I recently read an article where burlesque superstar Dita Von Teese reveals her secrets to feeling sexy every day. Initially I didn't think much of it. Not because I have anything against her or her profession (I actually adore her), but I kind of thought
"Well yeah if people paid to see me look awesome in super-sexy lingerie all the time...I'd probably feel pretty good"And though the article did talk about having show-stoping underwear a bit...it touched on deeper topics I wasn't really expecting. It was about self image and confidence. And I fully agree. So here is my amended version of her list (which you can read here)
Find your one-stop beauty booster—like red lipstick.This was #1 on her list and it's staying that way on mine. She made an interesting point "I don’t leave the house without a swipe of red lipstick, but I don’t spend a lot of time getting ready either. I can get out the door in five minutes, and that red lipstick gives me the power to look polished."
To her, no matter what she's wearing or where she's going, that red lipstick "gives her power" - and I'm sure this is the same for many women. They may not realize it.
Your beauty booster may not be red lipstick, but there's that one thing that ALWAYS makes you feel confident and sexy when you walk out the door.
For me, it's black-on-black-on-black. It's not that I'm unimaginative (or gothic), I just LOVE the way a fully-black outfit looks. It's sleek and simple - yet very commanding.
Pick a sexy uniformSo when I first saw this on her list, I thought it was going to be some sexy-school girl ploy. But it's actually more about knowing what style makes you FEEL the best. You should absolutely play around with different styles, patterns, colours and fabrics - but take some time to realize what style makes you feel best. If you go into an important meeting and you're trying something out for the first time that you're not 100% sure of- say a brightly coloured blouse when you're used to wearing neutrals - you're going to feel uncomfortable. And that's going to show. Knowing what you feel comfortable and confident in isn't boring or safe, it's knowing yourself! If you know that you love the look of heels, but always get worried about falling over or tripping. F*ck it, wear flats to the meeting. So what if you're shorter - you'll speak with confidence and you'll speak like YOURSELF because you FEEL like yourself. Save those new heels for date night!
Dita's description of her uniform made me realize that my uniform and yours is probably reflective of your personality
“I have a distinctive aesthetic of what I think is sexy, and I have kind of a uniform. It’s usually something that shows a little bit of cleavage and possibly has long sleeves. I like to wear long, black, leather upper glove and black long-seamed stocking. I like to have my hemline just below the knee, and I like a perfect Louboutin pump.”
Obviously this is a bit exaggerated of a circumstance, but her choice of words makes it clear. She knows what SHE finds sexy and appealing and she feels best when she embodies that. She notes it's subjective and even though her definition if sexy IS a bit sexual - it doesn't have to be.