Whenever a celebrity marriage ends, the dirty laundry gets aired. Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are no exception.
Sources close to Garner are telling the world that Affleck's drinking, gambling and infidelities have lead to the divorce. This behaviour has reportedly gone on for years and yet Garner stayed -- for the sake of the children. She's been called a good mother. It has been said that Affleck would confess his infidelities and beg forgiveness. She would do it -- presumably for the sake of the kids -- only to have it happen again.
But sources close to Affleck paint a slightly different picture. They say he was a dedicated family man and that there is no evidence he's been unfaithful. Furthermore, he's been spending time in Atlanta, where his children are (Garner is filming there) even after the split. Not a dedicated dad? People on Ben's side of the story say that he never felt "perfect" enough for Garner and that he lived in an 'extremely controlling environment.' Why does no one think that factored in the split?
There are two sides to each story. And yet, we are so quick to pick one. And often -- we side with the female. Numerous articles are in circulation at the moment looking at Jennifer giving up a career to raise her children while Ben hopped all over the place, filming, partying and sleeping around. But is that actually true?
We fall so naturally into this viewing the women in divorces as martyrs (unless there is ridiculous strong evidence to the contrary) while we vilify the men.
It makes no sense to me. There are, more often than not, a variety of reasons that go into ending a 10 year marriage like this one. But our media, and all its commentators, are only considering one reason. One reason that currently exists without evidence. Is it just more palatable for us to believe that he did wrong and she got strong?
I'm not asking these questions as a way of taking sides. I don't know what happened (and neither do you -- really) but I can't believe these are healthy attitudes. This idea paints men as villains and women as victims turned heroes. How often are those roles accurate? Less often than we imagine, I'm sure. Is it because we live in glass houses and sometimes it feels good to step outside and throw stones?
Why do we even do this? I'm baffled. Share your thoughts with us and maybe we can get to the bottom of it!
Source: Daily Mail
Follow us on Instagram here:
(Get the full workout here)
[caption id="attachment_97991" align="alignnone" width="100"]