We all have that friend who jumps from new relationship to new relationship and within the first 24 hours they are undeniably 'in love'. A post goes up on their Facebook page saying how head over heels they have fallen, but by the third week mark their infatuation has turned into yet another break up.
We can sit idly by and judge them, dismissing their 'love' as nothing more than a compensation for loneliness. But are we wrong? Is there a set amount of time that needs to pass before we can feel love? And if it's not love, what are they feeling?
There is love, and there is attachment. They may sound very similar, but here is the breakdown of how love and attachment differ:
- Love is selfless, attachment is self-centred.
Love builds your world around the other person's. You develop a deep caring and compassion for them. Attachment is the need for having that person there for
you. You cling on to them because you can't sleep alone, and you post selfies with them to prove to others that you have a special someone.
2. Love is freeing, attachment is possessive.
Love comes with a strong understanding of commitment. You know that your partner loves you, and you love your partner. There is an intimate trust. Attachment breeds possessiveness, jealousy and constant texts asking "where are you??!?".
3. Love is timeless, attachment is timed.
Love has no deadlines, no schedules. Attachment is focused on time and counts the months you have been together vs. the memories you have shared. Attachment is what comes before you find that real, honest, life-changing love. So don't be discouraged if you happen to be the friend in your group who is always attached and never in love.
What are your thoughts? Do you agree or disagree with this concept?
Source:
Elite Daily
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