Sometimes, you have to figure out what you don't want before you can figure out what you do. We learn by doing, we learn by screwing up.
Love is no exception. Sometimes you need to date a terrible, horrible person to figure out what you want and deserve. Okay, so maybe the people you've dated aren't exactly terrible but they just weren't right for you. Again, you wouldn't have known they weren't right if you didn't experience it.
Perhaps you've spent countless nights lamenting the fact that you keep dating all the wrong people but we're here to offer you hope. Dating the wrong people might just be the best way to find the right person.
People don’t know what they’re looking for. But they know what they’re not looking for.
If you have a lengthy list of poorly matched relationships, you'll no doubt also have a list of things you're no longer willing to put up with! You can never tell at first blush whether or not someone is right for you. That takes time. But this list might just help you figure out sooner if someone is wrong
for you. Dating the wrong people teaches you about yourself.
Dating the wrong people teaches you who's right.
Even the wrong people have some good qualities. And those qualities are likely what kept you in the relationship. Don't ignore those qualities, don't toss them away with the relationship. Take note. Look for those qualities again and you may find them in someone who doesn't also have all the qualities that will make them WRONG for you.
Love requires practice.
Don't forget that just finding the right person isn't enough to make it work. We are all so preoccupied with finding the right person that sometimes we fail to consider that we might not be the right person for them. Are you the partner this love of your life deserves? Love, like life, isn't easy and there are many factors that can come into play.
The reality is, you may never find that special love. You cannot control these external factors. You cannot control who comes in and out of your life. The only thing you can
control is you. All you can do is be the best possible person you can so that when, and if you find that special someone, you can be the person you both need.
Date horrible people. Screw up. Make mistakes. Learn, grow, strive for the impossible. Do these things for you. With any luck, you'll find what your heart desires.
And know this one thing: you deserve a deep, lasting love and it starts with you.
Source: Elite Daily
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