0

Your Cart is Empty

Processing the Experience of Getting 'Ghosted'

September 24, 2015 5 min read

Being 'ghosted' is like getting your heart ripped out and stomped on. Well, maybe that's an exaggeration. The truth is, having anyone just up and be done with you out of what feels like no where hurts. Maybe you weren't even totally into them, but the rejection feels like failure and stings nonetheless. And as for the ones you hoped would stick around? That definitely takes its toll. Everything seems to be going well, when suddenly it's not and you're left scratching your head and picking up the pieces of your reckless emotions. Here is one woman's journey of getting ghosted and the toll it took on her.
  1. The first datebab48880-3bb5-0133-5b74-0aecee5a8273
"Let's just say my internet dates tend not to be the best, so I'm trying to manage my expectations for this one. It's also a Wednesday, so I'm fairly turned down." 2. ...and he's cool! ghosted "Whatttt. I walk into the bar and spot him immediately: he looks like his pictures but like, more charming. Think 'crooked smile, thick plastic glasses frames, sparkling eyes' charming. We joke about the pretentious names of things on the food menu and I note a nice laugh. He tells me about his recent move here from the Midwest and how he thinks New York can be a little lonely. Is it possible for a guy on Tinder to both be hot and also intensely normal? This is the best Wednesday of my life." 3. His hand is on my knee. baa82600-3bb5-0133-8e85-0e17bac22e39 "Feels totally natural. I'm getting a little tipsy, and when there's a brief silence, we lock eyes, and he leans in. I don't usually kiss on a first date, but it feels so... easy. Our lips meet." 4. We're that couple. baa07e50-3bb5-0133-0a1f-0e76e5725d9d "I'm embarrassed that I'm letting it happen, but utter and unabashed making out in public at 7:30 p.m. is in progress. He's an amazing kisser, and his hands are everywhere, IS THIS REAL LIFE? He smells like masculine honey dew melon and I am WITH that." 5. He's asking me to go home with him. ghosted "'Let's go back to my place' he whispers, grabbing my ass, and I am definitely in uncharted territory. Is this moving fast because it's a miracle of chemistry or he does this all the time? I can't tell, but I kind of don't care though. He smells so, so good. And he's totally trustworthy because of the glasses." 6. I'm considering it. ghosted "He's literally tugging on the hem of my shirt with a sly smile. Maybe I can call in sick tomorrow..." 7. But that's just not me. ghosted "OK, OK, OK, I definitely can't do this. I tell him I can't tonight, but I absolutely want to see him again and continue smashing our faces together at some point in the future." 8. Then there's more making out. ghosted "OK maybe I'm letting him down TOO easy, but we stop to makeout virtually twice per block as he walks me to the subway, and we somehow incorporate some scaffolding at one point. Not my classiest moment, but so, so worth it." 9. Feeling confident going home. ghosted "Time for goodbyes. I'm cotton mouthed and just starting to sober up. We're both out of the town this weekend, so he suggests we meet up Monday after work. One last kiss." 10. Encouraging text Re: Plans on Monday. ghosted "Yup, he texts ON THE WAY HOME about a date on Monday. The message pops up with a winky face when I'm walking out of my subway station in Brooklyn. We'll decide later when to meet up after work that day, he says, and I believe him. Yay!" 11. Text on Monday to see what the deal is. ghosted "So, it's 4 p.m.ish on Monday and I'm in the sexiest outfit I can feasibly get away with at work. It's a little weird that I didn't hear from him over the weekend, but I figure he was playing it cool. I give in and text first. 'We still on for tonight?' *WINKY FACES*" 12. He can't make it. d3752ac0-1b8d-0133-50e0-0ec273752cbd "He texts back a vague excuse. Oh, OK. Like... OK. I'm disappointed that he won't see my hot dress, but figure we can always reschedule." 13. We make plans for Friday. ghosted "That makeout session is still fresh in my mind and clouding my judgement. I don't see any warning signs here just yet because I'm too sprung on how great the date was, how attractive and charming he was, how utterly into me he had seemed." 14. Slowly realize over several days that I'm never going to hear from him again. ghosted "My last unanswered text ('Free Friday?') is ticking minutes, hours, and finally days since I've heard from him. Is this... it can't be." 15. Grieve. ghosted "It totally is, I'm being ghosted. Am I being dramatic? It's legitimately devastating to lose all contact with someone you were super excited to bone. I have never met a man who smelled like a sexy melon with a note of wood chips before and now I have to accept that I might never do so again. And his glasses game was so strong. And he hated the word 'artisinal.' God, why." 16. Try not to text ghosted "Has anything ever been this hard? I want to ask if I did something wrong, if his phone broke, if he has a girlfriend, if he was just really drunk. So many questions, and I know even if I ask them I won't get the truth." 17. Text, but wish I hadn't ghosted "'Hey.' Like, how many times must I submit myself to rejection. The unanswered messages are just sitting there." 18. Want to throw myself at him ghosted "SEXY PICTURES WILL SURELY GET ME A TEXT BACK, RIGHT? Genius. (Don't worry, I didn't. But I almost did and that's bad enough). I delete his number in my contacts to reduce temptation." 19. Want to make him feel bad ghosted "'Whatever, you're not that hot anyway' is such a white-male-on-OKCupid thing to say but I have the urge to say something hurtful. Too bad I can't come up with anything because he was basically perfect." 20. Grieve again ghosted "Teensy bit more grieving? Don't mind if I do. The worst part is I haven't really told anyone about this because I'm ashamed that I sucked face a stranger and then expected him to talk to me after. I want my friends to think I'm not as naive as that, so I'm suffering in silence." 21. Still grieving ghosted "Gotta get it all out. I finally delete all traces of his number in my phone (his number with the midwestern area code was still in my missed call log), and officially abandon all hope." 22. Accept it ghosted "FIIIINE. This sucks and I don't know why it happened, but it's time to cut the losses and stop expending energy wondering if I stumbled into some bad lighting or my hair went flat. Or if he was gay. Still definitely want to know why he did this though. E, if you're out there, wtf?" 23. Find stuff that was wrong with him. ghosted "His smile was crooked, after all. Let's just for all practical purposes consider that 'busted.'" 24. Move on... ghosted "Eh, it's tough out here, but these things are character building." Have you ever been ghosted? Source: Bustle Do you follow us on Instagram? [caption id="attachment_110461" align="alignnone" width="100"]snapchat code @BodyRockTV[/caption]

