Being asked, "So why aren't you dating someone?" (or any of its variants) is enough to drive you around the bend but according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics just over half of American adults are unmarried. The Pew Research Center found, in 2006, found that among singles 55 percent of them were neither cohabiting nor looking for a relationship. Despite what many people think there is research that shows unmarried people with strong social circles are just as satisfied as married people. Whether a woman chooses to be in a relationship or not is entirely up to her. If she chooses to remain single, for now or for always, she shouldn't have to face questions or judgments about it.
Here are 13 famous women who have great responses for those ridiculous and intrusive questions.
1. Taylor Swift: "I just want to have as many adventures as possible."
Although she was a once a serial dater, Taylor Swift has taken a break to embrace her singleness. She has been filling her life with friends and work and says she's never been happier and that she doesn't know when a relationship will be able to fit into her new world but she's more than okay with.
2. Diane Keaton: "That old maid myth is garbage."
Diane Keaton wants to put an end to the whole "old spinster" nonsense. Having never married, Keaton actively challenges the sexist notion that single women over a certain age live lesser lives than their married counterparts.
3. Jennifer Lopez: "I gotta be whole on my own first."
After high profile relationships with Ben Affleck and Marc Anthony J-Lo learned that she needs to be happy with herself before she could ever be happy in a relationship. In 2014 on HuffPostLive
she said that it is important to learn to that you are enough, even without a partner.
4. Mindy Kaling: "I don't need anyone to take care of all my needs and desires."
As most of you know, Mindy Kaling loves dating but she told Good Housekeeping
that she's found new confidence and is no longer obsessed with finding the one.
5. Rashida Jones: "I actually don't feel like I'm some sort of loser."
Many of us grew up watching Disney movies and believing things were supposed to happen for us in a certain, prescribed way. Feminist Rashida Jones revealed to The Guardian,
in 2014 that she no longer feels like she's failed her "princess" destiny by remaining single.
6. Shailene Woodley: "I became my own best friend."
Shailene Woodley isn't convinced that people can even be monogamous and after she and her first boyfriend split, she took some time off from dating and discovered that she had a blast by herself, seeking her own amusement, instead of relying on someone else to entertain her.
7. Jennifer Aniston: "There is nothing you can control about love."
Jennifer Aniston does not agree with the way society treats singlehood. Too much focus on finding a partner is a waste because, as she says, you can't control love.
8. Julie Delpy: "Women throw themselves into romance because they're afraid of being single."
People make lots of compromises out of fear of being alone. Julie Delpy will not be one of those people. In 1997 she told San Jose Mercury News
that her freedom and independence are more important to her than being in a relationship.
9. Joan Rivers: "A man, he's 90 years old, he's not married — he's a catch!"
Joan Rivers has been cracking jokes about the double standards for men and women since 1967. In a classic bit from The Ed Sullivan Show,
she says "A girl, you're 30 years old, you're not married-- you're an old maid. A Man, he's 90 years old, he's not married-- he's a catch!"
10. Rihanna: "I don't have a lot of time to offer for a man right now."
Like many women with a career she loves, Rihanna refuses to give up her passions and goals for a relationship. She also believes a man would have to accommodate her schedule and not the other way around.
11. Mae Whitman: "The only time I'm ever unhappy ... is when I see one of those silverfish things."
Nothing a fly swatter won't fix. Mae Whitman loves being alone, seeing the occasional insect is very small downside.
12. Emilia Clarke (GOT): "It's in our nature to nurture someone else ... at the expense of ourselves."
So many women are working, raising families and being a partner. Not a lot of room for "me" time. Emilia Clarke is flying solo, figuring herself out and taking time for herself. And she doesn't feel guilty about it at all.
13. Irina Dunn: "A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle."
This one often gets attributed to Gloria Steinem but it was actually Australian writer Irina Dunn. She scribbled it on the back of two toilet seats in 1970. Modest beginnings for what has now become a battle cry for all the single ladies.
Lots of wise words from lots of wise ladies. Number 13 is a personal favourite of mine (not to mention my love of Diane Keaton). Which is your favourite? How do you handle it when someone asks you about being single?