just priceless! most humans couldn’t love me that much i’m sure.

    here’s the way i see it: i am in no rush to have children because the rest of the world is breeding them all for me. everywhere i go all i see are people and their kids and babies, babies, babies. the world’s overpopulated enough as it is. why does it need me to have kids if i’m not ready?

    you guys are so young. and if you thought your move to L.A. was hard enough with your dogs, imagine if it would have been kids. if you still want to travel and you have things that you still want to accomplish, if you value your freedom and your time together, if you enjoy shopping, spoiling yourself, spending time and money on yourself, then don’t rush it cuz i think that’s when people have regrets. you hit a certain number in age and you think, “omg. all of my friends my age have kids…i’m getting older…ok, let’s have a kid.” the universe tends to unfold as it should, and you will know when the time is right.

    i never feel guilty about being selfish (in a good way) because it is only self love. i love myself enough to give my mind, body, soul everything it needs and craves because it makes me happy, confident and peaceful. it’s only REALLY selfish when you have kids and your needs trumps theirs.

    • Anonymous

      oh, and i forgot: if you are seriously considering having kids, just go to Walmart on a saturday or sunday. i’m sure you’ll find yourselves holding off on that decision for a while ;)

  • Anonymous

    I think this is a very personal matter and you should look at it from all angles.  Consider all things, take in the good and toss out the bad.  Really think about what makes you happy, how much it’s going to cost, the changes in your body, mind life in general.  I had children early at the age of 20 and have been married to my husband for 5 yrs and have 3 beautiful children.  My daughter has mild autism which is something I never thought would happen to me.  Everyday is different and they said she can live a normal life through continual occupational, physical and speech therapy and she has progressed in a yr so much that it’s amazing and we celebrate every new word, new effort and accomplishments because you cannot take that for granted.  There are days like today where I am exhausted from having worked a 9 hr shift and coming home to 3 little ones that have so much to tell me about their day.  But my hubby didn’t have basketball today so we decided to take advantage of the weather and take the kids to the park.  My daughter climbed on a stool by herself and now counts the stairs and looks down as she does it and she let me sit her on my lap and swing her plus she went down the slide today without crying or making a fuss but said weeeee.  These things are precious and she is an artist.  I know these things may sound menial to some but I saw a baby being born today, because I am a medical interpreter and it was so precious to see a life being born out of ones body.  It’s a miracle that only God provides. 

    With all that said, enjoy yourselves and if you want it then go after it, some people regret things and that’s what they choose but as for me, I’m 25, I’m extremely happy and love my hubby and children more than anyone will ever know.  There is just this sense and this emotion that comes out of you when you are a mom, a prise when you see them do something new or you see a piece of you in them, or you just want to stare at them becuase they are little angels.  Alright I am done speaking and I will do this workout tomorrow.. God Bless and I hope that you both make the best decision for you.

  • http://fooddoodles.com Heidi @ Food Doodles

    I think that’s an awful thing to say, but everyone has their own opinion.  I had my son at 19 and I wouldn’t change a thing.  Yes it changes every aspect of your life completely.  Yes it’s hard work.  Yes you don’t get to do the things you want to do.  But you learn and grow more than you will ever grow without them.  And usually it teaches you not to be selfish, so when you don’t get to go out and do what you want free of kids, it doesn’t matter any more.  I never wanted kids growing up but now that I have them they are the best thing to ever happen to me.  I would not change it for the world even though I’m “wasting the better part of my youth”.

  • Alex

    I could not agree more! 

  • Alex

    I will definitely agree that once you have children is a very different ball game. Your priorities shift, there are many challenges and hard times BUT there are also many rewards and wonderful memories created every day. I am a mum of 2 kids a 7 year old girl and a 2 year old boy. My little girl has been diagnosed with ADHD. Despite the many different challenges we face I would not hesitate in doing it all over again. My girl  and I share a very special bond and we work out together. IT is so much fun. The other day we took your 10 min burpee challenge I did 120 and she did 113 burpees in 10 minutes!! Kids are definitely a blessing and  are worth every bit.

  • Joshy

    I wrote a poem about ravioli. I’ve played war games using fallen branches as guns–the big one that I thought was a machine gun was in fact a rocket launcher or so says my 7 year old. I baked and decorated a cake that looked like a huge pink pony head among many of my birthday cake creations. I have taught 6 children how to tie their shoes, how to read, how to go to the potty and how to pray. I have made an ungodly amount of pinata’s. I have pushed a stroller up a rocky hiking trail and lived to tell about it. I have introduced my children to the wonders of sushi, sunsets, moonscapes, books, mountains, wild horses, roller skating, art, sculpey, baking, sewing, walks, ghost towns, camping under the stars…oh and so much more.
    Does it change your life?!
    I certainly hope so!
    It’s progression. It’s learning. It’s spiritual, psychological, physical, mental, growth.
    Who wouldn’t want that?

  • Carly Halusan

    HEY!

    I’ve been married for over 3 years to a military guy and it’s hard. I “think” I want kids later in life. I still feel too young to raise a kid (24 yrs old) and I don’t have the appropriate amount of money to care for one.  The reason we’re not having kids right now mainly because we have our ups and downs in our marriage. I want to have a solid marriage before having kids because it truly becomes them and not you. Even though marriage is first then kids in keeping a “fulfilled” relationship. 

    Another, yet shallow, reason I’m terrified of having kids is the whole body changes. I still have to lose 15 more pounds until I will be satisfied with my body. Scared of more stretch marks, and other physical body changes post baby. Does anyone else have this fear or is this me being really shallow?

