Mom-Shaming Is a Real Thing, and This Survey Pinpoints When and How It Occurs

Many moms can attest to the fact that, as they prepare to birth their child, plenty of opinions from outside sources seem to filter in regarding the well-being of their personal body and their growing baby. And while it's important to gain knowledge on the dos and don'ts, it's also, in many ways, extremely relative to the individual, making all of these urgent remarks feel entirely invasive. And when a woman tries to answer the questions regarding her approach and the source disagrees, it feels a whole lot like mom-shaming. This survey revealed when mom-shaming really starts. A new survey by Yahoo Parenting backs this idea up, claiming that mom-shaming does, in fact, begin to form even before the baby arrives. And unfortunately, it seems to just get worse from there. The survey, which included more than 1,000 American moms between the ages of 25 and 40 in August, found alarming results. "There’s so much judgment heaped on moms from others, and from themselves, it makes them ask, ‘Are we being good enough parents?’" asks Lauren Weinberg, Yahoo’s Vice President of Consumer Insights. The shaming started during pregnancy for nine percent of the participants, and from there it only proved worse. In fact, 32 percent of moms noted feeling shaming for their choice of parenting practices when their kid was between the ages of three months and toddlerhood. The number of women who felt judged was greater as well, with 90 percent of white moms, 87 percent of Hispanic moms, 81 percent of Asian moms, and 76 percent of African American moms claiming that it went beyond just shaming. Of the hot topics were concerns like how to feed the baby, how to discipline (like spanking), and whether or not to be a stay-at-home mom or go back to work. And almost half the women surveyed said they felt like their child's public behaviour caused a lot of judgement. "Out in public, when my child acts up, most people stare and even comment on how I discipline the child without even knowing the problem," one mom who participated in the survey shared. This survey revealed when mom-shaming really starts. Perhaps the most surprising part is that 91 percent of those surveyed said that they believe they are also part of the problem, as they too judge other parents. "People who criticize or examine others usually do it when they’re not 100 percent about what they’re doing, or if they feel powerless. It’s a bit of a control maneuver to try and feel better about yourself," said psychotherapist Andrea Nair. She suggests asking yourself, "What can I do to be more confident as a parent about this?" What do you think of these findings? Source: Bustle Do you follow us on Instagram? [caption id="attachment_112398" align="alignnone" width="100"]snapchat code @BodyRockTV[/caption]

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