There is no feeling quite like realizing that the man you're with is thinking of someone else and longing to be with them. Someone you could never be. Dating a man on the rebound from a longterm relationship is a risk that some of us take. He tells us he's over his ex and he's totally done with her. He tells us we are perfect and nothing like his past relationship. He makes it seem like he's choosing us. But things are not so cut and dried, and often do not end happily ever after. Here are 4 reasons not to date someone on the rebound:
#1 He is so not over her
It takes time to heal from a big, momentous relationship. Dating a new girl may distract him for a while, but eventually he has to face his past hurts. He'll pine for closure with her
after the months go on. He may even want to try again with her
, and make you suffer through something that you didn't have to go through.
#2 You will always compare yourself to her
You will find yourself creeping her
photos on Instagram when he's not around and trying to judge if you're similar. You wonder what her
personality is like. You ask friends if she is prettier than you, or looks smarter than you, or is generally better than you. Your self esteem plummets and you may even start petty fights with your boyfriend because of the insecurities you develop.
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#3 He's going to compare you
If it wasn't bad enough that you're always wondering how you stack up to his ex, he'll start to compare. It may not be out loud, but he will start to think about the woman he once had and miss her
. Maybe you are having a small fight, and he chimes in with "My ex would never say that!" or "My ex never did this!". And if it does happen, it will shatter you.
#4 He's not emotionally stable
That is why he jumped into something new right away, he can't bare to be alone and face his feelings head on. This means he's not comfortable enough with himself to successfully take the proper time to heal and instead imposes upon others like yourself and brings baggage into your life. Distracting himself with a new relationship is a telltale sign that he has a lot of self-reflection work to do before he can be a healthy and stable partner.
Do you agree with these reasons? Share your relationships stories in the comments!
Source: Elite Daily
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