    Terrified to even have kids right now…

  • Wendy Hagan

    Be greedy and have it all. The choice of when we were going to have children was taken away from us when I found out that the pill I was on didn’t suit me and I feel pregnant. So one month to my 20th birthday I gave birth to my first son. Yes, my life changed, but it changed into ways I could never imagine. My husband and my life had a new clarity and direction. We have two boys now, they are 12 years and 6 years old. But as they grow, I have found that I grow as a person too. I now have the confidence that I severly lacked when I was younger. I am fit and active through them, to the point that I now compete on stage in fitness. In my last two comps I have placed 1st and 2nd in my state finals. A very close friend of mine has also stepped up and has won the Boxing ’golden gloves’ in her weight catagory and….. you guessed it – a mother of a boy and girl. Parents, especially mums – train hard with dedication and passion. Don’t live with regrets and make the most of what life throws at you. – Wendy  

  • Adriansbabyboy

    Hi Freddy and Zuzana!

    I had my first child at 21. I am now 27 years old and have 2 boys, 6 and 2. At this stage, my true feelings are-I wish I would’ve stayed with only one. This obviously doesn’t mean I don’t love and cherish my youngest boy-heck I’ll kill anyone who tried to harm my child. 
    I agree with “Madge”…However, I DO find a different joy in being a parent. I could not imagine life without my kids. With that said, I should’ve listened to my mom when she admitted to me the same thing “Madge” admitted to you…the only difference, my mom didn’t take it to the grave. She told me to my face! Her only daughter and youngest out of 3! Honestly, this didn’t offend me because I completely understand what she meant. After I had my first boy, she told me not to have any more kids. I already knew/felt what it is to be a parent and this would be only the start of so much to come! Boy I should’ve listened! 
    I know several “only child’s” who are just rude! I’m not saying ALL “solo kids” are like this, but the one’s I know are selfish and rude! Even if they had a great up-bringing. Anyhow, I didn’t want my boy to be an only child and have him ask me why my husband and I didn’t give him a sibling. THIS was the only reason why we decided to get pregnant again. 
    Two years later, here we are. We’re a happy family. Far from perfect, but happy. If you ask me my honest opinion, I would only have one! I see now that my husband and I DO have the control to raise our kid unselfishly. We would’ve had so much more time, and energy, to invest in each other and enjoy life. I don’t mean to sound miserable, and of course we’re not…however, life is much slower….and I will NEVER have a stomach like Zuzana…lol.
    Go with what you two truly want! If you do end up wanting to become parents, I will strongly advise to only have one! I’M SERIOUS! LOL…
    Good luck and thanks for ALL YOU DO!!!! 

  • Knowingjoy

    I am a single parent…and may not have chosen the right dad for my kid but…I got my son out of it..
    I don’t have regrets given our life lessons don’t happen by planning it. I say this but I honestly never thought of myself as a parent nor did I ever want any but when I delivered my son, I told my then husband he hurt my kid I will kill him.

    Can I suggest though, just as I tell my son, live life first because it takes everyone awhile to figure shit out. I would wait till your mid 30′s because usually by then most of us think to settle down and we tend to be a wee bit more responsible. SO the idea of not living fully won’t be a thought of regret.

    I know many parents who started sooooooooooooooooooooo early that they still act like they are single without kids…this is where I am coming from with this.

    I am 36 now and my son is 11 once he turns 18 and if the show is still running we would so rock as a team on Amazing Race damn it… given Fear Factor got cancelled….lol

    But I will say if you choose to be a parent…oh many the emotions you go through as a parent. At times I think to myself I can’t handle being a parent because I worry will I “F” it up…? When some girl breaks his heart? Shit when I give him consequences I mean…those eyes will break you…when he or she tells you fro the first time he hates you…OMG you respond it won’t be the last time you say that Isaac…but I still love you….lol

    All I can say is…COUNSELING…lol   Good luck though and atleast if you guys do have one or two..omg I wish I was pregnant with Zuzanna’s body and not mine…lol

  • http://www.facebook.com/Shadowwarrior58 Sarah Spencer

    I am not in any hurry to have kids. I just don’t feel like I’m the type of person for it. You know some women are just born to love kids and want some. But not me. I’m selfish, I know. But I honestly don’t want to have to go through the pain of childbirth. Or the constant body changes and stuff. My husband wants kids.  That he WILL not compromise on. And I feel obligated to have kids because he wants kids and if I don’t agree then he wants to divorce….anyway….
    We’re having fertility problems right now. And if I can’t have any kids, I don’t think I’d mind adopting. That’s just my view.

  • http://www.facebook.com/Shadowwarrior58 Sarah Spencer

    I am not in any hurry to have kids. I just don’t feel like I’m the type of person for it. You know some women are just born to love kids and want some. But not me. I’m selfish, I know. But I honestly don’t want to have to go through the pain of childbirth. Or the constant body changes and stuff. My husband wants kids.  That he WILL not compromise on. And I feel obligated to have kids because he wants kids and if I don’t agree then he wants to divorce….anyway….
    We’re having fertility problems right now. And if I can’t have any kids, I don’t think I’d mind adopting. That’s just my view.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1746562272 Cynthia Hannah

    I will be doing this workout tomorrow as tempted as I am to do it in addition to what I already did. I am going to respect my recovery so I can ensure to be at least 100% for it . Nice job on your splits Zuzana ! I work on my splits daily and it is great to see someone else going for it as well ;-)

     As for the topic of children. I have 3  children and each one is a part of me in such an engrained ,beautiful ,unique way. The love I have for each of them is their own and no one , nothing can ever change that . I love being a Mom , even when they drive me nuts, even though I miss sleeping , and not worrying, want more time with my Husband or even just to myself. Children can show you a side of yourself you never even knew you had,lol, like the time I found myself on a sleepless night with my newborn daughter in arms arguing with my 3yr old son both of us pointing fingers at each other. I will never forget the moment I paused looked at my finger in the air and his mimicking me and thinking what the helk am I doing arguing with a 3 yr old! and saying , ” I’m sorry Rome, Mommy needs a time out, I will be right back,lol. You see your life not only changes, but everything you do from that point on has an impact on your child’s life. There is not necessarily a perfect time to have kids because there is always unlimited possibilities to explore for yourselves , but life doesn’t end with children , it just grows. It is amazing o how much energy 1 small baby can add into your household and that is a beautiful thing. I think what is important to remember is that all the crying, whining ,mischief is not personal , so don’t take it personal and it will be less stressful. Someone told me before the birth of my first child ,that when your baby cries gently say to them while you cuddle them in your arms , “tell me your story” and that saying that would alleviate the stress of it and you know what it’s true. Having children is a very personal decision and wether you do or don’t or wait or don’t wait is a good decision to be respected . 

