The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. The gift of life is yours. It’s an amazing journey, and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.” -Dan Zadra We must own our life and take full responsibility for all that it is…. the quality or lack of it. Many of us wait for our Hero, Knight in shining Armour, or Prince to come to our rescue. But if you are like me you maybe still waiting for them or think he / she got hit by or bus or took a wrong turn…. The reality is that we must become our own hero’s and must realize we have the magic power at the touch of our finger tips to save ourselves and create our best lives by taking responsibility of our life quality into our hands. We are the ones who are making the decisions in our lives. We are the ones who are in charge of our thoughts, words and actions. But most importantly we are the ones with the largest investments in our overall happiness, health and well-being. You are right if you are thinking that there are external factors that impact our life like our bosses, significant others, parents or anyone else and circumstances in our lives. However the reality is unless we choose to give them that power, they really have no power over us. As Mark Twain said…”The world owes you nothing. It was here first.” Now this is hard thing to hear, I know.... believe me I have been a complaining chump and excuse making monkey and would not do anything unless I saw an easy way. However I soon began to realize that the easy way might be easy at the beginning but in the long term it becomes the hard way. You have two choices take the easy way now and the hard way later. Or do the work now and enjoy the seeds you sow later. I.e. if you decide to always eat junk food and never do any exercise, later on there is a high chance you could have health problems and this once easy road becomes the road of challenges you now must jump, hop, skip, leap and crawl to go along. When you become your own hero you have your power in your hands and therefore have full responsibility to pilot your life in any direction you wish to go. If you are going to become your own hero you must realise that excuses, blaming others, your circumstances etc. for the quality of your life is just like holding onto kryptonite, it makes you weaker…. Now if you do not like wearing your underwear on the outside of your pants like me good news…..Real Heroes can wear their underwear on the inside. Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.” -Mandy Hale I am 30 years old and I remember telling my brother at 25 years old after my first marriage ended and a personal challenge so great had happen I feel like I am going through a ¼ life crisis. Not only had my marriage broken down, I had no money, no job, my business had failed and I was living back in my old bedroom at my mom and dads….. I remember two things said to me….firstly my father said to me…’do not wait for the storm to pass, dance in the rain’…, which is now my favorite quote. And secondly my brother said great news now you do not have to worry about a midlife crisis…... I had been through hell. I basically was back to where my life began before I stepped into the big wide world. However one thing still remained the ability to smile and recreate a new life and new opportunities. It is all about how you handle the situation. It was not easy. To be honest it was the hardest decision of my life. I chose to love myself enough to find the strength within. This choice is there in all of us, I promise. I believe that we are never handed more than we can handle. We were given this life, because we are strong enough to live it. Now 5 years on….. I have worked on a 6 star cruise ship as a personal trainer, fitness instructor and health and wellbeing consultant. Trained professional golfers on the European circuit and travelled the world. I also met an amazing man and have a beautiful daughter who is 9 months old and I am currently living in Europe, which I always dreamed of doing. Anyone can create the life they dream of the moment they decide that no one has the power over their happiness, their well-being, or their best lives except for them. No more giving our power away to excuses and blaming others. No more waiting for the world to give us what we’re owed. No more waiting for Superman, Prince Charming, Knight in shining armour…... From now on, if we ever need to be saved, we only need to remember this simple truth: The only hero that you’ll ever need is already here.