Being in a relationship is wonderful, isn't it? But let's be honest, there is little in life worse than being in a relationship you shouldn't be in. Sometimes it is obvious other times, not so much. It could be, for all intents and purposes, a great relationship but you can't shake the feeling that something isn't right. You have that feeling in all likelihood because something isn't. Here are 5 signs
that can help you figure it all out. Stop wasting time, read on:
1. You have a feeling something isn't quite right
This is, by far, the most complicated sign. You can't avoid feeling it but you sure go out of your way to ignore it. By all means, give it a little time to see if it passes, it might be you are just showing apprehension about opening to a relationship. But if the months drag on and you still can't shake the feeling, it is probably time to end it
2. Your partner won't let go of the past
There are few among us who have not made mistakes in our past. A mistake filled, failed relationship can hold you back from giving love to the right person, it can lead to making more bad relationship decisions.When you move on and change, you need someone who can love and support you in that going forward. If you are in a relationship where your partner harps on the past or tries to make you feel like you have not changed or moved on, you need to end it. If your partner can't let go of your past, you let go of your partner.
3. You make excuses to stay
You've known for a while now that you're in the wrong relationship but you just can't get out the door. You find reasons to stay, you don't want to go to your friend's wedding alone, you've been together a long time and finding someone new is a lot of effort. It is like you stay together because it is easier. But the thing is, you are wasting time trying to stay in something you don't entirely want to be in. You can't take back time but you can determine what happens going forward. Why waste another second? For either of you.
4. You wonder what your partner is up to when you're not around
Relationships can't function if they are surrounded by doubt and mistrust. If every time you leave the house, you're worried about him/her cheating, this might not be the right relationship for you. Mistrust and doubt kill any fun you two may have. Maybe your partner is not trustworthy or maybe you are distrustful, either way, you need to step away.
5. You can't imagine a future together
If you are looking for a long term commitment, but can't imagine your life with this person down the road, you're likely in the wrong spot. You may be in a relationship with someone who makes you laugh, turns you on, whatever but if when you think about 5, 10, 15 years from now and you just can't see it, that's a pretty big red flag. Why be with someone now if you can't see a life with them later?
You will always be able to find reasons to stay in a relationship but that doesn't mean you should. If you are serious about finding a partner for life and you've identified with any of these 5 signs, it might be time to move on. You aren't alone, we've all been there, some of us more than others. That need to find love and companionship is strong. But just remember, being single and hopeful is better than being attached and eaten alive by doubt and misgivings.