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Ellie-Waldron/13949775 Ellie Waldron

    If she’s in her early 40s and her boys are in their teens, then she was pretty young when she had them.  I am 28, no kids yet, but I do want kids.  I am glad that I’ve had my 20s to explore and do things I couldn’t with kids, but I am looking forward to having children some day!  Life with certainly change – but I like change.  I don’t know anyone that had kids that regrets having them, though I do know some who regret not having any…  
    You guys would have beautiful children! :)

  • Jyesenia23

    Hey, Freddy & Zuanan
    I just truned 29 a mouth ago and a single mother of a 10 year old boy and a 8 year old gril. I never wanted to have kids after I had a miscarriage at 15. Up to this day it has been the worst thing that has happen to mi. I took a wroung turn in my life after that. I was just doing all bad, I didn’t care about anything or myslfe. Everyone would tell mi to slow down in life, watch what ur doing ect…. I would just luagh and say ” IF GOD WANTS MI TO CHANGE, THAN HE WOULD GIVE MI KIDS” Now that  I have my kids, my life is so different. Everything I do I do for my kids. If I don’t have them around I feel lonley. Don’t get mi wroung, I do think ” What if I didn’t have kids?” “What if I would have waited til I got older to have them?”  “If  I could go back in time would I change anything n my life? I tell myself “NO!!!!” I’ll still be young when they go off to collage and start their lifes. Then I can focus on my dreams. I think that you & Zuanan should not stress out about what other people think about having kids or if they could go back in life they wouldn’t have kids. You and Zuanan should follow y’alls hearts. All I can really say is, Life is so short and part of life is to enjoy are family.

  • a215

    im not into having kids. im 29. i dont have the desire. i never forsaw myself in thaty way. my boyfriend and i share the same feeling on this, which is grerat. most of all my friends have kids. i dont envy them. 

  • Anonymous

    kids are great, but they change the world.  my advice is this – if you *think* you want to have kids, do it. you won’t regret it!  if you think you don’t want to have kids, don’t do it.  if children have always been a part of the plan, you realize that it will change.  understand that it is a totally different legacy that parents leave with children.  your legacy to the world is bodyrocking.  your legacy to your children could be far greater. 

    • Stephitza

      Great advice.

  • http://www.facebook.com/ALEXAMBAR aydee caicedo

    ummmmmmmmm start a family is a serious decision and a heavy job because is for whole your life, maybe can be nice and all the things you want but think about,  the world every day going crazy and poor so, how will be the future of ours new generation? and  the other Madge is right the kids take all your time, all the money you earn is for them for pay bills you will get more tired than do intense workouts.I am 27 and i have a niece isn’t easy because now the kids born more crazy, interactives, rebels and they aren’t like we were. So be free and enjoy  your life, when you get tired to have alot funn and do heavy workouts so it’s time to have kids.:))

  • RJ

    Hi,

    Advice from a married 37 year old with 2 awesome kids.  Do all the things on your bucket list that you can only do without kids first…then have kids.  Don’t let having kids get in the way of doing things for yourselves.  Life is all about balance and with kids you just have to be creative in finding that balance.  As a former “bachelor for life” award winner having kids is one of the most positive things I’ve ever done in my life.

    I’m not sure how Marge lost her freedom by having kids.  Sure you may have to stick around the house a bit more… but again, be as creative with your life with kids as these awesome workouts are.  Whats even more curious is that she decided to have another child after the first.  If so much freedom is lost why have another?

    • http://www.facebook.com/WhoaDessa Odessa Kolpack Tinius

      I posted a comment earlier saying almost the same thing but it didn’t post for some reason.  Anyway, I agree – pursue whatever pleases you so you live your life to the fullest.  It’s possible to continue this as you have a family too.  Kids should also never be an excuse for missing out on things that you never bothered pursuing! i have 3 kids that are 10 and under and I’m STILL plowing through that list while being happy and madly in love with my husband.  It’s possible : )

  • Dalyn

    I don’t believe I’ve ever ever heard anyone say that! At least not anyone who is a mentally healthy individual. Interesting. I am a mother of 4 children and at one time had 2 foster children bringing the total up to 6. I would never change a thing! For me personally my family is what gets me up in the mornings. There is nothing more tender and bonding then having a child together. That moment in the hospital when you guys hold that baby in your arms that you created together is one that will forever be imprinted on your hearts. It is so incredible. There is honestly nothing that compares. The love I have for my children is one that is beyond description. I would literally die for them. And on the lighter side of things my kids are now to the age (15, 13, 10, and 6) that we have SO much fun together! We love to go biking, rock climbing, hiking, fishing, camping, snow skiing, sledding, and so much more. Sure, kids slow you down. But, it’s a good thing in my opinion. I have learned so much being a mother, it’s irreplaceable.  For sure it does change your life completely. For me and my hubby though, it was a welcome change. Very interesting topic Z and F. Thanks for helping me to look at my life and be grateful for what I have been blessed with. Peace and love to you guys.

    P.S. Me and my 15 year old daughter workout together and it is so much fun! We love your workouts!

  • Jennifer

    I think that advice is a refreshing change of pace, actually. I am from a small town where the thing to do is get married and have lots of babies right out of high school, and now at 24 I am neither married nor a parent and I do not plan on ever having children. I don’t want the responsiblity of having another human being completely reliant on me; I am very much the lone wolf type and value my independence, and I have to say I am fed up with people constantly bringing up the whole children issue with me.’You’ll change your mind’ gets old, real quick, I gotta’ say. Many people lead completely fulfilling lives without ever having children. Do what you feel is right; don’t have children because of the pressures of society and family members. If it feels like it’s the right time to start a family, then start a family, but if that time never comes, then that time never comes and there’s nothing wrong with that. I think too many people have children because they feel like they’re supposed to, and that’s unhealthy for the kids and the parents.  

