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5 Reasons we can't handle marriage anymore

May 10, 2015 7 min read

Today's divorce rate is at an all time high. There are many theories as to why this is, but in my opinion, this author hits the nail on the head. What do you guys think? Many of our parents and grand-parents were able to stay together. What has changed in recent years? Some people say we don't take marriage as seriously, divorce used to be frowned upon so people lived miserably, and religion is almost devoid in American culture. Sure, I bet some of those reasons have something to do with it, but I think this article gets into the true reasons behind why more marriages are failing than ever before in today's world. Check out this man's theories below: It's a pretty simple concept — fall in love and share your life together. Our great grandparents did it, our grandparents followed suit, and for many of us, our parents did it as well. Why the hell can't we? Many of you will ask what gives me the right to share my advice or opinions. I've been divorced myself. But I'm only one of the many people today that have failed at marriage. And while some of us have gone through a divorce, others stay in their relationships, miserably, and live completely phony lives.
 These same people, though, are quick to point the finger and judge others for speaking up.
I've spent the better part of the last three years trying to understand the dating scene again. Back when I met my ex-wife in 2004, things were just so different. Social media had yet to explode. I had this desire to ask her about her day simply because I didn't know.
If I wanted to see her, I had to drive to her house and knock on her door. Everything required an action on my part, or hers. Today, things are different though.
More importantly, I wonder how different they will be for my children. Our generation isn't equipped to handle marriages — and here's why: 1) Sex becomes almost non-existent. I don't know about you, but I am an extremely sexual person. Not only do I believe it's an important aspect of a relationship, I believe it's the most important. Beyond being pleasurable, sex connects two individuals. There's a reason why it's referred to as making love.
I'm baffled by couples who neglect having sex, especially younger ones. We all desire physical connection, so how does cutting that off lead you to believe your marriage will be successful? It's like telling someone you'll take them out to a restaurant but they can't order food. Instead, we have sex once every couple weeks, or when it's time to get pregnant. It becomes this chore. You no longer look at your partner wanting to rip their clothes off, but rather instead, dread the thought. That's not crazy to you? It's not just boredom that stops sex from happening. Everywhere you look, there's pictures of men and women we know half naked — some look better than your husband or wife. So it becomes desirable. It's in your face every single day and changes your mindset. It's no wonder why insecurities loom so largely these days. You have to be perfectto keep someone attracted to you. Meanwhile, what your lover should really be attracted to is your heart. Maybe if you felt that connection beyond a physical level, would you realize a sexual attraction you've never felt before.
Years ago, it didn't cost upward of $200,000 for an education. It also didn't cost $300,000-plus for a home. The cost of living was very different than what it is now. You'd be naive to believe this stress doesn't cause strain on marriages today. You need to find a job to pay for student loans, a mortgage, utilities, living expensesanda baby. Problem is, it's extremely difficult to find a job that can provide an income that will help you live comfortably while paying all of these bills — especially not in your mid 20s.
 This strain causes separation between us. It halts us from being able to livelife. We're too busy paying bills to enjoy our youth. Forget going to dinner, you have to pay the mortgage. You'll have to skip out on an anniversary gift this year because those student loans are due at the end of the month. Vacations? Not happening.
We're trying to live the way our grandparents and parents did in a world that has put more debt on our plate than ever before. It's possible, but it puts us in an awful position. Part of life is being able to live. Not having the finances to do so takes away yet another important aspect of our relationships. It keeps us inside, forced to see the life everyone else is living.
Let's face it, the last time you "spoke" to the person you love, you didn't even hear their voice. You could be at work, the gym, maybe with the kids at soccer. You may even be in the same room. You told your wife you made dinner reservations ... through a text message. Your husband had flowers delivered to your job ... through an app on his phone. You both searched for furnishings for your new home ... on Pinterest. There's no physical connection attached to anything anymore. We've developed relationships with things,not each other. Ninety-five percent of the personal conversations you have on a daily basis occur through some type of technology. We've removed human emotion from our relationships, and we've replaced it colorful bubbles.
We've forgotten how to communicate yet expect healthy marriages. How is it possible to grow and mature together if we barely speak? Years ago, my grandmother wouldn't hear from my grandfather all day; he was working down at the piers in Brooklyn. But today, if someone doesn't text you back within 30 minutes, they're suddenly cheating on you.
No. They were too preoccupied loving and respecting one another. They were talking to each other at dinner, walking with each other holding hands instead of their phones. They weren't distracted by everything around them. They had dreams and chased them together.
Even years ago, people would clamor over celebrities. When I think back, I can imagine young women wanting to be like Marilyn Monroe. She was beautiful, all over magazines, could have any man she wanted and, in fact, did. But she was a celebrity. And in order to be a successful one, she had to keep all eyes on her. Same holds true for celebrities today. They have to stay in the spotlight or their fame runs out, and they get replaced by the next best thing.
It's more than that though. What about the life you live? I see pictures of people decked out in designer clothes, posted up in some club with fancy drinks — People that I know are dead broke. But they portray themselves as successful because, well, they can. And they get this gratification from people who like and comment on their statuses or pictures. If you want to love someone, stop seeking attention from everyone because you'll never be satisfied with the attention from one person. Same holds true for love. Love is supposed to be sacred. You can't love someone when you're preoccupied with worrying about what others think of you. Whether it be posting pictures on social media, buying homes to compete with others or going on lavish vacations — none of it matters.
We've thrown privacy out the window these days. Nothing is sacred anymore, in fact, it's splattered all over the Web for the world to see. Everywhere we go, everything we do — made public. Instead of enjoying the moment, we get lost in cyberspace, trying to figure out the best status update, or the perfect filter. Something as simple as enjoying breakfast has become a photo shoot. Vacations are no longer a time to relax, but more a time to post vigorously. You can't just sit back and soak it all in.
We've invited strangers into our homes and brought them on dates with us. We've shown them our wardrobe, drove with them in our cars, and we even showed them our bathing suits. Might as well pack them a suitcase, too. The worst part about all this? It's only going to get worse. Immediately, people will assume that my failed marriage is why I am expressing these emotions; that's not the case. It's what I see around me every single day that inspired me to write this article. Marriage is sacred. It is the most beautiful sacrament and has tremendous promise for those fortunate enough to experience it. Divorced or not, I am a believer in true love and building a beautiful life with someone. In fact, it's been my dream since I was young. I hope you never experience the demise of your love. It's painful, and life changing; something nobody should ever feel. I do fear, however, that the world we live in today has put roadblocks in the way of getting there and living a happy life with someone. Some things are in our control, and unfortunately, others are not. The author Anthony D'Ambrosio, 29 years old, is a divorcee, a sex columnist and has gotten a lot of negative and positive feedback on his reasonings about failed marriages of today. What say you? Reposted From: http://www.app.com/story/life/family/relationships/2015/04/06/reasons-marriage-just-work-anymore/25349495/ Do you follow us on Instagram? [caption id="attachment_100983" align="alignnone" width="100"]snapchat code @BodyRockTV[/caption]

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