3 Ways Dating Sucks But Makes You A Better Person In The Long Run

Most of us want to find a life partner. If you aren't one of those lucky folks who found the right one on the first attempt, you've been subject to the dating game. This means you've probably been rejected, hit on by strange people and found yourself in several confusing and dumbfounding situations. Dating can be miserable. But don't get too down. Here are 3 ways that the down side of dating may actually make you a better person.

1. Rejections Makes You Resilient.

Let's face it, no one likes to be turned down. You muster your courage and approach that guy or gal you've been eyeballing all night only to have them brush you off. Ouch. But the thing is, the more often this happens to you, the more you will be able to just accept it as being part of the dating game. And the better you get at accepting failure as an occasional part of life, the easier it will be to get past it. When you botch a presentation at work or your musical demos go no where, it isn't the end of your career. Just a detour on the path. Rejection in dating makes you more resilient to the other challenges you face in life.

2. It’ll help you embrace the unknown.

One of the most frustrating things about dating is the uncertainty. You never know when you are going to meet "the one." You could put yourself together perfectly for a night on the town and get not a single bit of attention. On the flip side, you could be wearing your workout gear and strolling down the produce aisle at the grocery store when an interesting conversation is struck. You never know. Dating makes you aware that life is incredibly unpredictable. Once you accept that there are unknowns in life, it can open you up to all of the possibilities that exist. It encourages you to be ready for opportunities that will improve your life.

3. You’ll know more about your ideal partner.

Every failed dating encounter you have, tells you more about the person you truly want in your life. Say your last failure was with an adrenaline junkie who is always wanting to do fast paced, death defying activities. You didn't think you liked the idea of cliff diving but you went anyway. It was a disaster. Now you know, maybe someone who lives a life of thrill seeking adventure may not be the right one for you. It has helped you narrow your search criteria. Silver lining, I'd say. You may still be single and having a hard time finding the right match for you, but don't worry. View every dating experience as a life improving act. You are learning so much about yourself and what you want in life all while becoming stronger in the face of rejection. Be proud of yourself and get back out there!  

Leave a comment

All comments are moderated before being published