  • Anonymous

    I’ve heard this before by more than one woman these are women who usually started having kids in their early 20′s and had to give up their dreams.  All advice is not good advice, I feel if its in your heart to have kids then have them.

  • http://profiles.google.com/britkneec Brittany Schneider

    No kids!

  • Cilia Frascone1

    How dare “Madge” advise you not to have kids….Just because it didn’t work out for her…who knows maybe she didn’t get to do all she wanted before having kids..but regardless…I think it’s extremely insensitive of her to go that far…Yes some are not meant to have kids….and if you know that then I commend them for not going with what society says is the norm…but what’s right for you isn’t right for everyone else and you shouldn’t advise people on what you’re beliefs are on such an important decision that someone will ever make.
    I myself had 3 children while I was young and I certainly didn’t get to do anything with my life before having them that I would have loved to do…yet I would never change a thing…I”m a young 43  year old mom and I have plenty of years ahead of my to travel and see the world…yes having kids changes your life so completely that you can’t even begin to grasp the full extent of the commitment required as she says, but there is a reward for that commitment…It’s the “Kisses, the hugs..the hand holding, the I Love You’s”…and so much more…
    Zu and Freddy, you know what people say about opinions…..its like an ass……everyone’s got one…..You do what you feel in your hearts is right for you, when the time is right for you, and don’t let anyone steer you otherwise…

    As for your workouts…I love them and can’t wait to do this one tom!!

  • Joanna

    Hi Guys,
    I don’t know anything about being mother, yet.
    I’m 7 months pregnant with my first baby girl ;)
    I always thought “why do we need children. It’s great as it is: just my husband and I and our cat. Why change anything? Why change everything?”
    I’m 30 this september, my husband is 7 years older. He was talking about having a baby for a long time I wasn’t sure if I want this commitment, long-time commitment.
    Until Jan 13th, 7am in the morning. We found out we are going to have a baby….first it was high five and than we were thinking how it’s going to be, are we ready to be a Parents, can we afford it?
    I was afraid, we both were.
    My parents went nuts. They wanted to be grandparents so badly!
    And than when my belly started to grow and I felt the first kick of my baby everything changed.
    I love to feel her kicking, it’s funny when your belly is shaking ;)

    We both can’t wait for our baby.
    It’ll be a challenge but this is life.

    i am due on my 30th b-day! Our baby girl name is Zuzanna. We wanted her to have polish name and Zuzia was always in our mind.

    Decision is yours. Don’t make it based on some well educated, nice and good friend of yours who regret having kids.
    You are great people and I bet you would be great parents.
    all the best,
    Joanna, Michał and Zuzia ;)

  • Suzartzy

    First, I can’t believe she said that! She must be going through some 40yr old crisis. When people reach 40 (I am), some of them can go through a period of regrets. I have and am sure many others dfeel the same. A person will look back on things they wanted to do but didn’t and blame it on present situations (ie-marriage/partner, children). It sounds like Madge is doing that…

    Second, you shouldn’t take other people’s opinions to heart. They are just opinions.

    I think your one commenter said it best when she said you two will know what’s best for you.

    I love my kids but if you knew me in my 20s you would have never thought I would be a parent. I’ve never liked kids…until mine (3) came along. Truth be told, I still don’t like other people’s kids. It takes a lot for me to attend or hold kid parties :-)

    (I didn’t do the excercise because I’m a 40yr old, overweight mom that is still trying to work up the courage. I would like to get my “before children” body back and at this age, I need to get BodyRockin’!)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000646573656 Ani Ssa

    LMAO!

  • http://twitter.com/IronFistGirl Tara Fox

    I dont think i could ever say that about my son. He is 3 and has given me the greatest joy on this earth. So much so Im pregnant again hopefully with a daughter on the way.  I think you can do everything, work, enjoy your life and have kids. i would never see my children as a set back and i think being a woman especially you cant go through life without experiencing it.  Its truly amazing and surreal. Im sure when they are teenagers i may have different views but then again when they are older and wiser its a whole other relationship and one i cant wait to have. I see where your friend is coming from but i think thats just negative theres more to life then just enjoying and doing what you want when you want.  Being a parent opens up a whole other world and some people dont get this option which makes me eternally greatful.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000646573656 Ani Ssa

    just because you don’t have children, doesn’t mean you don’t have a family.  I’m pretty sure Zuzana and Freddy consider themselves family and they don’t have children.  I’m only remarking because you wrote “I’m for “team family”"..   well, i’m for Team ME…. and my body… and my time…. and my life.  yes, that sounds selfish…. but honestly, who am i being selfish towards?  no one…. i don’t need a child to have a “family”.  :o)  but i’m happy you love yours.  :o)  (repost because i posted this as a reply to savannah…. i meant to reply to you… my bad)

  • Angel S.

    Freddy and Zuzana:  Let me share with you a similar story, but on a more personal level.  I am almost 37 years old, have been with my boyfriend for 20 years and don’t have any human children (we have 2 dogs and a cat that count as the ‘kids’ at the moment).  A couple years back, my mom and I were talking about the idea of her being a grandma and I was feeling kinda bad that I had not given her the opportunity to be a ‘real’ grandma.  You see, I had always thought I would have children but as of yet, we just haven’t gotten there yet.  Our educational pursuits, career and just life in general has just moved us in a direction away from kids; which oddly enough has been perfectly ok with my boyfriend and me.  But I love my parents and I want them to have everything they want, including grandchildren.  After sharing this with my mom and my overall guilt of not providing this opportunity for my parents, my mom shocked me with some pretty heavy news.  She told me that even though I am her heart and soul (I am an only child and mom had a tough time getting just me), if she were to do it again she would probably not have children.  You can imagine the effect on me.  But she further explained that it had nothing to do with her love for me (of her love, I have no doubt!), it had to do with so many other things.  There were medical, financial, family, career, educational, and lastly freedom concerns that neither she nor my father considered at the time.  And then there was the ‘family obligation’ to continue the line, which strangely put significant pressure on both of them.  She continued to share similar feelings as your friend and now that I am of a particular age, I get it!  Having children is a very personal choice and should not be further pressured by the opinions of others.  My mom did finish this conversation with something that not many perspective grandparents are known for saying, “And for goodness sake’s, do NOT have children for me and your father!” My parents have never pressured for grandchildren and have come to believe, and apparently instill in me, that children should come when the time is right for all concerned.  I want to say, I have the best parents in the world and feel blessed that my relationship with my mom is such that she felt she could share such a revelation with me and know we could talk openly about it. With that said, only you and Zuzana will know what the best choice is for you.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Lenett-Kendall/100001864842079 Lenett Kendall

