Love' is not always easy to define. When you start a new relationship, a lot of emotions can get in the way of actual love, though they may lead you to believe how you feel about this new person is the big L. Here are the 6 things you could be mistaking for love.
The most common of the emotional mixups, jealousy presents itself in many forms. Jealousy can leave us with such intense passions about our partner that we do things that lack rationale, just like being in love. But jealous thoughts are far more toxic. Jealousy leads to obsessive, possessive and erratic behaviour which does not spell out a healthy future.
That I-want-to-rip-your-clothes-off kind of lust is amazing, but it does mean you are in love. You just have immense amounts of s*xual chemistry with this person. It's a good thing, trust me. But it most likely won't end in wedding bells, as these hot fires can burn out as quickly as they ignited.
Infatuation and love are the most similar to each other, and it can be nearly impossible to tell the difference. Infatuation often presents itself as if you have found the person who is ideal for you and you have a hard time seeing their flaws or the relationship's faults. Love allows you to understand that the person you are with is not perfect but infatuation often leaves you unable to accept it. It is kind of like living in a delusion, so it is important not to actually express those four magical letters until you snap out of this honeymoon phase.
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Like infatuation, fantasy has our minds creating fanciful images of who the person we are with is. We want
them to be a great supporter and we believe
that they would never hurt us but in reality they may be doing those exact opposite of things. This is dangerous because after you've fantasized who your partner is, you are completely crushed when you come to terms with the fact that they can not be this way.
This is the main reason women return so often to their exes. Because being with someone who are comfortable around and who fills that void is easier than branching out to new relationships. As the saying goes, burned out flames should never reignite. You'll eventually find yourself hurting the same way you did the last time that you and your partner broke it off.
Romance helps to spice up your life, and many people are able to trick their minds into thinking that they are with someone out of love and not out of sheer boredom. You have someone there with you, someone to talk to and something to post about on social media. It sounds horrible but it does happen. Take a step back and evaluate if this relationship is based on personal amusement, and take steps from there.
What are your thoughts? Do you identify with any of these situations?
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