Just because someone is an ex doesn't mean your sexual attraction to them has dissipated. Though you swore you would never talk to them again post breakup, there are just some people you can't get enough of. Whether it's trying to be friends or running into each other out on the town, a lot can go wrong and cause you to end up tangled up in the sheets with an old lover. About 99 percent of the time, you find yourself regretting it, even during the act.
But rather than let the feeling of guilt linger, just keep in mind that everyone makes mistakes, and so many people have gone back to an ex for either a hookup or a re-do of the relationship. And while it can provide a familiar comfort, it can often prove exactly why you said goodbye in the first place.
Nonetheless, the commentary happening in your head during your regrettable decision is often a journey in itself. From realizing how much you missed them to suddenly noticing how much you're still mad at them, there's a lot of ups and downs as things get steamy.
Raise your hand if any of these thoughts have accompanied your sex with an ex.
1. I've really missed this.
Perhaps it's sex itself that you've been missing, or maybe its the familiarity of doing it with someone who means something to you. Sex is different with everyone, but the smell of his cologne, the feeling of his hand on your back and the way he whispers in your ear feels way too good to stop.
2.... But I definitely didn't miss that.
Then they do that strange thing with their eyebrow and you begin to cringe. Why does that bother you so much? You keep trying to ignore it, but it's basically the only thing you can focus on now.
3. Why do they have such a long face?
It's always bothered you. Make it stop. Focus on something else! Ok... that's the spot.
4. What does this even mean?
You guys broke up for a reason. But now your tongue is lodged in his throat. Do you still love him? Do you want him back? Does he want you back? Can this really just be a one-time thing? Are we going to have to talk about this? You're suddenly extremely overwhelmed.
5. How did I let this happen?
This wasn't planned. You would have never made the effort to make this happen. Where did your brain go in the last hour between running into him at the grocery store to now being naked in his bed?
6. It will all be OK.
At first you think ... well, this feels good and this feels right. The nostalgia blinds you from realizing this maybe wasn't the best decision. It feels totally right until...
7. This is most definitely a disaster.
Until suddenly you realize how absolutely wrong this is. This is 100 percent the worst idea you've ever had. You begin wondering what in the world you are doing.
8. I'm still in love with them.
There, you said it. You still love them and that's why you allowed this to happen. All of these emotions are simply making you realize how absolutely right this is. You should not have broken up.
9. Nope, actually I don't.
Then it hits you in the face. They do that eyebrow thing again and you're back to being totally annoyed with your poor decision-making.
10. So now what do I do?
When all is said and done, what do you do? Pick up your clothes and act like nothing happened? Get back together with them or move on? You know they're thinking the same thing, and so the two of you lay in silence as you try to make sense of it all.
Have you ever been in this situation?
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