A cheating partner can threaten to break your relationship apart and in many cases, it does. For those who choose to stay and try to fix this broken connection, it is not always easy. There are so many emotions swirling in both his and your mind. If it is worth staying, here are 7 ways to help heal yourself, your partner and your relationship.
Get it all out there and do not bottle emotions inside. You need to scream or cry or take a trip alone to gather your thoughts. But whatever you do, do not keep any thought or feeling you have hidden. Both of you need to embrace raw honesty. Your partner needs to be forthcoming with all the questions you pose.
#2 Talk It Out Together
Don't reveal more to your friends about how you are feeling than your partner. You both need to talk openly for as long as you need. Therapy helps get the ball rolling and provides a safe space to air your feelings. Your therapist will guide you through this difficult time and offer exercises to open up your communication lines.
#3 Seek Solo Therapy
Couples therapy is wonderful, but therapy just for yourself is also necessary in this situation. You can cry, you can curse, you can process your frustrations and become healthier as a result. Your therapist will guide you through each stage and is someone who is always there to listen. A good vent every week is perfect for getting your pent-up anger off your chest.
#4 Take A Social Media Break
Social media can be a great benefit to our lives, but it can cause problems when we are emotionally fragile. Creeping the profile of the person or people your partner cheated on you with can destroy you. Take a break from the drama and de-stress. Instead of checking your Twitter feed every morning when you wake up, start a new habit of doing yoga or making a smoothie or going out in nature and just enjoying the moment.
#5 Consider Your Options
Sometimes monogamy just doesn't work for all pairings. Have you ever thought about being in an open relationship or a polyamorous one? Perhaps your partner wishes to have that kind of arrangement but doesn't know how to express. This is no easy decision and requires a lot of deep thought.
Once all your anger has been expressed, dealt with through therapy and processed, it is time to release it. Holding on to anger does nothing for you and can cause health problems. You don't have to forgive just yet, but release your inner stresses about the situation and heal your heart. Remember to focus a lot on yourself and give yourself personal time and space.
#7 Start A New Bond
Out of the ashes, form a new bond that is stronger than before. Get to know each other again. Go for a little trip to somewhere totally new. Become good friends first, begin to trust each other, laugh, remember why you are together. It is a tough road, but sometimes it is worth going down.
What are your thoughts on this? How have you repaired your relationship after cheating?
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