Whether you agree with "What's Your Excuse" Mom or not...the body that she's proudly displaying is completely achievable if you follow a strict diet and exercise regimen. Which for a lot of moms and dads turns out to not be so achievable. So her picture became something of another mom shaming other moms for not snapping back into shape after having babies. As if that's the message we should be sending to new moms, "Don't concentrate on your kids, concentrate on showing the world that you aren't lazy and that your pregnancy didn't even happen."
One Australian mom of three, Taryn Brumfitt, sparked a different kind of conversation this year when she posted her rather unique before and after photos in which she admitted that, 'having the perfect body isn't all it's cracked up to be.' She went on to write, 'Here is my non-traditional before and after photo…I just wanted to share with you that I loved my body on the stage, prancing around in a bikini as much as I loved my body sitting butt [naked] in my girlfriend’s studio. Our bodies will go through many changes in our life. Our bodies change through aging, pregnancy, illness, weight loss, weight gain, the list goes on. One thing we must learn to do is love our bodies, before, during and after…'
Taryn said that to maintain the body in her before photo she felt like a selfish mother who spent more time obsessing over diet and exercise rather than spending time with her kids. But becoming comfortable with her post pregnancy figure is something that took her years to achieve. She went through long periods of self loathing which she hid from her husband and came to a culminating point after the birth of her third child when she contemplated having a breast lift and implants and a tummy tuck tallying $12,000. What dissuaded her was that she came to realize that she would never be able to teach her daughter how to love her body unconditionally if she, as a mother, couldn't do the same.
Now she focuses on eating a balanced diet and exercising a few times a week. At 145lbs she is a healthy weight for her five-foot-five-inch height. 'The irony is I think I’m healthier now than I was when I was in the competition,' she says. 'Health encompasses your mental health too and I think people forget that.' Taryn said that she was inspired to post her before and after photos after listening to friends saying they were struggling to love themselves after putting on weight. 'I wanted to show them you shouldn’t have to wait until your body is in "perfect condition" to love it.