The Do's And Don'ts of Having A One Night Stand With Your Ex

You're not looking to get back together, but seeing him at the bar just sparked some steamy thoughts about your past s*x life. If you're going to make this risky move, it's good to have game plan. Here are the do's and don'ts of hooking up with an ex. hooking up with ex boyfriend Do 1 - Set Your Expectations Make sure that you and your ex know that this is purely s*xual. Outline these expectations before things get physical. Be honest with yourself about why you are doing this and make sure you're not secretly wanting to get back together with your old flame. It is important to think rationally or else do not continue. 2 - Be Safe “The fact is, unless he has a set of clean test results in front of him, this isn't about hurt feelings or ego, this is about health.” says Ramini Durvasula, relationship expert and clinical therapist. You don't want to sacrifice your health for this one night no matter how trusting you are with your ex. 3 - Remember Why You Broke Up Keep those emotions in mind when getting into this situation so it's easier to walk away afterwards. Remember the tears, the anger or just the realization that you two were not meant to be together. Do not let your feelings of lust cloud your judgement. [bctt tweet="The Do's And Don'ts of Having A One Night Stand With Your Ex"] Do Not  1 - Fall Into Old Patterns of Communication No number exchanges, no Facebook chatting, no profile picture liking. You broke up for a good reason and this does not change that reason. In fact, it might be wise to block him from social media prior to getting down to business. 2 - Bring Up The Past “Don't snap, don't cut him off, and don’t yell." says Durvasula. "But also don't engage it, and gently put it down.” If you can't get past these old memories or hurts no matter what you talk about, it is not a good idea to proceed with a hook up. 3 - Be Self-Deprecating Look like you're the one on top and don't show any signs of weaknesses. You are doing this for a physical release and not because you are feeling low about yourself. Own who you are and don't let yourself or your ex make you feel bad. 4 - Mention New Hook Ups "It’s tempting to let your ex know how wanted you are, but nobody wants to hear that when sex is on the table." says Durvasula. 5 - Want To Hear From Him After This “They will be more than happy to remind you of the issues from the first time.” says Durvasula.  “A breakup is hard enough. Replaying it a second time is like watching a bad movie twice." Doing this is not for everybody, but if you can both agree that it will be purely about hooking up and moving on, then it is a safe bet. Have you ever hooked up with an ex? What is your advice? Source: Women's Health [caption id="attachment_120393" align="alignleft" width="100"]@BodyRockTV @BodyRockTV[/caption] [caption id="attachment_120392" align="alignleft" width="100"]@BodyRockOfficial @BodyRockOfficial[/caption]

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