Sometimes, bickering with your partner can make you feel like you are going in circles. Over and over, it is always the same thing. It doesn't matter what triggers it, you always end up in the same spot. Lucky for you, it is possible to break this cycle. No matter the fight, if you are able to figure out where the "real" disagreement lies, you can find your way back to bliss.
1. The fight about whose turn it is to take out the trash.
It doesn't just have to be taking out the trash, this could apply to any household chore. Because things like doing the dishes are daily occurrences, it can feel like you are constantly fighting about the division of labour. Arguing over this usually comes down to one of you feeling like your efforts around the house are not being appreciated and valued. The answer here is simple. Be vocal about how much you appreciate your partner's efforts. Ask that they do the same for you.
2. The fight about how work always comes first.
This argument is usually the result of your feeling unfulfilled in some way. You may just be projecting your feelings of boredom and lack of purpose onto your partner or vice versa. At the same time, it may not be any deeper than the fact that your partner (or you) is so devoted to their job that they are slacking when it comes to maintaining the relationship. Have a conversation. It may be time to shift priorities.
3. The fight about out-of-control spending habits.
You and your partner may be completely in sync in all areas of life. Except when it comes to money. If they have a completely different history than you when it comes to money, it can be hard to see eye to eye. Usually this fight isn't about actual money but about how you view money on an emotional level. While you may think you can beat this fight cycle on your own, it might be a good idea to make a visit to a professional so you can get your views on the same page.
4. The fight about not sharing enough adorable photos on Facebook.
Technology has managed to intrude on our romantic relationships. Everyone wants to feel like their partner is proud to be with them and sharing adorable photos and sickeningly sweet status updates is one way to do that. But, for some people, sharing in this manner makes them feel too vulnerable. If you are someone who doesn't share a ton online, you may be igniting insecurity in your partner. Fixing this fight comes down to being honest. Talk about where you both are coming from with this and remember, the most beautiful and valuable parts of your relationship happen in real life.
Do any of these squabbles sound familiar to you? How have you worked past them in your relationship?
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