      I am 21 years old. I am young, married, going to college and so living/pursuing my life the way i want it. I haven’t considered having children anytime soon. Because i know the responsibility and maturity it holds… beyond everything else. I love the fact that i can focus completely on my needs (and that of my husband) and live comfortably yet still following my visions and accomplishing my goals in life. I don’t need children right now, that is not a necessary commitment in my life and i am happy to say that. Maybe one day when i am older and have fulfilled my deepest passions in my life i can move on to bringing a newborn life into this world. And i think that this is one of the smartest decisions i made in my life…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=651056637 Tarra RB

       Wow Angel S. Same boat….totally agree with you :)

  • Gerrilee Schafer

    I’m 42 and don’t regret not having children.  Been married for 23 years..still very much in love.  My brother and sister both had 2 kids, the oldest is now 21 the youngest 14…..I could borrow them any time….I have to admit, as I got older I was really happy I didn’t have kids….I ride a motorcycle, run my own business, and really enjoy my free time..by all means, if you want children then have them, but be realistic about what you have to give up to enjoy that privilege…peace 

  • Gerrilee Schafer

    I’m 42 and don’t regret not having children.  Been married for 23 years..still very much in love.  My brother and sister both had 2 kids, the oldest is now 21 the youngest 14…..I could borrow them any time….I have to admit, as I got older I was really happy I didn’t have kids….I ride a motorcycle, run my own business, and really enjoy my free time..by all means, if you want children then have them, but be realistic about what you have to give up to enjoy that privilege…peace 

  • http://BodyRock.Tv Candace

    Wow….well, coming from someone who doesn’t have children yet I would have to say I’ve been back and forth about the idea of having children as well. My husband and I have been married for 5 years (in Aug) and have always joked about not having kids (cuz they smell lol). I never really had the ‘itch’ to have a baby but recently my ovaries have started talking to me…just a little bit, though. A good friend of mine just had a baby and I was SO excited to meet him and hold him and it was amazing when I did and I am NOT one to hold babies voluntarily.

    So here was the deciding factor for us. 
    My dear Grandpa passed away 2.5 yrs ago leaving my very healthy and energetic grandma behind after 55 years of marriage. But at the funeral, even though she had just lost one of hers biggest reason for living, she was still smiling. Because she was surrounded by her 3 beautiful DAUGHTERS and SONS IN LAWS and beautiful GRANDCHILDREN. She still had a piece of grandpa in US. I don’t know about you guys or ‘Madge’ but if I lost my husband without having children with him, I feel like it would be too easy for him to disappear. I would only have the pictures/videos/memories to prove he existed. I want his flesh and blood to live on through my children. Children become your legacy.

    To say that children change your lives is absolutely true! Some changes good, some changes not so ideal. But, for the most part, YOU have control over how they change your life. We are avid hikers, campers, skiers, cross country skiers, outdoors(wo)men, aspiring travelers, and I am a Triathlete. Hell will freeze over before I decide to give those up just because another human being just came into my life no matter how much committment they require. They will also be avid hikers, campers, skiers, outdoorspeople, travelers and maybe I can rub off on them to become Triathletes as well ;)

    Make your family what YOU want it to be. You guys are so motivated that I know once you have kids, what’s important to you will become important to them because you exposed them to it and included them in your life’s excursions from day one.
    :) Happy Thinking. I love you guys and being kind of a part of your lives.

    • http://BodyRock.Tv Candace

      PS- someone told me you’re ready for kids when your priorities change. I have noticed mine are changing and until they change to a point where they include little people to care of and share my love with, we wont be trying for kids.

  • ZoeRocker

    I am 26 years old, and the thought of having kids literally makes me ill. I have somewhat always felt this way and I don’t think it will change. It’s funny because I have been working as a childcare provider for well over 10 years now and it lets me know know that my decision is right for me. Don’t get me wrong, I love kids! They are so much fun, interesting and smart! I have 3 nefews and some younger cousins and they are all wonderful little souls, but, that is enough for me. I really feel like I will be fine not having my own. I have been told this also by parents of the children I look after and by older friends of mine who’s children are wonderful! They say that you lose who you are, and your life is not your own afterwards. I am happy hanging out with kids on a regular basis but I am always happy to say good-bye and go home to my quiet house with my boyfriend. The goals we have for ourselves are pretty self involved and I just don’t think a child would fit in. Like I say, to each their own. Children are really great for some, and I even think I would be a greatl mother, I just don’t want to be, and its as simple as that.

    • http://www.twitter.com/NightShayde Hazel

      I’m with you on this one. I love my niece to death and would do anything for her…but the thought of having children of my own scares the living daylights out of me. My biggest fear is always “what if my little girl turns out to be just like one of those reality tv girls?” Terrifying. 

      • ZoeRocker

        Ya that would be really mortifying.

  • Christeec

    Hey guys! I wanted to share my input on your dilemma about potentially having kids one day. I cannot speak from experience, since I am 22 (and not planning on having children for at least 8 years!). BUT I just wanted to let you know that I have known for a while now that I would one day want 3 children, and my significant other is on the same page with me. I have a friend, however, who has said repeatedly that she never EVER wants children, and I know that she means it. Everyone is different, every lifestyle is different, and some lifestyles (moving a whole lot, for instance) can be complicated by having a larger family. But only YOU know what is best for you, and when. Having a baby does change everything, and EVERYONE gets scared, so you are definitely not alone. I think that deep down you may know the answer, you just may be afraid of it. No shame in that at all!