Leave a comment


Also in BodyRock Store Blog

Image of Bodyrock blog article - What Happens To Your Butt When You Sit All Day?
What Happens To Your Butt When You Sit All Day?

July 14, 2019 3 min read 28 Comments

Do you think your booty looks a little flat? This might be why!
Read More
Image of Bodyrock blog article - 12 Ways To Make Your Belly Flatter By The End Of The Day
12 Ways To Make Your Belly Flatter By The End Of The Day

July 08, 2017 4 min read

Read More
Image of Bodyrock blog article - 7 Ways To Stop Binge Eating In It's Tracks
7 Ways To Stop Binge Eating In It's Tracks

June 22, 2017 2 min read

Do you ever find yourself knuckle-deep in a bag of Cheetos?
Read More
Shipping & Delivery

Due to COVID-19, shipping systems the world over are experiencing abnormal delays. There is an enormous demand on postal and delivery services as online shopping has skyrocketed, due to store closures and stay-at-home mandates. This is an unprecedented situation, and we are working around the clock to fulfill your orders as quickly as possible. To be clear, we are filling orders in 2-3 days, and we are shipping immediately after that. Once shipped, our shipping partner, UPS, will get your order out to you as quickly as possible. Thanks for your support and understanding.

Are you in Canada? Specifically, are you outside of a metropolitan centre? We need to alert you to a disruption in shipping due to COVID-19. Our preferred shipping provider, UPS, has informed us that they cannot guarantee express shipping for many locations. We have also seen that packages delivered to Toronto, Ottawa, Vancouver, etc, are not waylaid, but packages delivered to areas just outside of these cities are being held in transit for days or even weeks. UPS has discontinued their guarantee of 1-4 day delivery, which you can read more about here. Therefore, we can guarantee early fulfillment but not early delivery of our goods from our warehouse to your door at this time.

 

We want you to start your fitness journey with us as quickly as possible, that’s why we send every package to the USA & Canada via expedited or standard shipping with our partners at UPS. Once your order is received and processed, it typically takes 2-4 days to get to you once it leaves our warehouse. That’s our commitment and we stand by it.

We ship within Canada and the United States via UPS with Standard & Expedited shipping (whichever is faster)

For locations outside of the US and Canada, we ship using FedEx International (EUROPE and Other Nations), which is usually in transit for 7-10 business days, depending on location.

We ship all of our physical products with UPS, from our warehouse location in Kingston, Ontario, Canada. Delays caused due to custom withholds are not included in these estimated delivery times.

Returns & Exchanges

BodyRock Equipment

We offer a 30-day return policy, as long as: it is not more than 30 days past the date of delivery; and your item is in its original condition and packaging with the original order number. Refunds will be issued when the equipment is received back to the BodyRock warehouse, minus the original cost of shipping, and the customer is responsible for the costs of return shipping. To request a refund on physical product purchases, please contact us.

Digital Products

We cannot issue refunds on digital goods such as e-books or videos, as these are non-tangible goods that are irrevocable once the order is placed.

Clothing

All of the BodyRock clothing is made to order and so is final sale. If you have any questions about sizing prior to placing your order, please contact us.