Many of us have experienced a few romantic relationships. But while we may often be desiring to find companionship, how do we know when the person we're with is "the one"?
There's an old saying that sums it up perfectly: "When you know, you just know."
Each time we fall in love, we are consumed with all the emotions it involves. And when things end, we're left to pick up the pieces of our heart, feeling as though we'll never love again — until we do, because life goes on. But with each time that we give our heart to someone, we feel a bit stronger and a bit smarter.
With all the relationships we go through, how are we supposed to "know when you know"? It seems like a lot of pressure to pick someone to be your person forever. The quick answer? You don't know, and you don't need to know.
What you should be more concerned with is that there is always life ahead of you, and when the decision to settle down hits, so be it. If you're single, don't hold yourself back from a great boyfriend simply because you're worried he won't make a great husband someday. Enjoy being with someone who will make your heart skip a beat, who will keep you on your toes, and who, of course, will love you back. Enjoy being with someone, not "The One."
Don't try to feel married 10 years before you're married.
Perhaps The One is out there, but for now, enjoy falling in love with your youthful energy to guide you, and your experiences and knowledge to guard your heart. Be the free-spirited girlfriend.
Let your relationship be the icing on the cake, but not the entire cake.
Make your current goals be about your passions. Don't focus on who you will be when you fall in love, or else you will have no idea what your true sense of self entails.
Grow with someone, and then enjoy growing apart from them.
Reach out your hand and let him sweep you off of your feet. He can expose you to new places and new experiences. And when it's over, don't look back and wonder what happened, and whether they were supposed to be in your life forever. Enjoy it for how it helped you to grow.
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Allow your heart to get broken one last time.
If you've fallen in love and then eventually moved on, then you have probably had your heart ripped from your chest and stomped on. But, in the midst of that pain, something was happening you didn't even realize until you had later healed. You were learning. You were growing.
Each time you deal with heartbreak, you discover more of what makes you you.
Have you been trying to figure out how you will find The One, or do you believe you are enjoying life in the present?
Source: Elite Daily
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