    On a different note, I can’t wait to do this workout. No matter what happens, your Bodyrockers will have your BACK <3

  • Chrissy Jordan

    You cannot be self involved and have children. Period. If you cannot give yourself over completely to another person for their benefit and well-being, you are not ready to have children. It is a 24-7 job. But it is the most rewarding and amazing feeling in the world holding someone that you created, and seeing them smile up at you, seeing them learn and grow, it’s beyond words.

    Just like others have said, it’s a decision that must be made between you two. So you should really take anything that anyone ever tells you with a grain of salt, and do what you think is best when the time comes. :)

    • Anonymous

      Couldn’t have said this better myself! You MUST have the maturity as a COUPLE to raise a child. Mother and father both. It’s ok to be selfish when you’re young — it’s how we grow. But don’t have kids while you’re in that period of growth and selfishness, but it’s an opinion like any other, and people have the right to do what they feel is best.

    • Chrissy Jordan

      I just wanted to add that I am a VERY young 24 year old Mom to a two year old and a 4 month old, both boys. My husband (he’s 28) both wanted to have our children while we were young. We don’t see that we are missing out on anything. When I finish my degree my oldest will be in pre-school and my youngest will be old enough that I will feel comfortable sending him to daycare. So in the mean time I get to spend my days with them. 

      Having my son has shown me the person that I want to be. I don’t regret one bit the decision that we made to start our family now. :)

      • NU-nu Nour

        I’m a young mother too 25 years old,, i have 2 beautiful boys a 4 year old an a 1 year old,, 1′m so thankful and grateful for having them. it’s true a huge commitment but much more joy and proud.

        i married at a really young age,, sometimes i wish if i had them earlier!! that’s how glad i am,, and definitely planning on making a bigger family.

      • Donna

        I had my first child at 24 and my 2nd at 26. Random people use to comment about me being nuts to have them so close together. My kids have 21 months difference and they were both beautiful gifts from God:) I have never regretted my children and know I never will:) They were made with the love my husband and I have for each other:) My life became complete when I had children:)

        • MariaBjørgJepsen

          Beautiful, my dear <3 You must be an amazing and loving mother!!!

          • Donna

            Thanks babe:) I always wanted children from a very early age!!!

  • Anonymous

    By the way, I’ve been out of the Bodyrock world for a while.  My daughter (6-years-old) and I just got back from Italy – just the 2 of us.  We live in the US.   It was such an amazing trip.  We had a wonderful adventure that neither of us will forget (speaking of how happy I am to have her).  And although I did some running and LOTS of walking, I only managed to get in a couple of bodyrock workouts. I’ve missed them!  I’m back on track this week but so sore.  I love it.  It’s good to be back.  Looking forward to this workout in the morning.  It hits everything!  Arms, abs, legs, what more could you ask for? Thanks for a great one!

    (My only advice in having kids is to wait until you are ready.  Because of course there IS no turning back.  Some people are never ready and are not meant to have kids, which is fine.  To each his own.  But for anyone planning on having kids just don’t start too early.)

  • Anonymous

    I come from the complete other side of the fence. I always wanted to be a mom to four kids. But life doesn’t always turn out the way you plan. After many surgeries and five cycles of in vitro fertilization, my husband and I are tired of putting so much effort, emotion, struggle, and money into something that just isn’t working. We are accepting the new concept of our lives living child free.  (You can hear some songs I wrote about this at http://www.youtube.com/sulfababy )

    Still, I think it’s okay for your friend to feel that way. Hind sight is always 20/20. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t love her children. We all think, “what if”s.  There are many people who wait to have children and regret not having them sooner as well. We all just have to make the best decisions we can at each moment and manage the hand we’re dealt. Much love.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Michelle-Torrance/1600182174 Michelle Torrance

    Well.. It’s always a challenge when someone who you think “has it all” tells you that if they were to go back and not have them, wouldn’t.. I have 2 children. I love my children so much I can’t even count times Infinity.. which is something I tell my daughter every day.. but I also miss having freedom to move and go at the drop of hat. I think the best thought to have is what do you want? How do you want your family dynamic to be? Where do you see yourself in 5, 10 years.. where do you WANT to see yourself in 5, 10 years. I think children open up a whole other freedom that a lot of people sometimes can’t see. I know I can’t at times… but then when you have the little boy who comes up to you when he hurt his knee and say, thanks mom… I love you.. and give you a hug, all that “freedom” is opened in your heart more than any physical freedom will. It think you both would be wonderful parents and raise an open minded, open hearted child. One who sees themselves in the way that you show all of us how we see ourselves… And again… everyone will have their own life lessons and regrets and opinions.. it’s up to you on whether or not you feel their ideas are good for your family and mix with your ideas… good luck with this… it’s a toughy… almost as tough as a Zuzana workout!! :)

  • breezy

    You r in amazing shape n ur stomach is crazy.

  • Vecastone

    Oh Well !! What a topic… I’m a thirty six year old woman, i have a career, i’ve been with my boyfriend for twelve years and i’ve traveled a lot in my life. I can say I’ve enjoyed life… :)  Of course I want to have children in my life. And of course I know my life won’t be the same. I’ll have less time for me that’s for sure.  But all that will be compensated by the joy of having a family. And i’ve never been a fan of having two many children either or fan of children itself. 
    Do I care about my body and all that?? OF COURSE !! Being pregnant and having children it’s scary. But I see my family (my parents and a brother) and I want something similar for me.

