The older we get, the more we don't take our friend's breakup announcement very seriously. Or our own for that matter. But why?
The problem is, we always seem to end up right back where we started; back in the same toxic relationship we escaped last month, and the month before that ...
We all say we're finished. That this is the very last time. That we refuse to be treated with such disrespect ever again. But somehow, someway, we allow ourselves to get thrown back into the viscous cycle.
If this rings all too true for you and you desperately want a way out of it, then try for these three solutions.
1. You always answer the “What Are You Doing?” and “I Am Thinking About You” messages that come your way.
Don't allow someone to manipulate their way back into your life. If you're getting over someone, and they reach out with messages like this, you're bound to get sucked in with even just one response.
Fight back by blocking your ex from all forms of communication.
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2. You've set your Facebook status to, “It’s Complicated.”
Love and commitment are not complicated. They are true and they are deep. So, rather than pretending that anything is complicated, just be real that things are toxic and need to come to an end.
Try an “A or B” approach instead.
A) You both admit your faults, compromise, and grow together. This will resolve the "complicated" status you have defined for yourselves.
But, if you've given each other space or a break, clearly something in the relationship is off, and because of this, one or both of you may not feel like you are able to move forward. And if that is the case, then you should choose a plan B.
B) Your time in life is precious and shouldn't be wasted.
If someone can't see their faults, it's impossible for them to grow within the relationship, so change your Facebook status to single and move on.
3. Your ex still has a place in your bed.
Take away the spot they once slept in by removing the pillow you gave them from your bed. Sex keeps people sticking around, as so many emotions are involved. Stop taking late-night phone calls from your ex. It's easy to become blinded by a momentary euphoria, but remember, that all the toxicities will remain once the night is over.
Do you find that you keep going back to your ex?
Source: Elite Daily
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