When Men Cheat, Why Does Everyone Blame 'The Other Woman'?

It is common for society to villainize 'the other woman'. When a big scandal erupts in the media, the tabloids always turn on the accused adulterous woman and not the man who strayed away from his partner. cheating the other woman Why is it that our gut reaction is to turn the tables on the woman even though the man is to blame as well? There is a psychology behind this pattern of thinking that doesn't allow men to be the bad guys. As we delve further into research, we begin to understand why this occurs. Fact Number 1: The Excuse That Men Are Already Bad  We kind of give men a get-out-of-jail-free card when it comes to infidelity matters. Men can be forgiven for their mistakes, but women who participate in affairs suddenly become evil home wreckers. "There’s this assumption that men are dogs and women are the nice ones.” says Christine Hartman, Ph.D. and behaviour scientist. “When women do something bad, it’s easier to get mad at them because we think they’re acting outside their true nature.” Fact Number 2: An Anonymous Figure Is Easy To Hate  When the woman accused does not have a name, or a story, she is just an anonymous girl that we can craft into anyone we want. We can create the concept that she's conniving and the more we know about her the worst this concept becomes. She could be any face in the crowd and this makes it easier to lash out at her. “The other woman is an easy target—especially if you don’t know her, or she’s not your friend. Hating the person you love that wronged you, on the other hand, is confusing.” says Hartman. Fact Number 3: The Other Woman Can Be Labeled A Temptress  It's easy to automatically judge this unknown woman and assume she is a complete hoochie. She seduced a seemingly innocent married man and ruined his marriage by damaging his wife. We strip her of who she is with hurtful labels to avoid the emotions we can not deal with. “Rarely do guys cheat because their partner isn’t beautiful enough or the woman he cheated with is more beautiful—he’s usually acting out because he’s angry at his partner or hasn’t been getting his emotional or physical needs met." explains Brandy Engler, Ph.D. In order to properly heal, it is important to evaluate the entire situation and not put the blame solely on one person. If you have experienced infidelity in your relationship, speak with a counsellor to help express your emotions in a healthy way. What are your thoughts on cheating? Have you ever faced 'the other woman'? Source: Women's Health [caption id="attachment_123680" align="alignnone" width="100"]@BodyRockOfficial @BodyRockOfficial[/caption] [caption id="attachment_123681" align="alignnone" width="100"]snapchat code @BodyRockTV[/caption]

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