Love After A Marriage

What happens to love after vows are exchanged? Saying your final words "I do" in plans to live happily ever after.  Why have very few couples been able to keep the magic alive after the big day?  I don't have the answers believe me nor tend to be the relationship guru.  Many of you have seen me go through multiple relationships since coming onto BodyRock. Commiting to one person for the rest of your life has enormous responsibilty and expectations. What does the term marriage mean to me? Having my best friend at my side for the rest of my life.  This deep friendship is routed through having mutual respect. Having someone to share life's trivial day to day happenings, both good and bad. Knowing that there is someone that loves me, unconditionally. Relationships are hard - that's an understatement.  Just like anything else they take a lot of work.  If your relationship is going well before the ceremony then it should after.  I get it not every plan works out.  We don’t always have control over things that happen in life, but one thing we can control is our choices.   We have decision making power in everything, or are given freedom within certain perimeters. I beleive everything happens for a reason so take ownership and responsibilty for your actions.  Love is a choice. Some things I have learned along the way is to make make small gestures, and make them often. Being supportive, and being nice.  For every one negative thing you do, there must be five positive things that balance it out. Kind words and the little things can be a "emotional deposit" and encourage a positive relationship. It demonstrates awareness of your partner. If you want success in your relationships, it’s the little things that really become the big things. Do you ask about their day? Do you show enough signs of affection? Do you tell people in your relationships that you appreciate them? Do you make time for eachother?   Do you celebrate your success with those people that are close to you? I believe a healthy relationship is made up of two mentally strong people. They each lead independent lives and have the desire and ability share their lives as well.  Marriage is a partnership. Knowing you can count on the other person is a relief in itself.   This in itself brings confidence and builds a foundation of trust. If you have something special and you have decided to walk down the isle to commit the rest of your life to someone cherish it.  Don't take it for granted - and be that same person you were before you say "I do." Best, Sean