3 Ways Your Emotional Baggage is Ruining Your New Relationship

One of the best parts about being in a new relationship is the sense of freedom to release yourself from bones in your closet that have been holding you back. You get to explore yourself in a fresh perspective, as your new partner reflects the present moment — not the future, and not the past. baggage But, if we know this, then why is it so hard for us to let go and let live? We spend a lot of time breaking in new relationships by laying everything out on the table; discussing old wounds. When we do this, we often find ourselves blaming new lovers for things old lovers did. It's an unjust action that, though hard to break, is absolutely necessary to rid ourselves of. Here are three ways you may be hurting your current relationship because of what happened in the past. 1. Whose fight is it anyway? Full on fighting in a new relationship is something to be mindful of. Are you creating problems in your head and taking them out on your new partner to recreate fights that happened with your ex? 2. What could be, may never be. Though living in the present is the most important way to feel the most fulfilled in life and in love, it's also wonderful to think about all the things you and your partner are capable of conquering together, but if you are spending too much time dwelling on the past, you'll never move forward in a positive, healthy direction. 3. Prove it. When you play the blame game with your current beau, you're asking them to prove that they are not like your ex; that they will never hurt you the way they did. When you ask them to do this, you are giving the relationship no room to develop faith, trust and confidence. Are you in a new relationship and feel like you are bringing too much baggage into a new, good thing? Source: Elite Daily Do you follow us on Instagram? [caption id="attachment_108438" align="alignnone" width="100"]snapchat code @BodyRockTV[/caption]

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