November 30, 2015
20 Things You Should Consider Before Getting Married
Marriage sounds like an amazing thing, but when it comes to finding a partner to do it with, how do you know who is REALLY the one? To evaluate whether someone is going to be a good fit longterm, you have to look at this from a non-emotional aspect just as equally. Friends and family can be great sources for helping you to see through clouded judgement, but their excitement as well as concerns can be quite overwhelming. And sometimes premarital counselling can't even pinpoint all the potential issues. As a couple, try asking each other the following questions prior to getting married and see where you stand.
- Are arguments happening often and over nothing at all?
- Does sarcasm often accompany issues brought to the forefront?
- Are you in the relationship because you are afraid of something?
- Do you have a lack of common interests?
- Are either of you extremely dependent on your parents?
- Is there any abuse verbally, sexually or physically?
- Are you afraid to bring up sensitive subjects because of how your partner might respond?
- Does your partner complain of false aches and pains?
- Does your partner find excuses as to why they do not have a job?
- Are either of you addicted to such things as alcohol or pornography?
- Does your partner prefer to remain alone, hindering your social time?
- Do you only do what your partner wants to do?
- Does your partner have an issue being intimate, and do they harm themselves?
- Do you find that your partner is always questioning your whereabouts?
- Is your partner super critical, and do they try to keep you up to their standards?
- Are either of you hiding things about your sexual pasts?
- Does the relationship give you an uneasy feeling?
- Is anyone against your relationship?
- Do you feel like you are settling?
- Do you find that there is spiritual harmony?