June 05, 2014
6 Milestones That Will Make Or Break Your Marriage
Every couple goes through their fair share of hard times, but the interesting thing is that the hard times can actually bring certain duos even closer than they were before. Remember "For better or for worse", right? So what will make the difference in each situation?
1. Having Children
It's all too easy to lose sight of your marriage when your life revolves around 3 a.m. feedings and whose turn it is to empty the dirty diaper bin. The key is to keep communicating, even about the tiniest things that have been frustrating you. Getting on the same parenting page can also help prevent arguments down the road.
This is such a tough subject. Sometimes one wants a child and the other doesn't. Or sometimes, you spend months trying with no success. You might find yourself starting to resent your S.O. for not being as invested or being frustrated with the fact that your or your partners body isn't "working". Once again, it's all about communication. There are so many other options available to people who want to have children.
This is purely situation based. However, if you want to continue with your relationship, once you get over feeling like a victim or a perpetrator, you can try to understand, together, how this happened. When you get to the point where you see how you both contributed to the situation, you can grow and become stronger together.
4. A Serious Illness
A serious illness can allow you to see that a spouse really has your back in ways that you may not realize in a healthy, day-to-day existence. God forbid something happen to either of you, but it's a way you and your spouse can show each other what you don’t usually get to—that you’re there through thick and thin.
5. Caring For a Sick Parent
Caring for an ill parent takes time, energy, and money away from the couple. It's an entirely new family dynamic and it requires an immense amount of teamwork. It's also so important to continue to schedule "couple time"
6. Losing a Job or Other Financial Stress
You might be tempted to start pointing fingers if your partner loses his job or makes a bad investment with your shared funds. The key is not to point blame. As a couple, the best thing you can do is seek out professional financial help. There are likely decisions you can make to ease your financial burden—which will help you get back to focusing on each other - the most important part.