  • Candice

    love this workout! killllller!!
    About your conversation with “madge”.. i am a mother of two adorable children. They are twins and almost 1. i love them more then anything! from the moment i looked into their eyes my world changed, not in a bad way but it was life changing and i will never look back. Being a parent is one of my greatest accomplishments. We are a happy family and these two little miracles of ours keep us busy and have strengthened our relationship on such a greater level. 
    For your friend to tell you to never have kids breaks my heart. They are an adventure and through life they will be your greatest joys. Think about it. if you don’t have kids your going to grow old and one of you will pass away and you will be all by yourself. no support. no family. no joy. Thats totally lame. 
    i am in one of the greatest chapters in my life right now because of them. What does your book look like?
    We recently had a family pictures and a video done. check it out on my health & foodie website! http://www.bodyofamother.com/2011/06/real-life.html

    • Rusty81_99

      I completely agree with you, Candice! I’ve been thinking about saying the same thing – if you don’t have kids, what’s life going to be like when you grow old? Who will visit you? Who will take care of you? So many things to think about for the future. My husband and I have 3 beautiful girls (so far – we plan on having at least one more baby in the next couple years) and yes some days are hard, but there is joy that comes with having children that you just wouldn’t get any other way. And all of the things we’ll be experiencing with them and because of them, how else would we get that?! I just can’t tell you how amazing it is to hear my baby to say “Mama” and know they mean me, or to see them open their little arms and want me to fill them, or to giggle with my toddler, or to help my little girl learn to ride a two-wheeler and feel so proud, or to see my first baby go on her first school-bus ride so brave… And our lives are practically just beginning! The future holds so many more joys to come (hard things, too, but I believe that God doesn’t give us anything we can’t handle) and I look forward to all of them. We started having children in our earlier 20′s and I’m really glad we did because I want to have energy when they’re older, and I want to still have enough “youth” energy in me to be able to play with my grandchildren. Family is what life is all about. I know you can have “family” without children, but its not the same. Not at all. We are made to have children. You (Freddie and Zuzanna) are a beautiful couple and would be fantastic parents. There’s a saying: how you do something is how you do everything. You guys would rock at having kids. Think about the future. Home life with family in years to come – it would be so empty without kids.

  • savannah johnson

     There are moments, and full days where I wonder if i made the correct choice having children. But the IMMENSE joy that is brought by them out shadows that regret my a million times. I say they make me extremely bi-polar. Some days I can feel every singe emotion with such intensity. But I would never change a thing.  Do what feels right for you guys:)

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000646573656 Ani Ssa

      just because you don’t have children, doesn’t mean you don’t have a family.  I’m pretty sure Zuzana and Freddy consider themselves family and they don’t have children.  I’m only remarking because you wrote “I’m for “team family”"..   well, i’m for Team ME…. and my body… and my time…. and my life.  yes, that sounds selfish…. but honestly, who am i being selfish towards?  no one…. i don’t need a child to have a “family”.  :o)  but i’m happy you love yours.  :o)  

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000646573656 Ani Ssa

        I totally did NOT mean this to reply to you, savannah…. MY BAD!  i meant to reply to  Kelsey Nuila Gray  my bad!!!!

      • Rrjj_64x

        i,m nearly 47 and had tripplets, but i,m in good shape even after having kids. having a family doesnt ruin your body! neglect does this, i work out most days and have the figure of a thirty year old with very little cellulite, my children and myself have been through some rough patches throughout the teenage years but were coming through it, there are times when i have wondered why i ever bothered having kids when we have been going through some of the difficult times, but trust me the times that are good together far outweight the bad and would never swap for a life without them despite the problems! you can never replace the love for children with a pet or anything nothing can ever compair to your own flesh and blood!   

  • Simi333

     I think that “Madge’s” opinion is just that, her own opinion. Perhaps
    her lifestyle or her own experiences have shaped that opinion, or the
    way she was brought up. But that opinion is subjective. Humans can hear
    one word and it can change their entire perspective on something. I’m
    not saying ignore her “advice”. But weigh the pros and cons. Think
    practically (as in how children will affect your financial, social, etc.
    situations), but also the other part of it. As in, do you want your
    genes and legacy to continue for generations to come? Do you want to
    experience all that life brings you and take advantage of what you are
    capable of doing/being? No one can tell you to HAVE children or NOT have
    children. It’s something you have to think about thoroughly together
    considering all options and outcomes. Good luck! P.S. Love the workout!
    P.P.S I’m actually only 16 years old. So I don’t know how credible you think I am. But personally, although children are challenging, I think I would definitely want to have children when I’m older. It’s an experience that I want before I die! Not to mention the fact that I love children!

    • Donna

      Your going to make a wonderful mother one day:)

  • tonya

    I have worked with children in a daycare center and I love my job and it is extremly rewarding but I have seen so many parents that had children young and didn’t realize what it would mean for their lives, or what it takes to be a good parent. I think that having children is something that is best left until after you have done what you wanted. Such as that trip around the world or all the partying you could want. But thats just a personal opinion. My husband and i are waiting to have kids if ever because we both can realize we are too selfish to be good parents. At the end of my day all i want is to come home do my workout and veg out. If we had kids I couldn’t do that and I’m not sure that I could be entirely happy with that.

  • Anonymous

    That comment is a little jarring. I still want to be a mother at some point though. I truly believe I was meant to be a mom. I’ve always spent time with and cared for children from the very beginning. I didn’t play with barbie as a child, I played with baby dolls. I started babysitting at 9 years old, and children seem to just naturally be drawn to me. I want to live my life first too though. I’ve only been married for 3 years and I’m only 24 so I’m not planning on starting a family yet but I know I will eventually, and it wouldn’t be the end of the world for me to have a surprise either. But I think that decision is something that can only be made between the individual couple, and when both of them are ready and sure they want to make that change in their lives. At this point I am ready but my husband who is 27 is not, so that’s one of the reasons we are waiting.

    • Anonymous

      oh and I didn’t do this workout today because I’m fairly new and starting the workouts from the beginning so I did 550 killer rep workout today instead.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000646573656 Ani Ssa

    I am in my mid 30′s and having a child was NEVER a plan for me.  I’m a school teacher and get my enjoyment of children from 7:30am to 3:45pm.  and then I go home… away from kiddos.  which is FINE.  i don’t see how society thinks that women MUST procreate…. that’s just not for me.  I love kids.  I just don’t want any of my own.

