Let's get real. Sometimes we assume some things to be true and never really question it beyond that. Sex is no exception. We're told a variety of things on the subject that we assume can be backed up by a "sexpert", but do we never really go out of our way to know the truth.
Myths happen for a reason, one of them being that we don't want to go out of our way to believe otherwise. But when it comes to sex, who wants to miss out on the good stuff due to sheer laziness? It's time to uncover 11 of the biggest myths that are holding you back.
1. Any woman can achieve an orgasm.
This is false. However, if you are a woman who can get off from penetration, then good for you because Brown University's health department found that plenty of women can't. It's totally normal if you require direct clitoral stimulation.
2. PIV is the ultimate and best form of sex.
Intercourse is wonderful, but there are a lot of other ways to have sex, and it doesn't make them any less meaningful or magical.
3. Why have sex without achieving orgasm?
Yes, orgasms are mind blowing, but sex can be enjoyed for many other reasons as well, including intimacy, laugher, connection and just learning to explore your body and what it likes and doesn't like.
4. If you like kinky sex, you can't be a stand-up woman.
This is definitely not true. Sexual fantasies are often taboo; going against what even an empowered woman does in her day-to-day life. So long as you're not hurting anyone, what's so wrong with a little kink?
5. When one person finishes, sex is over.
Contrary to popular belief, just because one person finishes doesn't mean it's endgame. Both people should leave the situation feeling satisfied. And sometimes, both don't necessarily need to orgasm to enjoy the experience. However, if one finishes before the other, they should be willing and able to help them get the prize.
6. Every orgasm needs to be out of this world.
It's great when they are, and it's totally normal and OK when they're not.
7. Butts are a no-go.
The anus has a ton of nerve endings that ought to be explored. If you're not into it, so be it, but it never hurts to try out something that could lead to some earth-shattering sexual experiences.
8. Anal is painful for all women.
Maybe if you use force. However, try going extremely slowly, use lots of lube and test the waters with care.
9. If you're not having as much sex as your friends, then you're screwed.
Not everyone has the same sex drive. furthermore, people experience different feelings throughout the course of their relationship. Comparing yourself to someone who is just getting started with someone is unfair if you've been linked up for years.
10. Lights-on sex requires a perfect physique.
While it's easy to let insecurities take hold, it's also extremely sexy to be confident. Flaws are what you make of them, so if you give off an aura of security, no one will be paying attention to what you think is lacking. When the lights are on, you are inviting your partner to see you for all that you are.
11. Sex should look like the movies.
Sex in real life is much different than how it is portrayed in the movies. There are strange sounds, trial and error, sometimes lots of laughing, weird movements and more. Be realistic. This isn't Hollywood.
Were you under the impression that any of these above myths were true?
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