The Difference Between Real Talk and Small Talk, and How They Affect a Couple's Happiness

Do you find that after a long day at work, you come home to talk to your partner about meaningful things or work? There's a big difference between the two. Work talk is what's easy and can be seen as small talk. But finding engaging material to discuss can enrich both your lives separately and together. And apparently, it can make you happy as well. A study in Psychological Science found that people are happier when they pick meaningful topics to discuss as opposed to small talk. Which begs the question as to what you're spending your time discussing with someone you love; someone you feel comfortable enough to open up to and discuss your inner fears, dreams and more. Spending time focusing on what's easy, like work, is a waste of your time. If you're worried that perhaps you've fallen down that small talk hole, take into consideration these topics, and prepare to get happier! 1. Embarrassing moments Share those endlessly awkward moments you experienced in middle school and high school with your partner. It's a great way to lightheartedly learn new things about each other. 2. Political viewpoints Be open-minded and listen to each other's perspectives. How do you feel about the upcoming election and why? This is a good way to gain some knowledge on each other's values as well. 3. Past relationships Make sure not to overshare, but doing this can serve as a means of learning what didn't work in each other's pasts, and how the two of you can use that information to flourish further. 4. Fears and insecurities What worries you in life? What do you want to improve on? What skeletons do you have in your closet? Being vulnerable is an important part of connecting with your partner. What other topics do you think could serve as meaningful? Source: Self Do you follow us on Instagram?