My high school biology teacher first drew my attention to this phenomenon. He told us that the next time we walk down the halls have a look. It isn't a hard and fast rule but it seems that pretty women, date ugly fellas. He never offered an explanation and perhaps he was just trying to give hope the less attractive dudes among us but it certainly set us all thinking. But what could be behind it?
We all want different things from relationships.
Relationship and sex expert Dr. Logan Levkoff says this scenario isn't as simple as it might seem. "I think that we tend to find men who are interesting, talented and charismatic more engaging than someone who is completely handsome but with no substance beneath him." It appears that women don't put as much stock in the way a man looks. Women look for emotional fluency. We look for communication. Looks take a back seat.
Society defines beautiful, anyway.
Everywhere we look, we are told what is beautiful. Turn on the television, read a magazine. Be thinner, ladies. Fellas, build more muscle. It's constant. I don't want to offend anyone out there, but the pressure on women is pretty relentless. We are told, almost non stop how we can look better. If we wear enough make up, if we wear tummy tucking underwear, push up bras, we'll be right. We'll look as we should. Men, although pressured, are not subjected to the same level of scrutiny. Perhaps these women we see are just working harder to look pretty. But outside of that, who is really defining what is beautiful? Perhaps that man you think is ugly is the most beautiful man she has ever seen. I know what we are told to think of as beautiful, but feeling something is beautiful is so much more complicated than that. The way someone moves, the way they carry themselves, how they speak can go a long way to your experience of beauty.
The next time you see a beautiful woman with a less attractive man, ask yourself this: What difference does it make to me? She may be looking at your beau the same way. And you know what? Nothing changes. You still think he's lovely. She still thinks he's lovely. Remember, eye of the beholder, folks.
h/t: Elite Daily