December 08, 2015
Women Reveal Their Biggest Desires in the Bedroom
Despite how wonderful sex can truly be, people find it awkward to discuss. Many couples even avoid bringing it up altogether says Kristen Mark, Ph.D., a sex researcher at the University of Kentucky. One of the biggest downsides of this is not knowing exactly what makes your partner tick, and what totally turns them off, too.
But it shouldn't be that way, especially if you want to make way for earth-shattering experiences. Twenty women were polled to secretly reveal what they crave in bed. Here's the scoop on how you can take it to the next level in between the sheets.
Stop being so polite
Don't be too soft. Spank her, tie her up or pin her against the wall. Many of the privately polled women like it a little rough. “I want my husband to be more aggressive!” explains one wife. “I’m not talking whips, chains, and 50 Shades, but a little rougher and more domineering.”
Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist and sex therapist in Philadelphia and author of The Secrets of SexualEcstasy, notes that this may be a big desire because women are in control all day. “Letting go and not making the decisions can be a turn-on,” she notes.
The anticipation of the unknown makes it hot too. “Sex is about the rush, and when you have the same partner for a long time, the giddiness and nervousness fade,” Goldman explains. “It’s great to take risks and bring back the passion.”
Start slow at first to avoid scaring her, however. No one likes to go from zero to porn-style domination in mere seconds.
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Opt for the outdoors
“I love it when my boyfriend gets things started in places outside of the bedroom,” one woman admits. “Those are some of the times I’ve been most turned on.”
By making a move in an unexpected location, you are informing her that you're attracted to her, and not just craving sex in general Goldman notes. Also, being in public puts boundaries on the situation, therefore the tension builds for later.
Try kissing her in the kitchen, holding her tight at a party or giving her a preview of what you want to do to her later while you're in the elevator.
Don't try to make it a race to the finish line.
It's a well-known fact that women love foreplay, but apparently several of them also like pre-foreplay.
“I’d happily let my boyfriend kiss my neck, shoulders, and stomach for hours, but he's prone to moving to my lower erogenous zones within minutes,” explains one woman.
And another says, “Instead of being like an instant on/off switch, sex for me ideally involves some ‘pre-foreplay’ like cuddling to refocus, then lots of foreplay, then intercourse. I need more time to have an orgasm.”
While there's no set timeframe as to how much time you should take leading up to sex, just try to avoid making it the first thing you go for. Get comfortable with certain body parts you may not often pay attention to, like her neck, earlobes, shoulders and back notes Kerner.
Would you say you often find it uncomfortable to talk with your partner about sex? What other ways do you try to communicate what you want, or what they want in bed?
Source: Men's Health
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Stop being so polite
Don't be too soft. Spank her, tie her up or pin her against the wall. Many of the privately polled women like it a little rough. “I want my husband to be more aggressive!” explains one wife. “I’m not talking whips, chains, and 50 Shades, but a little rougher and more domineering.”
Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist and sex therapist in Philadelphia and author of The Secrets of SexualEcstasy, notes that this may be a big desire because women are in control all day. “Letting go and not making the decisions can be a turn-on,” she notes.
The anticipation of the unknown makes it hot too. “Sex is about the rush, and when you have the same partner for a long time, the giddiness and nervousness fade,” Goldman explains. “It’s great to take risks and bring back the passion.”
Start slow at first to avoid scaring her, however. No one likes to go from zero to porn-style domination in mere seconds.
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Opt for the outdoors
“I love it when my boyfriend gets things started in places outside of the bedroom,” one woman admits. “Those are some of the times I’ve been most turned on.”
By making a move in an unexpected location, you are informing her that you're attracted to her, and not just craving sex in general Goldman notes. Also, being in public puts boundaries on the situation, therefore the tension builds for later.
Try kissing her in the kitchen, holding her tight at a party or giving her a preview of what you want to do to her later while you're in the elevator.
Don't try to make it a race to the finish line.
It's a well-known fact that women love foreplay, but apparently several of them also like pre-foreplay.
“I’d happily let my boyfriend kiss my neck, shoulders, and stomach for hours, but he's prone to moving to my lower erogenous zones within minutes,” explains one woman.
And another says, “Instead of being like an instant on/off switch, sex for me ideally involves some ‘pre-foreplay’ like cuddling to refocus, then lots of foreplay, then intercourse. I need more time to have an orgasm.”
While there's no set timeframe as to how much time you should take leading up to sex, just try to avoid making it the first thing you go for. Get comfortable with certain body parts you may not often pay attention to, like her neck, earlobes, shoulders and back notes Kerner.
Would you say you often find it uncomfortable to talk with your partner about sex? What other ways do you try to communicate what you want, or what they want in bed?
Source: Men's Health
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