Amy Schumer speaks her mind. This is a fact we've all come to know by now. In the movie Trainwreck
(opening July 17), Schumer plays a serial dater with an attitude, some say, that comes off as being like that of a man. She insists that this isn't actually the case.
In a press conference last week, Schumer said, "a lot of people have asked me if I intended to kind of flip the gender roles like I'm playing the guy, and that's not been my experience at all." She goes on to talk about an example from her own life. "This is how I am and how a lot of girls are where the guy ends up being a little more sensitive and more invested. So the scene where I get high and then John [Cena's] character looks through my phone, and then instead of comforting him I ask if I can leave – that did happen in my real life."
It is nice to see a film representation of a woman that is outside what we usually see. As we know, women behave all sorts of different ways in relationships, we can't all be put inside the same box. But I think if we are going to pat Schumer on the back for 'breaking' a stereotype, we need to also look at the way we stereotype men. We often discuss media portrayals of women as being cruel and unfair but it isn't so different for men. Is it fair to attribute disinterest, failure to connect/communicate and 'serial' dating to men? Sure, that describes some men perfectly, but it doesn't describe all men and it more than certainly can be applied to some women as well.
We can't change these ingrained stereotypes overnight, they are woven into so many parts of our culture, but we can change the way we speak about these things. We can stop referencing these actions as being 'like a man' or 'like a woman.' A woman who is a poor communicator is not acting like a man any more than a man who cries is acting like a woman. They are humans acting like humans. We can't wipe out stereotypes overnight but we can start.