15 Things It Would Be Nice To Know In Year One Of A Divorce

Divorce is seldom an easy process. Often so much hurt and so many details. It can make your head swim. It is enough to throw some into despair. But it does get better. Gwen & Lark at Your Tango put together this list of things that would have been helpful to know about in that first year of divorce: [caption id="attachment_107787" align="alignnone" width="625"]divorce divorce[/caption] 1. You don't have to be perfect all of a sudden. Sure, people are watching (mainly your ex and your in-laws) to see how you do. But that doesn't mean you have to be superhuman. Stop scrubbing the cat box with your old toothbrush at 3AM and forget about getting up an hour early to do your makeup. 2. You're alone now, but not forever. Yes, you will find someone else one day, if and when you want to. Right now, just find the blessings in being alone. There are plenty. 3. Your mother will get over it. Really. 4. Dating really isn't dead/all that bad. Eventually, it even becomes fun. 5. Your bed might seem empty at first ... but later on, you'll revel in the fact that the whole thing is yours. The whole thing. 6. You're about to forge a whole new relationship with your kids. No matter how good/touchy/close your relationship with your kids is now, there's a bond between single parents and their kids that's amazing and unique only to them. 7. That weight gain or unwanted weight loss will right itself. The emotional eating will go away. The stress-induced starvation will, too. 8. Forget what you lost; recognize what you've gained. The good and the bad are gone. But a whole new world, full of possibilities that only you get to choose, has opened up to you. 9. Missing him will fade. Pretty soon, you won't miss being with him. You might miss being with someone, but that can be fixed. 10. You didn't fail; your marriage failed. You'll go on to triumph at other things and one of them might even be marriage. 11. Don't discount the little things. Closet space. Your favourite foods on the menu. A bathroom all to yourself. Ugly but comfy jammies. They all matter. 12. Your life is now your design. It's not empty; it's blank. Write a new one. 13. He was an idiot, anyway. There you go. Someone said it for you. 14. You don't have to figure it all out this week. Make mistakes. Take your time. Shelve things for later. Shake it off. Your life just changed completely. You have a lot of new things to learn. Give yourself the patience you're giving your kids. 15. This too shall pass. Whatever it is, it's temporary. Unless it's good, in which case, you should keep it. Divorce is an upheaval. Be kind with yourself. What do you wish you had been told after your divorce? Share with us. Do you follow us on Instagram? [caption id="attachment_100401" align="alignnone" width="100"]snapchat code @BodyRockTV[/caption]

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