It is the unfortunate reality that people 'settle' in their relationships all the time. And it isn't usually for positive reasons. It might be because someone doesn't have the courage to call it quits. It might be because they feel like they're running out of time, or they don't know what they really want in a partner and don't know they are making a mistake. It could be because they don't think very highly of themselves.
None of these are good reasons. Settling is only inviting misery. But what if you aren't the one doing the settling? What if your partner feels that being with you is settling? If you don't mind my saying, that sounds like a really sh*tty place to be.
You deserve someone who understands how incredible you are.
If you don't know you are incredible, this is something you will have to work on first. If you don't know how to appreciate yourself, it is almost a certainty that you will have people in your life who don't know how to appreciate you either. We like to surround ourselves with people who affirm the things we believe, even if those things are self harming.
We aren't perfect, no one is, but we all have to love ourselves. This may be harder for some than for others. It is a lot of work, but doable. Start by putting the effort into yourself and then love yourself for making that effort!
If you can't appreciate all the things that make you wonderful, you aren't ready for a relationship. If your partner doesn't appreciate you, you need a new partner.
The relationship history doesn't matter. If your partner can't appreciate you now, appreciate who you are in this moment -- self improvement efforts and all, are they really worthy of being in your life?
You don’t need to settle, and you definitely don’t need to be settled on.
This is the worst. You know your partner isn't going to be able to give you the life you want. You know s/he won't be able to love you the way you deserve. You know you will never be happy but you stay anyway.
Being alone is not fun, believe me, I know. But when you think about it, no company is better than bad company. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who can't make you happy?
You don’t need perfect, you need perfect for you.
Do not allow yourself to settle in life. Don't choose a lesser life for the sake of comfort.
Choosing not to settle is uncomfortable. We like to take the path of least resistance whenever possible and settling means less work. Unless someone can show you and work with you towards a better reality for you both, don't be in that relationship.
You will never be able to find a perfect person but you can find the perfect one for you.
Settling ruins things for you both. If you have children, you are causing troubles there too. Settling leads to unhappy marriages, unhappy marriages lead to divorce. Disruption at home is hard on children.
You owe it to yourself to have the life of your dreams. It is scary to be alone or to leave the relative comfort of being in a relationship but if you aren't going to be happy, you must.
Give yourself an honest chance at real happiness.
h/t: Elite Daily