How Likely Are You To Date Out Of Your League?

If you've ever looked at a couple and thought one was far better looking than the other, you've probably wondered how they even managed to get together to begin with. There is a generally accepted theory that people of similar attractiveness will end up together. This means, on the 10 point scale of attractiveness, if you are an 8, you will date someone who is also around an 8. If you're a 5, your partner will be in that neighbourhood. Does this mean a 2 can never aspire to date a 10? A 2011 study attempted to get to the bottom of this dating riddle. They examined the theory while also attempting to discover how likely we are to date someone out of our league. First, they tested for dating preference. 200 participants filled out a questionnaire to asses their own mate value/self worth, their perception of their own levels of physical attractiveness as well as trustworthiness, likability, warmth and kindness suggesting that perhaps the study was intended to go a little deeper than surface looks. Using these assessments, participants filled out a dating profile like one they might use on an online site. Based on their appearance and their self assessments, researchers judged them to have high, medium or low levels of attractiveness. Finally, participants rated each profile to determine whether or not they would be interested in contacting the person. The participants that had a high self worth were more likely to contact people who were judged attractive by the researchers. Those with low self worth were just as interested in the attractive people but because of their feelings about themselves, they were more likely to actually contact someone who was judged to be less attractive. The study suggests:
"One reason higher-self-worth individuals might be more likely than lower-self-worth individuals to pursue highly desirable partners is because they are more optimistic about a successful outcome. Lower-self-worth participants were not especially optimistic about their chances of success with the low-desirability targets (perhaps they felt apathetic about being successful), but their greater willingness to contact them might reflect the fact that they recognize, somewhat begrudgingly, that low-desirability targets are closer to being ‘in their league.’"
The second part of the study tested patterns in actual dating behaviour. Researchers went to an online dating site and selected photos from 60 random males and 60 random females who they called 'initiators' and they had a look at the photos of the people to whom these initiators had reached out -- called 'targets.' The researchers found that initiators tended to contact targets who were more attractive. This is a little counter to the first part of the study but these attempts didn't necessarily result in a response from the target. It was found that responses were more likely when a less attractive initiator went after a less attractive target and a more attractive initiator went after an equally attractive target. If you play within the confines of your league, you're more likely to get a response. So, it appears the study has found what many of us already know to be true: stay in your league to find love. But I say break the rules a little. Aim higher. Worst case scenario, you get rejected. I like the results of the first part of the study about self worth. If you believe you're attractive and of value, you are automatically more interesting to a potential mate. Confidence is a beautiful thing. Try that on first, then swing for the fences. What's the worst that can happen? Besides, 'attractiveness' is more or less arbitrary anyway... What do you think? Are you likely to date out of your league? Is it actually possible? h/t: Elite Daily Follow us on Instagram here: (Get the full workout here) [caption id="attachment_98129" align="alignnone" width="100"]snapchat snapcode @BodyRockTV[/caption]

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