Tinder was fun for a while. I can't even remember not being in a room with someone using it when its popularity first came to be. Meet hot singles in your area? Sure! But, I hardly hear anyone discuss it anymore. Is it over? That's the question a lot of people are asking, and some even proclaiming.
It's easy ... but it's lazy.
"As romance gets swiped from the screen, some 20-somethings aren’t liking what they see," noted Nancy Jo Sales in a recent Vanity Fair piece.
The "swipe culture" is making us more shallow, desensitized, dehumanized, lazy, exploited, etc. etc. etc. It's turning people off because it's not getting daters anywhere good!
Furthermore, here are six reasons Tinder is O - V - E - R.
1. Casual relationships are boring.
While Tinder doesn't require you to fill out a profile that asks what your passions are, it does seem to have quite a bit if bikini clad babes. Is this connection?
Millenials are fed up with loosely dating someone. They want intimacy in more than one form.
2. We are left feeing devalued.
People refer to the many people they have said "yes" to on Tinder as "options." Are people options? Is it that easy? What about respect? This is not supposed to be a numbers game. And despite how much instant gratification might feel good at first, it just leaves you feeling somehow unworthy in the long run.
When did it become all about looks? Why can't our charm, our background, our intelligence, our love for animals, books, travel and unique hobbies matter? When we believe there are so many options to choose from, we feel less satisfied with just picking one option.
While it feels good to be complimented on your looks, they change, but what comes from within certainly doesn't.
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3. There are much better dating apps that came after Tinder.
Happn for example is like Tinder in the sense that it has a larger user base of singles, but without the use of the "swipe." You match with people you have crossed paths with, and you have a space to share a deeper side of you than what meets the eye.
4. Women want to share experiences with men, not simply share a bed.
The hard truth is that men on Tinder typically use it for casual sex, while women are looking for a real date. And when the female users are unhappy with the app, there's a problem. Any CEO can attest to that.
The dating app SuperDate is like the opposite of this issue, since you match with users via similar interests. Like happy hour while watching the sunset at an ocean view restaurant? Someone else might too! And they don't have to be your next casual hookup. What's even more, you can upload what makes a perfect date to YOU.
5. Tinder now charges money.
Plain and simple, when one thing starts charging money, people will opt for the free option.
While it used to be that you could have endless swipes, now users are charged to access "premier features." Over 30 years old? You'll get charged. Want to see whose single in another country? There's a fee for that.
6. What are people actually looking for on Tinder anyway?
It's difficult to know someone's intention in the dating world when there's no space to provide it. Are they interested in love? A one night stand? All the guessing is simply exhausting.
Do you feel like Tinder is over?
Source: Elite Daily
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