Why We Can Never Trust (Or Take) Our Own Advice

I'm guilty, and I'm sure you are too. A friend comes to you with a problem and you have the right advice to offer because well, the solution was right in front of them. We are wise sages when it comes to other people's troubles and yet when we are trying to unpack our own, we're lost. Of course, this is because our problems are so much more complex. It doesn't matter how many times we've helped someone else through the exact same problem, we are convinced that our case is so different. Best selling author, advice columnist and behavioral economist, Dan Ariely, told New York Magazine that it is all a matter of perspective. We cloud our judgments with an emotional attachment to our trouble. We cannot look at it rationally. We are far more likely to rationalize our own problems by placing blame on external sources. For others, we rationalize their problems by attributing the issue to something inside of them. All of this says that we have a hard time taking a good, long, hard look at ourselves but are not shy about forcing other people to do it. When we don't look at ourselves, we fail to hold ourselves responsible for solving the problem and fail to follow our own advice about the problem. We place the blame on other people and don't even consult ourselves on the issue. When the advice we dole out requires the person to analyze themselves, it is likely sound and helpful advice. It is insightful and not loaded with any B.S. So, why wouldn't we consider it? If you give yourself the same level of tough love that you give to your friends, you will be able to pull yourself out of this cycle. And once and for all you will see that the solution really is that easy! What is the best advice you have given but failed to follow? Source: Elite Daily

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