The reasons why women may not want to have children are as varied as the women themselves. Unfortunately, we live in a society where marriage and baby making are the default plans for the future. While there is nothing wrong with wanting either of those things, there is also nothing wrong with not
Women who do not want children are often subjected to harsh, and sometimes very insensitive, criticisms. When these criticism arise, it can be hard to know how to respond. We're here to help!
Here are 5 common criticisms and 5 clever responses!
1. If Someone Says: "You'll Change Your Mind"...
Or, "when your biological clock starts ticking..." or "once those maternal instincts kick in..." These are generalizations and clearly don't apply to all women!
Say: "It's Possible, But Not Everyone Does."
Remember, your future is up to you. No one can tell you with certainty that you will change your mind. Maybe you will, maybe you won't. That is up to you and you alone.
2. If Someone Says: "Good Luck Finding A Husband That Way"...
Because, you know, children and husbands are the only goals a woman should have in life.
Say: "I'd Rather Remain Single Than Live A Life I Don't Want."
A single life can be every bit as fulfilling as an attached one. Following your heart and your instincts is truly the only way to live.
3. If Someone Says: "It's Selfish Not To Have Children"...
Just because you don't have children doesn't mean you can't live a life that involves selflessly helping and caring for others.
Say: "It Would Be Selfish For Me To Have Them."
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If you have children when you truly don't want them, you will be hurting them in the end. It isn't fair for a child to be born to a mother who never wanted to be a parent. It creates a cycle of resentment and pain. Opting out of kids can be a selfless act!
4. If Someone Says: "Life Is Less Fulfilling Without Kids"...
Maybe it is, maybe it isn't.
Say: "Well, I Don't Know What I'm Missing, So No Harm Done."
Just because other people have done it and are perfectly happy doesn't mean you can't be perfectly happy without kids. Fear of missing out should never be your reason for having children. In all likelihood, you can find fulfillment in a career or a partnership. Kids are not the only way to live a full life.
5. If Someone Says: "But Isn't Reproduction A Basic Biological Drive?"
Such a silly, gross, misrepresentation of evolution. The desire to reproduce is hardly at the center of everyone's thoughts and actions.
Say: "Not For Me."
While there are lots of people who feel that innate drive to have children, it does not happen in everyone. We all know at least one person who doesn't even like children. There is nothing wrong with being honest about your inclinations or lack thereof.
No two people are alike and just because some people have an interest in reproducing, it doesn't mean everyone does. Those that don't should be just as free to go about their lives as those that do.
Have you faced unfair criticism for not wanting children? What are your favourite comebacks?
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