May 01, 2015
Women Feel Horny At Totally Different Times Of The Day Than Men
If you and your guy are having sex less than you'd like, you might be out of sync. According to a survey conducted by sex toy company Lovehoney, the clock may be to blame for your disconnect. Men tend to be hornier in the morning while women are hornier at night.
The survey polled 2,300 adults and revealed that 70 percent of women say they've been with a partner whose sex drive misaligned with theirs and that timing was the biggest issue. Men reported they like to get the day off to a good start with a little sex between 6 a.m. and 9 a.m. while women preferred to end their day on a high note with sex between 11 p.m. and 2 a.m.
Clearly this isn't the most scientific survey so these results are a little dubious to say the least. Most people aren't really that focused on time of day when it comes to their sexual congress. The good news is, different schedules don't have to spell the end for your sex life according to Allison Hill, M.D., an ob-gyn at Good Samaritan Hospital in Los Angeles and co-author of The Mommy Docs' Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy and Birth. She also says that women are good at being flexible. A man's desire is direct while women can get in the mood in a greater variety of ways.
"The current thought is that female libido is very complicated, but most of it is psychological. And usually it doesn't have much to do with the woman's partner," Hill says. "Instead, it is more about how the woman feels about herself and her sexuality." Translation, the more confident and sexy a woman feels, the more likely it is she'll be open to having sex, regardless of what the clock says.
Losing the guilt over how much you do (or don't) want to have sex is a key component to having a great sex life says Stephanie Buehler, Ph.D, author of What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know about Sex. "A woman's desire can be psychological, relational, or physical (or a combination of all three), and can change depending on what's going on in her life at the time," she says, adding that saying 'no thank you' is more than okay.
Buehler notes that many women want that closeness with their partners and want to want to have more sex. In this instance, don't wait until you are in the perfect mood to get things rolling. "Women often don't feel desire until after they start foreplay with their partner," she says. "If that's the case, don't worry about it, just enjoy the way you feel." So go with it, even if it is first thing in the morning.
Have you and your partner been out of sync? What steps did you take to make it work?
The survey polled 2,300 adults and revealed that 70 percent of women say they've been with a partner whose sex drive misaligned with theirs and that timing was the biggest issue. Men reported they like to get the day off to a good start with a little sex between 6 a.m. and 9 a.m. while women preferred to end their day on a high note with sex between 11 p.m. and 2 a.m.
Clearly this isn't the most scientific survey so these results are a little dubious to say the least. Most people aren't really that focused on time of day when it comes to their sexual congress. The good news is, different schedules don't have to spell the end for your sex life according to Allison Hill, M.D., an ob-gyn at Good Samaritan Hospital in Los Angeles and co-author of The Mommy Docs' Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy and Birth. She also says that women are good at being flexible. A man's desire is direct while women can get in the mood in a greater variety of ways.
"The current thought is that female libido is very complicated, but most of it is psychological. And usually it doesn't have much to do with the woman's partner," Hill says. "Instead, it is more about how the woman feels about herself and her sexuality." Translation, the more confident and sexy a woman feels, the more likely it is she'll be open to having sex, regardless of what the clock says.
Losing the guilt over how much you do (or don't) want to have sex is a key component to having a great sex life says Stephanie Buehler, Ph.D, author of What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know about Sex. "A woman's desire can be psychological, relational, or physical (or a combination of all three), and can change depending on what's going on in her life at the time," she says, adding that saying 'no thank you' is more than okay.
Buehler notes that many women want that closeness with their partners and want to want to have more sex. In this instance, don't wait until you are in the perfect mood to get things rolling. "Women often don't feel desire until after they start foreplay with their partner," she says. "If that's the case, don't worry about it, just enjoy the way you feel." So go with it, even if it is first thing in the morning.
Have you and your partner been out of sync? What steps did you take to make it work?