People have been fighting for society to see public breastfeeding as acceptable for quite some time now. Every story is inspiring, and every mother who chooses to stand up is empowering. Ashley Kaidel is one of them.
The 24-year-old mother-of-two was met with dirty looks in a restaurant due to her decision to breastfeed in public, but she just wasn't having it, taking to Facebook to share her story and encourage other mothers to do the same.
On November 24, the mother didn't back down when another diner shot her unkind glares while she fed her son. Ashley, who describes herself as a "bad*** breastfeeding (uncovered) mama," is a Florida resident whose Facebook post proves she's not about to let the haters win.
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She wrote on Facebook, "In the picture, it appears I'm staring off into the distance. In reality, I'm staring into the eyes of a woman staring at me. She is looking at me with disgust and shaking her head with judgement in an attempt to shame me and indirectly tell me without words that I am wrong and need to cover myself."
Ashley didn't feel like what she was doing was wrong, so she chose to share her feelings on the situation. "You should not ever feel shamed, belittled, embarrassed, or wrong for feeding your baby the way nature intended," she wrote. "If a mother is more comfortable covering herself because SHE feels better doing so, then I totally support that."
Ashley also notes that the US government also backs that choice, with 49 states, Washington, D.C. and the US Virgin Islands all allowing women to breastfeed in public, while Idaho, who doesn't forbid it, doesn't outright protect it.
Yet, regardless of the fact that public breastfeeding is, by law, legal, it doesn't stop people from meeting those who decide to do it with harsh looks. "Breasts were made to sustain your baby's life before they were made to bring pleasure to any other man, woman, partner, or spouse," she said. "There is nothing weird about this and there's no difference in me feeding my baby with my breast than you feeding yourself with a spoon."
She also thinks it's a great way to show children how babies are fed. "Your 11-year old-daughter watching me nurse may say 'Mom, why is that baby sucking her boobie?' Your reply should only and always be 'because that's the way babies eat.' Hopefully it encourages your daughter to grow up with the goal to breastfeed and experience the incredible bond and invaluable benefits it comes with."
Ashley also notes that those who should really feel ashamed are the ones doing the shaming, saying that it's "unfair and selfish to ask a mother and baby to exclude themselves from a table or event or gathering because you're, for some reason, uncomfortable with how she feeds her child. No person should be isolated and shunned because they're eating, especially when you yourself are eating while ridiculing how someone else is eating. Is it not certainly easier to avert your eyes from a displeasing sight rather than suggest or demand a mother and child remove themselves from your presence? How pompous and selfish is this? Just look away. It's simple to do so. No harm done at all."
Ashley hopes that by sharing her outlook on a social media platform that she encourages other women to do as they please when it comes to this subject. She believes they shouldn't feel "alienated, ridiculed, and judged." Her post has been well-received, having been liked over 377,000 times, with a range of supportive comments constantly coming in.
"If you are offended by something natural in a public setting, get over yourself. You are part of the problem with today's society," one man wrote.
"I don't get why anyone would be offended by this. I see women and girls alike walking around with their boobs and butt cheeks hanging out in the summertime. I guess it's only OK if you're using your body for the purpose of attention," added another woman.
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