We all know your 20s is the time to have your fun. To sow your oats should you feel so inclined. Some people find their rock in the midst of their fun time but some people manage to crest 30 without a life partner. When you hit your 30s, it is like life is supposed to unfold perfectly. You're an adult, you've made it and you're ready but sometimes it is far from being that simple. Here are 5 ways
that dating in your 30s looks nothing like you thought it would:
1. Organically forming relationships is rare.
So much dating today occurs online. In that environment, so much is based on looks. It is hard to look at an online profile and judge the person on personality. And when you do meet up, s/he is probably dating other people or still poking around on Tinder. Knowing you aren't the only option changes the stakes in the dating world.
2. Age is not just a number.
In your 30s? Well, maybe steer clear of dating anyone in their early 20s. The years between you may not seem like much, but the difference in life stages is hard to bridge. Someone just out of college looks at life far differently than someone with a career and a mortgage, for example.
3. Fewer people are looking for long-term relationships.
Okay, so long term relationships may not be the issue per say but we have come to really love our single lives. I'm 34 and I would love to have someone in my life. It does get lonely sometimes but at the same time, I LOVE my life the way it is. I enjoy my 'me' time. Perhaps I'm stuck in the world of instant gratification and can't break out of a causal dating cycle. Maybe not. I don't know. But, I do know that I am not alone.
4. You will feel like an outsider.
Sometimes, you wonder if being single in your 30s is some sort of cosmic joke. It seems everywhere you look in life, people are getting married and having babies. And you, well, you're still looking. Or not, or maybe yes, if the right person comes along -- if you're like me, it changes with the weather. But the older you get, the more you see those 'couples' nights happening or 'couples' vacations. It is terrible to be uninvited to things. Sometimes, it is worse to be invited. Nothing like being a third or fifth wheel. But it is important to remember, you aren't really an outsider. We all have our own lives to lead.
5. You will be weary.
Being single in your 30s sometimes feels like a failure. All your dating efforts to date have clearly not worked out. But you don't have to view it that way. You had (and still are, perhaps) trying to figure out what exactly it is you are looking for. You have to make mistakes to sort it all out. Don't regret, don't be ashamed. Hold your head up. It all works to make you a better person on your own and a better potential partner to someone else.
Are you single in your 30s? What are your feelings on the subject?
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