There are many factors that cause a relationship to end. This can be a very difficult time for both you and your ex, but understanding what went wrong can offer help when it comes to healing. A combination of these 8 things could be to blame for your 'falling out of love' so to speak.
#1 Things Got Too Hot, Too Fast
If you fell instantly into a hot, fiery love affair than those flames are likely to burn out fast. A solid relationship needs time to develop as you learn more about each other. Maybe you got intimate too quickly, or moved in together rather hastily. Pacing yourself is key to a healthy companionship.
#2 You Convinced Yourself An "Ok" Relationship Was A Fairytale
It happens. Sometimes we convince yourselves and others that what isn't all that amazing is actually the ideal partnering. Embracing that every relationship has flaws, a little bit of fighting and some nights when you don't really want to be sleeping next to each other is totally fine.
#3 You Didn't Know Your Partner
Your partner may have put on a front for the first few months of the relationship but soon their claws came out. Perhaps they were secretly messy, angry or depressed. They brought you down behind closed doors but remained fake when out in public. It is a good thing you saw through their facade.
#4 Your Partner Had Baggage
Usually partners carry around the concepts that haunted them in past relationships. Without seeking counselling to heal from these experiences, they can carry their anger at someone else onto you. This is 100% not your fault and serves as an important lesson about tackling your issues.
#5 The Romance Died
If you get too comfortable too quickly, you can say goodbye to romantic dinners and candlelit bubble baths and hello to greasy pizza nights in your sweatpants. Getting lazy about romance is not okay. Even if it means you get dressed up and go dancing one night a week, or plan a camping trip getaway to sleep under the stars, the little things count.
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#6 Your Partner Lied
Maybe just once about something big (like an ex-wife you never knew about) or maybe all the time about small things. Whatever the case, lying is unacceptable in a committed relationship and should not be tolerated. If everything that came out of his mouth was a lie, or he hid a big, messy secret from you, it is good you are no longer together.
#7 Your Emotional Personalities Don't Match
You were at two ends of a very big spectrum. Maybe your partner was a hysterically uber-passionate maniac or a cold, unresponsive piece of stone. Everyone has a unique emotional personality and a limit to what they can take before hitting a breaking point.
#8 Your Partner Wanted Change You
If you felt like a "work in progress" for your partner, it is good things had to end. Sometimes people can enter a relationship like a more romantically-interested Sheldon Cooper and try to set out specific rules and guidelines for their partner to follow. This can become a nightmare to live with. You don't need to follow anyones rules to find love.
What are your thoughts? Have you ever been faced with these relationship issues?
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