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It's already hard for women to have an orgasm. A 2014 study, which was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, discovered that only 63 percent actually orgasm during sex. So, as for those extra pounds, they're not doing anyone any favors. "Plaque can potentially build up in small blood vessels around the genitals and restrict blood flow," notes Millheiser. "Slimming down helps because it hikes up blood flow again, which in turn lubricates the vagina and also increases sensitivity in the area, making orgasm more attainable." And the more weight you lose, the more likely you'll be able to get into different sex positions. "You have more mobility and flexibility. Switching it up can really help women find out what stimulates them so they can orgasm. Plus, it keeps things exciting in the bedroom, which is great for both partners," she explains.
Your self-esteem gets better.
Weight loss both feels good and looks good when it's needed, which in turn can help boost your confidence. Women who have body image issues are likely to shy away from exposing their bodies to their partners. So when they lose the weight, they feel like they can finally be free.
"Losing weight helped me get over a lot of fears I had for a very long time," says one 39-year-old woman who dropped 70 pounds. "I wasn't scared to be naked around my husband anymore, and that made me become a lot more adventurous in bed."
Healthy intimacy might take time, however.
"Many women who have been overweight their entire life and uncomfortable with sex may never have learned what it is to be intimate in a healthy way," notes Nicole Martinez, PsyD, a psychologist based in Skokie, Illinois. "It's completely natural to struggle to let go of the old, self-doubting feelings, even with a healthier body."
It might take time to get used to your new body. "It's important to go at a pace you are comfortable with, while articulating your needs and hesitations," she says. "It can take time to find a balance between flourishing with your new self-esteem and developing intimacy with the right person."
Be mindful of sagging skin, as it can cause insecurities.
It's a common side effect of extreme weight loss, but there are healthy ways to deal with it. "If you feel embarrassed by the excess skin, I recommend wearing lingerie that covers those particular areas of the body," explains Millheiser. "Behavioral therapy can help sort out body image issues, or surgery to remove the skin may also be considered. Many insurance companies cover the procedure, and it often makes a huge impact on self-confidence, which in turn is evident in the bedroom."
You might realize you're more sensitive to touch.
"Skin and fat might be in the way of the genitals, making masturbation more difficult," says Millheiser.
Weight loss can also help two partners bond better. "As my body toned up, I noticed that the sensual feel of my husband's touch was so much more noticeable—softer, gentler, and magnified" says one 59-year-old woman who lost 60 pounds.
Touch has been found by research to lessen blood pressure, heart rate, and cortisol along with being able to boost oxytocin.
Your partner may be positively affected, too.
You might not realize it, but your body image issues affect your partner as well, so when you slim down and gain confidence and better health, your partner is impacted as well. They're also enjoying better sex. And, if they need to, they may even be motivated to drop some pounds as well.
You'll find that when you and your partner begin to workout together, your sex life gets better. According to a 2015 study published in the Journal of Sexual Health, men experience better erections and sexual functions when they exercise. Research from Florida Atlantic University found that men and women found each other more desirable and better in bed when they exercised more.
Have you experienced extreme weight loss and found any of the above to personally hold true?
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