    • http://profiles.google.com/britkneec Brittany Schneider

      I agree with you 110%. I am a nanny. I love the kids I hang out with and we have a great time. But I love that I get to return them to their rightful owners at the end of the day too. I don’t plan on having any biological children in the future. If anything, I’ll adopt. I’d hate to mess up this body I’ve bodyrocked so hard to get :)

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000646573656 Ani Ssa

        EXACTLY, Brittany…. it’s hard enough to maintain the body i have now!!!  imagine after having a baby inside me?  oh HELLZ no. lol

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000646573656 Ani Ssa

        EXACTLY, Brittany…. it’s hard enough to maintain the body i have now!!!  imagine after having a baby inside me?  oh HELLZ no. lol

        • Bodyrocker Mama

          I have 2 beautiful daughters and in the best shape ever with a healthy lifestyle and bodyrock of course. Don’t think being pregnant will throw that all away.

          • veronica

            I agree – I have a 3 year old and 2 year old twins and I’m in the best shape of my life!  Faster, leaner, stronger!  Being pregnant does not mean you get fat or out of shape.

      • Rusty81_99

        Having a baby doesn’t have to mean that your body will be worse after. After I had my second baby I worked out and ate right and looked WAAY better, sexier, and more toned than I had ever been in my life! You’d never known I had had a baby, let a lone two! Furthermore, if you take care of your body before having a child, it bounces back really fast afterwards. Adopting is great, but to create an actual being from you is amazing. And no one’s kids are like your own. They never will be. Your kids will always be better. Its true. My kids are awesome, and I can’t stand a lot of other kids! Having children is nothing to regret. Its a joy you’ll never get any other way until you have them! :)

        • Anonymous

          Having children is nothing to regret if you want to have them as part of your life. If you don’t want them or don’t feel ready deep down inside after seriously acknowledging all the changes they will bring to your life (good and bad) then it will no doubt mean regret.

          I am turning 30 this week and my partner and I have decided children are not for us. I also love kids, and I’m a big kid at heart myself, but my choice is to live my life the way that feels right for me. I think there are sacrifices with either decision, as long as you’ve been honest with yourself about what you truly want out of life, whether that is to nuture and love and support a family or not. It’s about you, your happiness and growth. And isn’t that a wonderful thing about the society we live in, we all have a choiceLove and respect to you all, whatever your chosen path  

      • Jessy

        @Brittany Schneider: Wow, what a great reason for adoption … I’m sorry, but if you’re not willing to give up your fit body for a while in order to have a child, then you better not have any, because being a parent means giving up things and making sacrifices for the lifetime!

  • Anonymous

    Having children does change everything.  Your life will never be the same.  But I have never had a single regret.  If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn’t even hesitate.  I’m a single mom doing it all on my own after a horrific marriage and ugly divorce.  And even if I could go back and change it – make it so I never got married – I wouldn’t… because then I would never have my daughter.  She is the best thing that has ever happened to me.  Sure, it is challenging.  But the most challenging things in life are the most rewarding as well, right?

    • Natalieb Stewart

      I don’t know if the most challenging things in life are the most rewarding…what if the child turns out to be a punk later in life, or disrespects you on a daily basis? So many factors to consider…

      • http://twitter.com/IronFistGirl Tara Fox

        no bodies perfect and children are just learning what you do.

    • BODYROCK JUNCKIE

      WOW, I agree with Angelafl, yes again it totally changes your life and it is a major, major commitment.  But this commitment makes your life so much better, fuller, happier.  It´s the most wonderful thing that I have ever experience.  I am a mother of five and have my plate super full, but you just have to enjoy it and not let it stress you out.  And it´s just that not everyone it cut out to be a parent.  My sister has four children, and she wishes they were all grown and out of the house. Me, on the other hand, I think that when my children leave I will be sad, but happy to see them full grown and see what they will make of their lives, hoping and praying that I have guided them in the right direction. 
      I think just from the little bit that I know about you too, Freddy and Zuzana, I think it´s something that the 2 of you would enjoy to the fullest and learn how to manage family and Bodyrocking!!!
      Family, my children, is the biggest joy of my life.  Nothing else matter more!!
      Best Regard,
      Bodyrock junckie

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=801633607 Pauline 趙雯寶

      couldn’t agree more with you. well said!!

    • Sabrina

      You know people tell me this all the time with regards to dogs! I shouldnt get one cause it will destroy my freedom, its too much responsibility blah blah blah. You cant loose freedom its something your born with. You can only give it away. And duh children (or dogs) change your life, not really a news flash is it!
      In life sometimes you get what u want and sometimes you dont, the point is to make the best of what you have!
      Hugs,
      Sabs.

    • Alina

      Hi, Angelafl! I really enjoy your comment, and absolutely agree with you.
      If to speak about “Madge”, I’m sorry if it may sound rude, but what this woman said is awful. I think it is absolutely OK for a woman not to want children, but when you have them and practically say that they were a mistake is beyond my understanding. I am too young to have children, but I just imagine if my mother would say something like that, it would hurt me so much.
      I really hope that you guys, Zuzi and Freddy, would not change your plans on having a family. As it would be a shame – your children will be so lucky to have such caring parents.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=516411708 Sasha Haidei

      I was actually saddened to read that there are people who regret having children. If
      children where such a burden then half of us wouldn’t be here in the first
      place.

      I can’t agree more with angelafe, even though I don’t have children myself yet,
      my mom when she was very young also went through a horrible marriage, but she
      always says that she would go through it again, just to have me as her
      daughter.

      Also having a little brother (from my dearly loved step father), seeing how my mom is
      towards him, loving my bro myself and always helping with him, seeing how he matures
      is so rewarding.

      As for myself right now it’s not the time to have children yet, but I know that
      I will one day give birth to a child and it will be everything, but a disappointment.