April 14, 2014
Love and Conflict - 4 Steps to Textbook Damage Control (And Mind-Blowing Make-up Sex)
How fighting can strengthen your relationship – and love life. By: M. Hector Let’s face it. Being in a relationship is awesome. Especially when it involves having a lots of things in common, combined with earth-shattering chemistry in the bedroom. While these are absolutely key, they aren’t truly all it takes. Anyone in the dating game can agree that it’s only a matter of time before a fight will occur. It’s completely natural. In fact, it can make your relationship (and love life) better. Need proof? This article by M. Tarkovsky M.S. is a great read. 1) Chill. Scenario: It’s been a rough day for you both, and you’re in one of those fights. Hearts are racing, and words are about to let-fly. STOP. Breathe, and keep your head on! When things “get real”, it’s easy to say things we don’t mean. Take a walk, have a time-out and try again later. 2) Get to the Point What’s the real issue? Checking your inbox at dinner? She might feel tuned-out. Maybe the situation is reversed. Perhaps you want her more involved. Strong communication is the main ingredient. Speak your mind, and encourage her to do the same. 3) Two Words: “I understand.” Validate her feelings. Show her that you appreciate where she is coming from. Confirm to one another that you’re taking each other seriously. Get on the same wavelength. 4) Bow-Chicka-Wow-Wow! After a fight, the right endorphins and impulses of our bodies are spun-up and ready to fire. If the two of you have managed to tackle the issue as a team, you’ll be ready to perfect your physical communication skills in no time.