It was Talia Jane that got this whole conversation started. She was fired after writing a lengthy open letter to her boss, CEO of Yelp/Eat24 Jeremy Stoppelman, about her struggles to survive on her earned wages which she says worked out to be about $8/hour after taxes. People really got talking when Stefanie Williams penned her now viral response to Talia Jane.
In her letter, Williams pointed out what appeared to be Talia Jane's sense of entitlement and lack of work ethic. A millennial herself, Williams detailed her own experience of being let go from her first job out of college and taking the first one offered, as a hostess in a restaurant (which she found mortifying at times), and working her way up, in that same restaurant, to earning $50,000-$60,000 a year. At 26, she signed with United Talent Agency in L.A. and begin her career in television screenplay writing.
Of her experience she says:
"All of this was afforded to me not in the first month I was working at a restaurant, but after I put in the hours, made the sacrifices and sucked up my pride in order to make ends meet and figure out what I wanted to do and how to do it. I gave up holidays with my family in order to work extra shifts and make the good tips. I put up with people making rude comments, assuming I was just a wanna-be actress, assuming I didn’t go to college, all to make money. I lived with my mother, my first roommate, and then moved in with two others soon after because living in New York by yourself is a luxury, not an affordable option... I paid my dues. I did what I had to do in order to survive, with the help of my family. I was gracious and thankful and worked as hard as I could even if it was a job that sometimes made me question my worth. And I was successful because of that."
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In short, Williams struggled to get to where she wanted to go. No one handed her the "dream job," no one showed up and did the work for her. And this, is where her message applies to you.
You are not just entitled to a fit, hot looking, body.
It is easy to look at people with lean, fit, toned, muscular bodies and pass judgment. We say things like "it is just genetics," or "they've had work done" or "they've been doping." We complain about this "impossible" fitness ideal on social media while sitting on the sofa and having a Netflix marathon. We turn a blind eye to the fact that taking the stairs at the office 3 times a week and eating a salad for lunch whenever you remember is not nearly enough.
When we make these statements, and complain that we aren't experiencing the same results, we dismiss the work these people have done. We are looking at the six pack and the pert bottom and not seeing what went into it. We are not seeing the gritty, sweaty hours spent lifting heavy weights and crushing cardio. We are not seeing the missed social engagements or the sacrifices needed to be successful. Fit people didn't wake up one day and appear fit. They toiled, they failed, they got up and toiled some more. It is unfair to judge a final product without understanding the process.
The worst part about these statements is that they lead to lost hope. Why even try if the results you admire are the product of good genes or butt implants? Is giving up on yourself and living in the status quo really worth it? Sure, it is easier, but is it worth it?
As is the case with Talia Jane, your future is in your own hands. If you feel invisible in your life, if you aren't comfortable, if you want a change, you don't have to wait for some high and mighty fitness overlord to come and give you the secret to success. Those hard bodies you envy, don't really possess any information that is unavailable to you -- and even if they did, giving you the information wouldn't make any difference if you are not putting in the effort. All you have to do is try. Don't be afraid to look undignified. If there is something you don't understand at the gym, ask. The only thing it can hurt is your pride, and quite frankly, that will heal pretty quickly once you start seeing results.
There are no obstacles you can't overcome. Not being able to afford a gym membership is not a good excuse. If what you want is a fit body, don't let money stop you. At BodyRock, we believe that everyone should have access to the knowledge and resources they need to build their bodies the way they desire. If you need help getting started with a fitness program, we've got what you need. The BodyRock Beginner Bootcamp (or Intermediate Bootcamp if you need something a little more advanced) will give you a brand new, real time, workout every day for 30 days absolutely free. 10-12 minutes a day is all it takes to start building your dream body. The workouts are delivered to your inbox so all you have to do is open the email and follow along. Changing your lifestyle isn't easy -- nothing worth having ever is, but you can do it. Make the commitment to yourself and then do the work. Our trainers will be there every step of the way, offering you all the support and guidance you need. You can sign up for the Beginner Bootcamp here or the Intermediate Bootcamp here.
Sometimes it feels like life would be so much easier if we could just instantly have all of the things we wanted. If we could only get that dream job straight out of school or that dream body after a few months at the gym, but things don't work that way and it sucks. We aren't saying that it doesn't suck. But you are the only person on the planet who can build the life, and body, you desire. Don't stand in your own way.
Source: Business Insider